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Stories after 2 early miscarriages - I really need to read other people’s stories 😭😭😭

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Nannon145 · 04/08/2020 09:37

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in May and I am currently going through my 2nd miscarriage at 4 weeks + 5 days and can’t help but think what is wrong with me?? 😭😭😭

I dealt with the first one because I thought it can be quite normal to have 1 but now I’ve had 2 it’s got me worrying that something is wrong with me and I’m never gonna get my rainbow baby 💔💔

Please tell me your stories, successful of not. I need to just relate to people who have been through the same thing. It’s killing me 😔

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LS2020 · 18/09/2020 08:08

@Nannon145 thank you. I think I’m doing ok, still quite teary but in a weird way it’s been nice to know I can be pregnant. It’s been helping to read everyone else’s positive stories and from google it seems like it should have no future impact which is reassuring

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Nannon145 · 18/09/2020 07:49

@LS2020 sorry to hear that, my inbox is always open if you need to talk but don’t lose hope. You’ve got this!

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Nannon145 · 18/09/2020 07:48

@CalmDown7 I have done nothing differently this time round. It’s crazy how normal early losses can be and no one talks about it!!!! Just keep going and you will eventually get your rainbow baby. I know how hard it is and my inbox is always open if you need to talk. I’m really hoping this is my rainbow now 🥰🥰🥰

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LS2020 · 18/09/2020 07:17

@Nannon145 wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months. I’m 4 + 5 currently miscarrying after taking 15 months to get pregnant so a bit gutting but this thread has given me a lot of hope so thank you 💕

DrMadelineMaxwell · 17/09/2020 22:18

Congrats, OP.
For WIW I had 3 early miscarriages, all the tests (as did dh) and there was nothing wrong with us and we were simply advised it was sadly one of those things and we were very unlucky. I thought I was losing DD1 when I had bleeding but she was part of a pregnancy they think started as twins. And she's healthy and happy (and 20!) and DD2 came along no trouble too.

Here's to your smooth sailing!

CalmDown7 · 17/09/2020 22:06

@Nannon145 - I just read your thread and all the responses from beginning to end. I just want to say I’m so happy for you and seeing your scan made me really emotional and happy for you and I don’t even know you! It’s because I’ve recently had 2 very early losses and I hope you get your happy ending and everything goes very well for you. I just wanted to ask if there was anything you done differently this time around? Did you take aspirin as that’s what I’m looking into but just don’t know if I should take it while TTC or wait for a BFP then take it?

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Nannon145 · 17/09/2020 19:28

Omg that’s crazy!! Congratulations!!!
I thought 6+2 and I was 6+1!
Such an amazing feeling isn’t it. We told our parents too today, been such an emotional day xx

Stories after 2 early miscarriages - I really need to read other people’s stories 😭😭😭
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Semele5069 · 17/09/2020 17:17

OMG @Nannon145 thats so funny- I had a private scan today as well and saw a heartbeat! I thought I was 6+3 but measuring 6+2.

Congratulations! I don't really know how to feel about it yet. I've never had a "happy" scan before and it was all a bit weird!

Stories after 2 early miscarriages - I really need to read other people’s stories 😭😭😭
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Nannon145 · 17/09/2020 15:04

Just got back from my scan and WE SAW A LITTLE HEARTBEAT. 🥰🥰🥰

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Nannon145 · 12/09/2020 20:13

@Semele5069 hey, nothing since. Just little the lightest pink colour when I wiped. I had to really look to notice it. No blood at all. Just made me feel so sick when I saw it. Don’t think I can go through all that again

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Semele5069 · 12/09/2020 20:07

Hi @Nannon145 How're things now? Try not to worry, I know it's easier said than done though! Even if there is a little bit of blood that's very normal and there are so many stories on here of women who've bled loads and things have still been ok.xx

Redcups64 · 12/09/2020 17:24

Sorry for your losses.

I had 3 early miscarriages, it’s heart breaking and i genuinely thought I wouldn’t be able to have children.

