Our first month ttc our first

@Amy259 how funny that having the coil out changed it so much. Tbh mine has increased from TTC. I genuinely enjoy it more atm.

@meganlea there's defo always some complacency isn't there. We certainly don't do it like we did when we were first together!!

@DNpink82 it must be a thing with the implant/coil! How strange! You're spot on there.. I think sometimes you can peak to early with all the DTD.

We just used preseed for the first time. Just to test (not in my fertile window yet) and just a small amount on him. I'm a fan. Certainly no complaints

@Amy259 Haha both my MIL and Mum are late September too so we know when they were both conceived 🤣

@meganlea I can’t possibly have read that right - you’re enjoying ttc?!? 😂😂😂 yeah 2-3 times a week would be delightful. When we talk about it DH always says he wants that too so I’m not really sure why it never really comes to fruition...

@DNpink82 fingers crossed for a Christmas conception! My birthday is 25th sept (9 months after Christmas Day..) and I spent my teenage years being embarrassed by mother telling me all she’d ask for was a puppy that Christmas 🙈😂

@21Arwen I've tried a few different brands of test strips and found the easy@home ones the best, I haven't tried clear blue as they're so expensive especially when testing twice a day. I usually test when I get in from work about 6ish and if testing twice try to do it around lunch time at work

Just been catching up on the chat @Amy259 my sex drive went through the roof when I had my implant out, I was never really bothered about dtd for the last 8 years 🙈 husband is definitely not complaining now lol We just need to time it better, we tend to dtd pretty regularly until fertile week then don't get round to it. I've told him it's every day from Tuesday this week lol 😂 he's only working Xmas eve and Xmas day so hopefully shouldn't be a problem 🤞🏼

@beckyBP you are very very lucky! I wish DH was up for it more I don’t even think I’m sex mad but once or twice a week wouldn’t go a miss! 🙈. He used to have a HSD but since getting our own place he’s just not been bothered and could probably go months if I didn’t moan. It’s not been easy adjusting and sometimes it’s really hard but he can’t help it and I’m in love with him and definitely couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. The past 18 months before TTC we managed to find some middle ground that works for both thankfully. I think I’m enjoying TTC a little too much and will probably have 8 kids just to keep it up 🤣

I think I must have saw a post from you @Amy259 or someone else maybe about pressed so I don’t go over 1g 😂

@beckyBP I’m sure my sex drive sky rocketed when I got the coil out... husband must been like woaaah where has this come from 😂

I like preseed a lot, I need to order more actually. But a little goes a long way... on the syringes I wouldn’t recommend going past the 2g mark at the most, or it get a bit messy 🙈

Loved reading your convo girls @Amy259 @meganlea

My partner does have a high sex drive tbf. I think higher than mine. But he does not understand TTC at all. He thinks it could happen any time of the month and just doesn't really understand the fertile window. And it's typical that something happens around my fertile week (like a very stressful work week for him).

Our preseed just arrived! Not sure about the process 😅

@Amy259 that’s super helpful, thanks!

@meganlea aww it’s the exact same here! I swear he tells me he’s full or tired to pre-warn me that I’m not getting any later 😂 he’s normally always game before dinner though so I take my chances!

@21Arwen welcome! CB digital cause that problem - it’ll be negative the morning you peak because they tell you to use fmu so you’ll probably peak in the afternoon (most people do) but not get the CB to go positive until the next morning. So really if you werent dtd anyway, you’ll have missed your peak and just know that you’re now at O day (which is a pretty unsuccessful day to conceive on, statistically). Just like the above two ladies, I use easy@home - much cheaper and you can test 2-3 times a day when you’re near ov ☺️

@21Arwen maybe depends what brand you use so obvs always follow their instructions but the ones I have (easy @ home) say not to use FMU and to test between like 10am and 7pm and I think somewhere on here I read LH needs time to synthasise in your body in the morning or something.

@meganlea thank you :) As luck would have it, I randomly decided to try a midday test today (despite testing negative this morning) and it came out positive! I’m using clearblue digital and they seem pretty good. They say you can test first thing in the morning but I’m guessing maybe midday/afternoon is better.

@Amy259 I find myself laughing though as it's like your describing my life. If I hear 'I'm so full' or 'I'm so tired' after tea, I know DTD is out of the window haha!

