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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC Thread #3

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Daffodil21 · 15/08/2020 12:15

Continuing the previous thread:

TTC Thread #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3941503-ttc-thread-2

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acaciabluebell · 28/11/2020 15:33

Thanks @Bramleyapples13 I've requested an appointment with my GP. At least I can start talking about it even if nothing comes from it. Feel very nervous about taking this step but think I'll feel better for it in the long run.

Bramleyapples13 · 28/11/2020 13:47

@acaciabluebell I would go to the GP and say it's been a year. Only because I've had my referral for the fertility clinic and they've not done any appointments throughout both lockdowns so I know my appointment won't be for a few months at best. Then at least you're in the queue.

acaciabluebell · 28/11/2020 11:56

@Bramleyapples13 I would like to but I'm worried I won't be taken seriously by my GP at the stage. I'm really worried because I think I may have endometriosis and also have some worries about DH's sperm as there doesn't seem to be a lot of it (TMI loool). I'm half tempted to go to my GP and say it's been a year anyway because I know the waiting lists will take months. I saw on another thread that someone went to their GP this month and was given an appt in May 2021!!

Bramleyapples13 · 28/11/2020 11:51

I may get some to try.

It's hard @acaciabluebell a friend has just told us they're expecting and due next June 🙄 I'm obviously happy for them but did have a cry and was upset. Have you discussed going to the doctors or any next steps?

acaciabluebell · 28/11/2020 11:26

I was 1 day late and AF arrived this morning. I wasn't really expecting it but when my period didn't arrive yesterday it allowed me to hope.

I keep losing track of how long it has been. I just realised I'm now going into my 9th month of TTC. We started in April this year and if I had gotten pregnant in my first try I would have been close to giving birth by now. I'm now worried that something is wrong. Because we do everything perfectly, DTD very regularly, always catch ovulation every month. But I've never even seen a shadow of a positive line. Feels like I never will at this rate.

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Daffodil21 · 26/11/2020 22:50

@Bramleyapples13 thankfully we have a spare room on the way to the bathroom, so I keep it in there and quickly pop it in before going to bed! If you don't have a conveniently located spare room you could do it in the bathroom? DH doesn't know it's in beforehand..!

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Bramleyapples13 · 26/11/2020 21:44

I did wonder about the logistics of that one. Running off beforehand to get ready and then going 'ta-daaaaa!' didn't seem the way to go so I thought I must be wrong 😂

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Daffodil21 · 26/11/2020 21:39

@Bramleyapples13 I thought it was all the same stuff but you can buy it with the applicators to insert internally? I may be wrong though

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Bramleyapples13 · 26/11/2020 20:44

We've not tried it but I've been having a look. It's got loads of positive reviews. How do the different types of it work?

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Daffodil21 · 25/11/2020 22:41

I've never used it as lube (we use conceive plus for that), only with the applicator. The first time was easy (when we conceived) but I used it a couple of nights ago and it wasn't as easy! Def worth a go though and will def use in the future

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Tofu35 · 25/11/2020 22:25

@bramleyapples13 we've used it a few times in a similar way as you'd use regular lube, but never tried using it before sex with the applicator. Definitely give it a go!

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Daffodil21 · 25/11/2020 22:03

@Bramleyapples13 I used pre-seed for the first time when I last conceived so I would absolutely recommend it. May have had nothing to do with it but with a go! Have you tried it yet?

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Bramleyapples13 · 25/11/2020 21:46

It is hard keeping it secret when you feel you need people's experience so you lot help!

Are a few of us going to be in the same FW?

And what's people's opinion on Preseed?

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Daffodil21 · 25/11/2020 19:54

Oh @Tofu35 that must be so so tempting!! But getting tests and answers/peace of mind is also so important. If you're worried about lack of EWCM you should give pre-seed a try!

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Tofu35 · 25/11/2020 16:36

Typical, on my month off I have loads of EWCM today. What a waste! 😭 The daft part of me just wants to cancel the December plan and dtd now, "just in case" this is secretly The Month.

But the tests need to happen because it's been over a year with no positive results. Just need to be patient!

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Daffodil21 · 25/11/2020 11:11

2dpo and symptom spotting already. So much for not being worried about conceiving or not this month 😳

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Daffodil21 · 24/11/2020 22:29

@Tofu35 I guess it does put the pressure on them too! I've also got a GP on the day that I'm planning to test so if it is actually a BFP at least I could talk to him about it, maybe fast track some tests. Who knows. Not getting my hopes up and also not too bothered if BFN this month (I'm sure I won't be saying that in a week!)

@Bramleyapples13 not daft at all! A lot of people know we are TTC (including my boss now 🙈) but none of them really get it as they're either not there yet or had their children easily. It's good to chat, it can be a very lonely time!