On the 3rd miscarriage I was heart broken and they said they would start tests but I just gave up hope!

Low and behold pregnant and now have a lovely 11 year old.

I also had a 2nd child conceived in 6 months of trying with no miscarriages.

I think they stress of trying can sometimes hinder the result of getting pregnant, just a theory.

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Nannon145 · 12/09/2020 17:19

I’m really panicking today that my CM is a slight pink colour. I have to really stare at it to see it, don’t know if I’m just sending myself crazy 😫 this is meant to be a time of excitement and I’m here dreading every day in case I start bleeding

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greysome · 06/09/2020 13:08

Sorry for your loses and hope your pregnancy goes smoothly. A dear friend of mine had 4 early miscarriages, all before 8 weeks. Once they investigated they gave her a medication (cannot remember the name) she had to take daily in early pregnancy. She has since gone on to have two children and no further miscarriages.

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Nannon145 · 06/09/2020 13:01

@Peppermintlover that’s so good to hear thank you so much for sharing your story

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Peppermintlover · 06/09/2020 12:43

Hi,

Congratulations on your BFP. Just wanted to let you know I had an almost identical situation to you when trying for my second. Miscarried at 6 weeks. Got pregnant again straight away then miscarried at 5 weeks. Tried again and got pregnant 2nd cycle and now have a 7 year old to show for that effort :) I cried my eyes out at my 12 week scan when I saw her heartbeat, never felt relief like it.

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Nannon145 · 06/09/2020 11:07

@Semele5069 yeah I probably would wait till 7 weeks if I weren’t going away because you know the heartbeat will definitely be found. I’m really worried I’ll go and it’ll be too early and then that’ll worry me even more x

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Semele5069 · 06/09/2020 08:43

@Nannon145 that's a good idea about the scan! I'm considering booking one for around 7 weeks. I don't have any pregnancy tests left so might order a few cheap ones off Amazon as I'd like to have them.

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Nannon145 · 06/09/2020 08:19

@Semele5069

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Nannon145 · 06/09/2020 08:19

Completely know where you’re coming from.

I’m feeling ok. I keep occasionally getting waves of nausea but nothing spectacular. My boobs were hurting but seems to have eased now which has worried me. The main thing I’ve noticed is I’m always sooooooo thirsty.

But been taking pregnancy tests and they are getting darker and darker so that reassures me.

I’m booked in for a scan next Thursday where I think I’ll be 6+2 because I’m going on holiday with my family on the Friday and want to be able to hear baby’s heartbeat before I tell them because I won’t be able to keep it from them because of alcohol!

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Semele5069 · 05/09/2020 18:07

Hi @Nannon145 I'm ok thanks! I've felt very crampy since my positive test and got a bit lightheaded and nauseous yesterday morning.

I'm not sure when to mark the weeks as last month I started spotting on the Saturday but only woke up with full AF flow on the Monday so my apps are saying different cycle dates. I might split the difference and call it 5 weeks tomorrow (Sunday)!

I was fairly relaxed till yesterday then the thought of having to manage the uncertainty of the next couple of months felt overwhelming! I was worried that I wasn't feeling crampy anymore then when it started again I was worried that was bad too! Think I might just have to distract myself for a while.

How're you?xx

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Nannon145 · 05/09/2020 07:42

How you getting on @Semele5069 x

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Littlegoth · 01/09/2020 14:50

Just saw your update, sending positive thoughts and wishes for you x

Littlegoth · 01/09/2020 14:46

I’m so sorry for your losses x

I had 3 early miscarriages. I was referred to rmc at Leeds, diagnosed with APS and advised to take aspirin every day (forever) to make my blood less sticky. Was pregnant again 3 weeks later, given enexoparin injections to take once a day. I’m 36 weeks tomorrow and having a c section next week. Never thought I’d get here. Have hope xx

CottonSock · 01/09/2020 14:43

I had 2 and then a daughter. Then another 2, before my 2nd child. It was heart breaking, but a happy ending for me.