Dealing with close friends falling pregnant

Wow you have just brought a tear to my eye, reading how your feeling was just like reading a diary of my life!! I fully understand how your feeling! Your not alone! I also try to avoid situations where I think the topic of babies and children will be brought up, and I’m the same as you about everyone now knowing we are trying since the miscarriage so now they are all expecting me to break the news, I have some work colleagues even asking me “are you pregnant yet?” I get so upset and angry at those comments, but I smile through it and then when I’m alone I cry

My consultant always said it f you can fall pregnant you are very likely to carry a baby to term. It’s the people that couldn’t fall pregnant that were more of a worry to her.

@FebruaryJuly I am better now, getting through days everyday. @justanotherneighinparadise thanks for the hope, fingers crossed 🤞

I completely understand and relate to how you feel. We are over 2 years into trying and nothing, Clomid and IVF didn’t even work. Meanwhile one friend of mine conceived and had 2 children while we have been trying. I have spent chunks of time off social media which l have found useful

You really are not selfish, I 100% feel your pain, I had a miscarriage in may. I would have been due in January and lately so many close friends and work colleagues are suddenly announcing pregnancy and a few are due in January and I’m really struggling with this! I’m too scared to tell anyone because I don’t want to come across as harsh, I’m not saying they don’t deserve to be happy but I struggle to understand why I can’t have some happiness as well! Every month I get another BFN I feel my heart break a little bit more, I sometimes feel like giving up trying,

You are not at all being selfish and are allowed to have a good cry. I have been in this situation, we had failed IVF, and sadly I will never be a mum. Time does help, but sometimes the ‘grief’ comes out of nowhere. One of my closest friends was terrified of telling me and we had a good cry together and then I was genuinely over the moon although sadly hers didn’t have a happy ending and my heart broke for her. Be kind to yourself and I hope everything works out for you.

I could have written this post. It took 13 cycles for us to conceive DC2 and my heart broke with each new cycle and each pregnancy announcement. I’m 34+4 now and I still have to mute some people on Facebook so I can’t see their posts.

OP, try not to lose hope. My DD is 6.5 now and that’s a bigger gap than we wanted. It took us over a year and we’re both in our 20s too, I don’t drink and we both don’t smoke. Sometimes it just takes longer.

[quote Shinea]@justanotherneighinparadise sorry for my lack of knowledge! Could you please tell me whether MMC too accounts for what you said second infertility. I am 25 years old and I was able to fall pregnant quickly first time but this time taking 4 cycles and going on.[/quote]
MMC is usually a chromosome issue with the egg and as the cells multiply there’s an issue and the developing foetus doesn’t make it. It’s awfully common unfortunately but has no bearing on anything you did or didn’t do. You are very young and I have no doubt at all you will fall pregnant again abs carry to term xx

@justanotherneighinparadise sorry for my lack of knowledge! Could you please tell me whether MMC too accounts for what you said second infertility. I am 25 years old and I was able to fall pregnant quickly first time but this time taking 4 cycles and going on.

In your case I'd look into fertility treatments. There are plenty of treatments available aside from ivf that can help you. I know several people who easily conceived their first but needed iui for their second.

Hi OP. I just wanted to say that I totally understand where you coming from and it's totally normal.
A close friend became pregnant in December. I became pregnant in January. She sadly miscarried at about 10 weeks then I miscarried a few weeks later, also at 10 weeks.
She told us the other day they'd just had their 12 weeks scan and although I'm so happy for her, especially after what she's been through, I was just so jealous. I was supposed to meeting her for a lunch and cancelled.
I also made excuses not to go to a family meal as I had a feeling there'd be a pregnancy announcement and I was worried about getting upset in front of people. I also think people deliberately don't talk about babies and pregnancy in front of me after the miscarriage so it's just this huge elephant in the room. We didn't tell anyone we were trying first time and now I feel like all our family and friends are just waiting for us to make 'the announcement'. It's so much pressure.
Don't be hard on yourself. Do people know you've been trying?
Smile outwardly and be upset if you need to, avoid them if you need to, make excuses if you need to.
Are you temping or recording cm? It might be useful to see if you're actually ovulating as if it's something like that it could be easily resolved with clomid.
I found it really helped me get to know my cycle and I think it's the reason for my recent Bfp (tentatively hoping it's viable as I've had 2 chemicals since the MC). I'm sure we always started 'trying' too early every month so by the time I ovulated we were a bit over it 😂
I'm also a teacher and find the holidays give me way to much time to think and get down over it all.

Best of luck xx

How long have you been trying OP? If it's over a year, have you contacted the GP surgery for tests? To have you bloods and swabs and husbands semen sample.
It took us 2.5 years to conceive our little girl who is our 1st. It was classed as unexplained infertility for us. Sending baby dust! Xxx

Hello all,
I am in the same situation I had MMC at 20th week in april and soon after my MMC, my bestfriend announced his wife's pregnancy then one of my cousin too was due around same time, I had to attend her baby shower and god knows how I could make it. Then my neighbor who is way more younger than me announced her pregnancy.
I am happy for all of them but always brings my thoughts of what could've been, would've been if I had carried to full term.
Trust me if I hadn't had MMC or if I wasnt pregnant at first place I wouldn't have minded them being pregnant, but my loss always makes me wonder what went wrong with me.
It's my 4th cycle TTC after MMC and everytime AF arrives I breakdown

I really liked the FertilAid supplements so I got both of us on them. I also did fertility acupuncture as my cycles were short and that lengthened them to 28 days. I didn’t ask about your cycles but if they’re erratic then that’s something to consider (obviously I’ve no idea whether acupuncture is possible in the world of covid 🙄)

My other advice would be bring your levels of inflammation down as low as possible by low carbing. So watch your starches and fruit. I’ve read countless stories of women who couldn’t conceive until they went low carb then conceived the following cycle. It can be that powerful. So if you’ve hit desperation point it’s something you could change today and get benefit from in weeks.

Also do either of you take any supplements or have you tried acupuncture etc?

That should have been a question mark not an exclamation mark.

What’s your diet like, ie what are you eating day to day!