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@beckyBP she made me giggle too with that post ahha!

@Amy259 wow I just read all that and it's making me wonder now, like I'd want to DTD the days leading up to the surge, the day of the surge and the day after, but I might just not do the day after surge because if there's 85% chance the days before will work then what if it does more harm than good DTD the day after the surge. Like TMI but what if there's sperm sat in there fighting for the egg, although I know sperm don't actually fight each other but what if they knock the sperm positioned perfectly waiting for the egg out of the way and then they start trying to get to the egg but it's too late then because the egg has already matured a bit.....IDK maybe I'm thinking too much in to it haha. Do you think it'd be harmless to DTD the day after the surge too, or could it hinder your chances? I might have a quick google

@Amy259 thank you so much - that is really helpful! I feel I can go into such a TCT rabbit hole so it's good to get some good advice!

I think for this cycle we'll DTD every day/every other day during the FW and see where we end up. Will keep you all posted!

We were/are due to get married in May 2021 but with the new restrictions things are feeling less likely and we don't want to wait another year to try for a baby as I know it can take a while for a lot of people!
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Welcome @lydiarose7!

So basically you’re right - cb uses first urine of the day so your static smiley will probably come the morning after you peak. Most women peak in the afternoon then ovulate 12-36 hrs later, so you could be already ovulating by the time it goes static. If you’ve already been dtd that’s fine, but chances of a healthy conception from just dtd on o day are really low.

Because eggs only live 12 hrs once released, if you dtd after ov the likelihood is the egg could be old by the time the sperm reaches is so the chance of successful implantation is slim (or could end in a chemical for that reason).

I read a study recently where couples only had sex on one day - either two days before, one before, or o day and 85% of successful pregnancies were the days before.

So basically the day before peak and peak day are your best bets, although it could happen either side too. So tracking is good for using the data to predict, rather than waiting for the smiley - does that make sense? Sorry if that was too much info! I’m a researcher and can’t help myself. I think I’ve been dtd too late so next month will be starting before I predict I’ll peak xx

Hi everyone! I hope you don't mind me joining this thread!

My fiance and I have started TTC recently. I came off the pill in July and I have kept a vague eye on my cycles since then, and DTD around the predicted ovulation date in Flo. We've had no luck so far, but I think Flo might have my ovulation date a bit off. This cycle we've cranked it up a notch (it's a lockdown Christmas, not much else to do!) and have DTD every day since CD8 (now on CD12). I had some EWCM on CD11 so I think ovulation is near but I've been taking Clear Blue ovulation tests but no peak just yet, but having read this thread, I worry that once I've had the smily face I might actually be to late!

We're basically just DTD as much as possible in the run up/during my FW in case I'm ovulating earlier than Flo predicts (in previous months we've only really DTD a couple of days on Flo predicted O day and the day before).

Any tips from anyone who's been successful greatly appreciated!

@Amy259 glad you know where you are doll. You can relax over Christmas now.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 @Amy259 that cracked me up! @meganlea I love a hot bath too. I think it is just for those with the testicles so we're good!

😂😂 really making me laugh today! X

@Amy259 Oh thank god! 😂

@meganlea assuming we don’t need to worry about your testicles over heating and killing your sperm, I think your baths are okay! 😂😂

@Amy259 it's frustrating every time I test I'm like ooo it could be this one!! been disappointed 30+ times so far haha! Yeah I'm still in with a chance it seem sand suddenly I'm excited and happy again. Crazy what TTC does to your mood!!

Awww no ... yeah definitely track this time just so you can see what's going on, it's good that your cycle was a bit shorter you might not have to wait as long now go again, fingers crossed. You'll know more once you start tracking!! At least you can enjoy some alcohol at Christmas now and not have to worry about your intake....eat and drink until you can't no more haha!! Ready to try again in the new year. Hope you're okay though. AF time really is an absolute bummer.

@beckyBP Honestly it didn't sound like that in my head but I read it back like okay it definitely doesn't sound right. Haha. I've not heard about this hot baths thing does that apply to women too?? DH has showers and they're never hot. But I love a hot bath, I LIVE for hot baths?!

