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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC Thread #3

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Daffodil21 · 15/08/2020 12:15

Continuing the previous thread:

TTC Thread #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3941503-ttc-thread-2

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BellaBella84 · 22/09/2020 16:54

@Daffodil21 then don't test at 30 days.

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Daffodil21 · 22/09/2020 16:02

@BellaBella84 30 days is too early for me. I'm going to test next saturday (CD35) then try and leave it a few days if no AF (it wouldn't be abnormal for no AF by then) I told myself I wouldn't test early this month, and although I didn't use OPKs this month I did have a bit of EWCM on CD17+18 so I'm sort of still tracking 🙈

I'm going to go 'out there' for a second... if regularity of dtd becomes a problem, could you consider at home insemination..? There's a thread on here somewhere about it, it all looked pretty successful (I was tempted to try it at one point!) I don't know if that would help him or not, but if might help you not to start to feel a bit of resentment (that's how I feel if dtd doesn't go to plan anyway 😂)

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BellaBella84 · 22/09/2020 15:51

@Daffodil21@Tofu35 I'm holding out hope for October though as my most likely fertile days are over a weekend!

BellaBella84 · 22/09/2020 15:47

@Daffodil21 Honestly 2-3 days a week I should be so lucky! 🤣 I would just test around day 30 if your cycle's irregular.

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Daffodil21 · 22/09/2020 15:22

@BellaBella84 ah I see. I've had symptoms then got a positive result before 6 weeks so I am very much a symptom spotter. I'm already working out when I can test - so much for taking a more relaxed approach this month 🙈 I haven't even tracked so I don't even know for sure. What a mess!

Could you try and dtd every 2-3 days throughout? Or is that worse for him?

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BellaBella84 · 22/09/2020 10:22

@Tofu35 Ha typical! 🙄 I've taken to sacking off the begining of the week for that exact same reason!

BellaBella84 · 22/09/2020 10:19

@Daffodil21 In all fairness I don't agonise over symptom spotting as I know I'm not likely to get anything meaningful before 6 weeks and OPKs just confirmed what I already knew. TWW is still another kind of hell where my house has never looked so clean though!

Although he gets in principle that there's only a few key days, he didn't want to read the SMEP booklet because he didn't want for us to get all obsessive over things. I personally think he'd have found it helpfull. And to be fair to him I know plenty of people whose lives become completely consumed by having a family. Don't get me wrong we really really want this, just trying to keep a foot somewhere near the "36 yr old ovaries" reality!

Tofu35 · 20/09/2020 22:05

@bellabella84 my other half declared today that at the start of fertile week he's "really excited, loads of sex!" but by the end (you know...the days that really count) he's tired and hoping the static smile arrives so he can be left alone for a bit! Charming 😂

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Daffodil21 · 20/09/2020 09:49

@BellaBella84 oh no! This is going to sound stupid, but does he actually understand how it works...?

We had a conversation ages ago on here about this, I think it was on the first thread. General consensus was that our OHs need to buck up and get on with it. They only have a small effort to play in this, while we agonise over symptom spotting, OPKs, the tww, when to test etc etc. All they need to do is hop on board a few times a week - it's really not that much to ask!! Have you spoken to him about it?

Generally my DH knows we have to just get on with it regularly, even if we cba. But there were times early on when he wasn't like that. I remember throwing my Ava at him saying 'this isn't going to get me pregnant you know! We actually have to have sex as well!' Like a crazy person 😂 so don't worry, you are not alone. But the issue does need dealing with x

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BellaBella84 · 20/09/2020 08:36

Ugh so another fertile week goes by where I struggled to convince my husband to have sex 😩 We managed it a whopping once. He still claims to be on board with having a kid though, just not sure if he's expecting a stork delivery 🤦‍♀️

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Daffodil21 · 19/09/2020 10:51

@CEW19 I'm not sure if it would have been picked up by specifically an acupuncturist, I think it was because she was an osteopath too? I'm not really sure tbh, but I enjoyed it anyway! I always knew there was something wrong with my lower back but I just thought it was age/poor posture. I did not expect her to say 'you know have scoliosis, right?' 😂 the reflexologist has previously asked if I had problems with my lower back and I just said well it does hurt sometimes 😂 I feel like it's all come together now! I'm absolutely not saying it's going to help me get pregnant, but I enjoyed so it was a nice thing to do anyway.

Twins would be amazing! That's the dream 😂 although one is proving hard enough!!