@Bam27 I felt exactly the same on my mega long cycle too - I only tested on the 10th flashing day because I happened to have one test left so thought may as well, and it went static. There definitely comes a point when it's sensible to just ditch them all though. I really feel for you, it's so horrible waiting!

At least if we all get BFNs we can have a little drink over Christmas - every cloud...

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Bam27 · 24/11/2020 22:05

@Daffodil21 literally the longest cycle I have ever had! I did some opk but got fed up of not getting any positives so gave up. Its weird the week before my period I usually know its coming because I get sore boobs, tiredness and grumpiness lol. This month I still have no premenstrual symptoms! Hope it is just a one off!
Definitely sounds like your still in with chance! Nothing wrong with testing early if it makes you feel better, sometimes I feel like it's easier getting af when you've already seen a bfn. Hopefully we won't be seeing those though.
@Tofu35 It sure has been a slog... Thanks, sometimes just writing it out on here is enough to make me feel a bit better
@Bramleyapples13 doesn't sound daft at all. Can feel quite lonely ttc, because its not something most people feel like they can talk about.

Bramleyapples13 · 24/11/2020 21:16

It sounds daft but I'm glad there's other people out there that I can talk to about TTC. My other half doesn't want to tell anyone and I need to sometimes!

Tofu35 · 24/11/2020 14:06

@daffodil21 it's been okay, nice to not have to timetable sex for a month! although husband has been a bit cranky this month, maybe he's finding this tougher than me? 😂 Or maybe I've just married a grouch, who knows!

Good plan to test early and just enjoy the Christmas break!

Oh @bam27 that's a slog of a month! Rant away :)

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Daffodil21 · 24/11/2020 12:03

@Tofu35 I've seen that group floating around but haven't joined. I also can't bring myself to join the TTC after mc groups either so like @CEW19 I just stay here with you lovelies. How are you finding your month 'off'? Is it quite nice in a way or are you feeling a little impatient?

@Bam27 cycle day 54?! Oh nooo! I feel your pain after my weird 50 day cycle a few months ago! I haven't had another one since (yet) so hopefully it's just a one off for both of us. I really hope it arrives soon! I'm guessing you didn't do an opk this month? Thankfully I did on my 50 day cycle so I knew it would end at least!

We should have dtd last night (day after static) but didn't... we did the day of the static and 2 days before. Probably not quite enough but I'm kind of ok with not being pregnant this month tbh! Already planning on testing early as I'm not waiting the full two weeks this month, I just need to know so I can stop thinking about it until after Christmas and just enjoy!

Currently listening to a webinar about improving egg quality while I work, this is literally my life now 🙈🙈😳

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Bam27 · 24/11/2020 11:37

Hey everyone! I'm now on cycle day 54! What is going on with my body?arrrghhh! Waiting for my period so I can make an appointment for blood test, have tested loads even though I know I'm not pregnant! Don't even think I've ovulated. Have had the smallest amount of spotting but wouldn't even know it was there if I wasn't looking! Okay rant over. Hope you are all doing okay xx

Tofu35 · 23/11/2020 13:50

Aww @cew19 glad you've found a wee home here. I sometimes chat on the 12 months + thread too, nice group. Between here and there, it's keeping me sane!

@Daffodil21 that's great your accu person could fit you in around your solid smiley day!

Nothing to report here, still in my no sex month (clinic said no sex the month before the tubes test). So any bloating, queasy feelings etc in TTW will be correctly labelled as "not pregnant, just pms/indigestion/tired".

CEW19 · 23/11/2020 12:51

Hi all! I'm still here too! this is the only group that I join in on, haven't found the same little community on any of the others. I'm about to start AF, had a break in November so know for sure it's coming. A bit later than usual mind but I think that's because I've switched from boots pre conception vits to just Folic Acid with VitD. Really hoping for a December BFP now. Will be going back to doctors in the New Year if still nothing.

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Daffodil21 · 23/11/2020 11:55

@acaciabluebell oh no sorry you've been unwell! Hope you feel better soon  you never know, as long as you've dtd sometimes you're in with a chance. At least it's not too long to wait to find out, although I always find the second week of the TWW the worst so I hope it doesn't drag too much for you.

I got my static yesterday!!!! This will mean a 33 day cycle for me, which on a 'normal' month would have been really good, so it is very unexpected to have this following mc. I think I may have ovulated yesterday because I had some pains, and actually @Tofu35 having said I've never had any blood around ovulation, I did have a tiny bit yesterday. I've got some more acupuncture this afternoon, it was supposed to be Wednesday but I phoned saying I had a static and she's booked me in for today.

How is everyone else? Sad this thread has gone a little quiet 😔 but I suppose this whole thing is so draining it's good to sometimes take a step back sometimes (I seem to be incapable of doing this myself 😂😳)

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