Omg I can imagine the horror in his eyes when you first started TTC! Honestly it's not that big of a deal is it?! Just need you to get the job done in a timely manner and that's it, apparently if you do something for 30 days in a row it becomes a habit so it should be incorporated in the morning routine, brushed your teeth? check! DTD? check! 😂

@meganlea I get most success at nights or mornings at the weekend but through the week my window is when he goes up to get changed after work 😂 before food so he’s not too snoozy! Sounds absolutely ridiculous writing it down, and we’re both quite fit and it’s not like I’m asking him to run a marathon! But after a day at work and a big dinner, I’ve no chance haha.

I also made it clear during one of our talks that I totally get that it’s strange to dtd down to timing not urge, and I am fully okay with a 10 minute quickie - it doesn’t need to be magical on a Tuesday night before the spag bol 😂 I think that helped, he was probably a bit terrified at the thought of a full on sesh every second night!!

@21Arwen Hey welcome to the thread!! Which ones are you using? I'm using the Easy @ Home ones you can get 100 of them for £19.99 on Amazon and you can test any time of day as long as you've held your urine in for 2-3 hours and limited your liquid consumption during that time. They're really good and you can upload them on an app that'll read the tests for you.

@Amy259 omg you're so right I need to have this 'chat' right around the time my fertile week is, hopefully after this one I'll have a rough idea as I'll have 3 whole cycles to go off and it should give me an average as CD24 and then CD9 is too long a period. It'd be a bloody fertile 3 weeks and god knows DH does not have that in him!! 😂 Yeah I do wonder if it's his energy levels because he's always so tired after work and then waits til we get into bed to DTD and that's when he is most tired. But I'm going to say to him, look, if you manage to put aside a few hours every Wednesday night to play Xbox games with your friend, then you need to start booking me in every other night for 10 minutes too if that's how we have to play this lol.

Aww yeah that is pretty lucky! Well if I do O on CD24 we're both off work from Thursday so there's no 'tired' excuse to be used! He's at work right now so I can only message and he seems understanding but I still want to discuss this properly in person. Watch me get a powerpoint presentation ready for tonight. Sit down and LEARN boy. We're either all in or not at all!! 😂

Hello all! Hope you don’t mine me joining this thread. I’m TTC this month - came off cerazette 3 months ago and straight into regular periods (25-26 day cycles). Last cycle I decided to try ovulation test strips - tested a wide window (day 7-18) and all came back negative. Same is happening this month with a different brand. I’m testing first thing in the morning (per the instructions), same time every day. Feeling very demoralised - any advice?! I’ve always had regular periods etc (when not on the pill).

@meganlea I honestly feel like I could’ve written your whole post there. We have the chat and the change last a week too (just always plan the chat at the beinging of fw 😂) and before ttc he was the exact same - a fairly low sex drive. I don’t know if it’s actually his sex drive or his energy levels... he puts everything else first and ends up too gubbed to want to. I’ve even questioned at times he really wants this but he’s so so eager to be a dad, it’s a bit confusing! I think it’s pressure more than complacency for him though, for sure.

We’ve been “lucky” every month that my fw has fallen on dates like our wedding, honeymoon, weekend away etc. And if I have another short cycle next month it’ll be around NYE. I say lucky, but the flip side of that is that we probably have covered every month for 5 cycles now with 4 bfns, one chemical, and no happy ending to show for our efforts! Maybe timing is the only thing stopping your bfp and once you talk to him and actually get him round to the idea he needs to DTD at the right time, you won’t have many more cycles to wait 🤞🏻

@Amy259 it is so frustrating isn't it? I feel like us women go to all this effort of taking vitamins, tracking our CM, temperatures, hormone levels, being more active etc etc and they have one job, to perform. I can't stress how fertile I am in the week leading up but he just thinks his sperm are super strong obviously and that he doesn't need to make much of an effort. And when I do talk to him he understands and goes for it for like a week and then grows complacent and it just makes me feel like I'm doing everything I am for nothing sometimes!! And I'm not going to beg him to DTD with me either, I'll let him know that I might be ovulating soon and then the ball is in his court but there's just no urgency sometimes. I'm going to have another talk with him tonight because if I really did O yesterday (unlikely, but not impossible) then we've missed yet another month and I'll feel like giving up because that'll mean out of 3 cycles, we've only managed to 'cover' 1 of them.