Has anyone had a listen to the BFN podcast? It's so funny! I've been listening to it while I work, which is sort of the opposite of trying to switch off from everything but honestly it's hilarious. It's probably designed for people who are having problems conceiving (🙋‍♀️), I have found it strangely comforting though! They have guest on every week and 'debunk' the myths with a fertility specialist every week too

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CEW19 · 18/09/2020 20:33

@Daffodil21 so interesting how it all works with the acupuncture! I’m going to wait and see what the test results say but would definitely be keen to try it out! DH is convinced we’ll have to go down the IVF route and end up with twins. He’s just said “I feel like it’s written in the stars” 😂 we’ve always said 2 kids, so in his head, it would be great to get two out in one! Trying to explain that it’s not that simple but he’s convinced now lol

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Daffodil21 · 18/09/2020 09:38

@CEW19 that's great! So glad it went ok! Oh nooo the worst part of the TWW!!

Acupuncture was amazing. She is also an osteopath and picked up problems with my back, pelvis and leg so she's working on that too. She said I have a rotated pelvis which probably isn't helping because it puts that area under stress, which isn't ideal for a fertilised egg to implant and stay there. The needle side of things were fine - I couldn't see any because my mask blocked the view thankfully! I'm going back in 2 weeks, even if it doesn't help fertility-wise I'm still going to keep seeing her. She mentioned about eating progesterone boosting foods to help too.

She struggled to get the needles into my back because it was really tight, so obviously I've just booked myself a lovely massage 😂 any excuse!!

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CEW19 · 18/09/2020 08:43

@Daffodil21 went well I think, ovaries look fine and had around 7 follicles on each which she said was good. will get the blood test results in around 10 days, then DH taking in his sample on the 5th. About a week into the TWW now too.

How was acupuncture?

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Daffodil21 · 18/09/2020 08:18

@CEW19 how did your appointment go?

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Daffodil21 · 16/09/2020 09:38

@CEW19 hope it all goes well for you today - let us know how you get on.

I'm actually feeling pretty good. I had a lovely weekend away with DH. Couldn't tell you where I am in my cycle 😂 not tracking is a massive relief! I've got a reflexology session tonight (dropped it down to once a month) and tomorrow I'm trying acupuncture!!! 😱

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CEW19 · 16/09/2020 08:45

Morning all. I'm a day or two post ovulation now, have ultrasound and blood test at fertility clinic this afternoon, so feeling more calm this cycle. How's everyone else?

Aokbaby · 16/09/2020 07:47

@BellaBella84 @Daffodil21 yea I was thinking that but I've had a feel and nothing there, also the blood definitely didnt come from that end. Could still be internal though🙈 thanks ladies I'll wait it out and see 🤞

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Daffodil21 · 16/09/2020 07:41

@Aokbaby could well be implantation bleeding, could just be one of those things. Or as @BellaBella84 says it could be piles?? I suppose time will tell! If it is implantation bleeding you'll find out soon enough, so try not to overthink it (ha, useless advice, I'm sorry!)

How is everyone else?

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BellaBella84 · 16/09/2020 06:27

@aokbaby Sorry if this is obvious or way off base, but could you have piles?

Aokbaby · 15/09/2020 23:08

@Tofu35 thanks for replying, it's strange isn't it!

Yea I know what you mean, you get a bit fed up with scheduled sex🙈

Tofu35 · 15/09/2020 23:02

@Aokbaby ooh that is a mystery, can't be of any help but I don't think you need to apologise for any TMIs here!

According to my app, I'm halfway through the fertile week although still not got the flashing or static smile yet, so in the "no pressure sex" part of the week!

Aokbaby · 15/09/2020 21:51

Evening ladies, how are we all? Just looking a bit of advice, so I got static smiley on Thursday which would mean i ovulated on Thurs or Fri, had one episode of bright red blood yesterday and then some more this eve which was more brown/dark red. I'm really confused as I only ovulated 5days ago max. Could it be implantation? I know this is waaaay tmi but I also have a very itchy bum! Lol!! Don't want to get hopes up but it's definitely too early for af. Helllppp!!!

CEW19 · 09/09/2020 13:06

Definitely helps when there are things to keep you busy, getting a bit easier since lockdown lifted a bit more and able to actually get out the house.

@Daffodil21 will be having ultrasound and blood tests. DH booked in for SA beginning of October. Will let you know :)

acaciabluebell · 09/09/2020 10:52

Thanks ladies. I was away over the weekend and was super busy the week before so the whole TTC process didn't even register in my mind - didn't do any tests or anything. Had no PMS symptoms either so I was really surprised. It's actually been a pretty painless AF which I'm thankful for.

I think being busy has helped me cope with this month better compared to previous months where I had obsessing over it and been totally devastated. I did have a little cry to my husband and he reassured me a lot, so I feel OK atm. Onto month 5 now. Hope you girls are doing okay xxx