Before my last cycle, clear blue said I ovulated on CD24-25 and that was my first cycle TTC so I don't have data further back than that. I guess it's probably gone back to being 5 weeks! Which if so, is good, because it means I haven't missed O day, but also means I've got another week to wait yet......god this is hard work! The people that I've told we're trying too like close family and friends are like, you don't need to use the tests, just DTD everyday!!! Have lots of fun!!! You don't know my DH, before TTC, DTD once every 2 weeks was enough for him!

Oh yeah, sounds like AF could be on the way for you today then! Hopefully you've both got time off over Christmas though to get back at it.

@meganlea aww do I FEEL. YOU. on the DH stuff. We’ve had a couple of chats about it before because I swear sometimes he thinks you can forget about it Mon-Fri, have sex at the weekend and boom, pregnant. I totally understand that it’s weird and different when it’s timed/planned and that he really doesn’t like that (in all honesty it wouldn’t bother me to have “right we need to have sex now” sex at ov but the rest of the time it be normal and fun, but i guess it’s not me that has to perform) but the solution I offered of just having sex every 2-3 days so that it’s covered without the pressure of having to time it never ever happens. When we talk about it he’s always so understanding and gets really down when af arrives, but previously he’s always slipped back into old ways. He’s been much better this month so 🤞🏻
We also met friends and their baby for lunch at the weekend and he wouldn’t stop talking about having one all the way home so hopefully his broodiness is in full flow 😂

Surely you won’t have missed it testing 3 times?? Except last cycle, what day do you usually surge?

I had a big temp drop this morning, back down from 36.64ish to 36.22 so I’m expecting af today after this weird cycle. Today is cd29 and I’m about 14dpo. So weird.

@Amy259 Aww bless. Yeah it's still scary, even though we're allowed to see family on Christmas day there's still a little voice in my head saying WHAT IF!!

@beckyBP aw thank you, I was fine after like 20 minutes of posting my last message and I'm always fine through the day but sometimes on a night I'm just like OMG what is actually going on! I keep telling myself I need to turn off the news, especially with a no deal brexit looking likely too it's all just worry worry worry but I can't not have a look to see what's going on haha, my toxic trait!! Sorry that it ruined your wedding. Hopefully by June 2021 this will all be a distant memory for us all :)

Well, CD17 today, I am yet to LH test for today but so far no LH surge. My temp dropped yesterday morning to the lowest so far of this cycle 36.20 and then went up today 36.42 which is a big jump for me. (temp has varied 36.20 - 36.59 so far this cycle). Not last night but the night before I had really weird sex dreams, so I'm wondering if I missed my LH surge as it was 0.39 at 1.30pm yesterday and re tested at 5.45pm and it had gone down to 0.2 tested again later, 0.2, which is really low for me I'm usually between 0.28-0.4 ....I suppose I'll know in the next couple of days if my temp rises.

Getting a bit fed up of testing 3 times a day, done it for 11 days straight and keep hinting to DH I could be in my fertile week and not even know and he just thinks DTD once every 7 days is enough as he's read sperm can live up to 7 days inside of you. I think I'll stop LH testing next cycle and just stick to temping and tell DH if he wants a baby he's got up his game and DTD every other day otherwise we'll be waiting years.

Sorry I'm not really posting anything positive lately just a bit fed up at the moment! Going to make gingerbread men tonight hopefully that'll bring my Christmas spirit back.

@DNpink82 yeah I felt similar when he said June/July but then tried to hold onto the thought that if I’m choosing to believe that enough to feel sad about it, I also have to choose to believe he saw a happy, healthy baby after a full term pregnancy and there’s an end to the waiting. Try not to just choose to believe the bad side!

Or resign yourself to the fact that it’s possibly all a load of rubbish!!

@Amy259 a bit gutted tbh, I don't want to wait another 6/7 months as it'll mean I'll be nearly 40 when it's born but I suppose it's also given me a little bit of hope too. Only time will tell now I suppose 🤷‍♀️

@DNpink82 how did it make you feel??

@Rice1992 @beckyBP thank you both so much xx