@meganlea update: just went to the loo and af is in full swing! Have absolutely not idea what went on this cycle as it means I either had a super long LP or completely missed ov or didn’t ov at all?! Who knows. Glad I know where I am though and definitely going to track more this month!

@beckyBP yeah no hot baths haha. Yeah I try to hide my obsessiveness from him and be super lighthearted about it but I guess that doesn’t stop him from putting pressure on himself!

@meganlea 'that sounds a bit rapey' 😂😂😂😂 weak!!!

@Rice1992 aw amazing. So so happy for you!! Keep us up to date!! 🥰

@Amy259 that makes sense! I totally get how it could be the case for men though. Don't really think about it from their side but it is pressure even if it's not from us.

My fiancé always has really hot baths.. like two a day. I've read that's not good so I've banned him!! 😂

@meganlea god look how steady your LH is! That’s mental! Yeah definitely looks like you haven’t ov yet.. which is annoying! But at least you’ve not missed your chance this cycle.

It normally sits around 36.0-36.2 before ov then about 36.5-36.6 after ov so that would’ve been right. I couldn’t check this morning as I had such a broken sleep so didn’t get 3 hours together. Hopefully I can check tomorrow, assuming af doesn’t come today. Maybe we’ll just dtd every couple of days until af comes just in case I’m having a super late ov, but I wouldn’t think so with those high temps... next cycle I need to get back into temping every day!

@Amy259 ohh yeah I bet he felt a bit embarrassed when he couldn’t finish so now it’ll be in his head like it’s happening again taking his mind completely out of the moment. Haha yes, this is what I’ve been wanting for a long time don’t be shy ✨ keep trying ✨ lol.

Yeah you definitely couldn’t have missed it! Is 36.54 definitely a post ovulation temp for you because if it’s gone back down and no AF it could either be implantation dip (hopefully) or just not ovulated yet which would be weird because your temps were high?? You deffo couldn’t have missed it.... what CD did you start LH testing?

No change for me yet my temp went back to average this morning so god knows what’s happening. I’m just glad as it looks like I haven’t ovulated yet which means I haven’t missed anything. If I am going to ovulate and my cycle is 5 weeks again it will be in the next week as I’m CD18 today. Just attached my chart so far! I spoke to DH as well last night and he said he’s sorry for not putting in as much effort as I am but he will make sure he does in future. He said a lot more but that was a quick summary. I was still feeling a certain way last night though worrying I’d missed O day again so I wasn’t up for DTD so hope we can start tonight. Let’s see how long it lasts this time!! 😂.

@meganlea thank you ♥️ Yeah he’s the same, says he loves it so I’m like right then let’s go 😂

Hahaha yeah that could do the trick! The weird thing is that obv the more we do it, the longer he lasts - and that’s when he starts panicking in his head that he’s not going to finish. Just because it happened that one time he panicked. I’m like ummm it’s absolutely fine that we’re going longer, buddy! 😂

That’s a good idea - that would put me ov around CD20 which is when I normally do, but I didn’t actually temp 19-22 so can’t be exact. But cd18 it was 36.23 and cd23 it was 36.54 so my jump could’ve been in there. Which could put me about 10dpo now. But I was LH testing 3 times a day and CB digi every morning then.. so how could I have missed it?!

How are things at your end? What did your temp do this morning?

@Amy259 I'm only enjoying the DTD side of it, everything else is just a hassle!! 😂 Yeah I get that, he says the same he enjoys DTD with me so I'm like well show me then!! lol.

Honestly don't feel guilty sharing, it's an anonymous thread so here would be the place to ask for advice. Have you tried having a few drinks/beers beforehand, it might help relax his mind a bit? Obviously it's not ideal to be drinking every night but maybe just for those few days in your fertile week. It'll be so hard for him to just switch his mind off so I get where the pressure is coming from but maybe a few shots to cloud his mind a bit. That sounds a bit rapey now I read it back but obviously only if he consents to giving it a go! 😂

Omg how is AF not here yet?! With your temps being up before it deffo seemed like you had already O'ed?! And your temp dropped so it should be here... what is going on....if AF doesn't come today either I'd assume you haven't O'ed yet or like you say maybe a bit later than you thought? Maybe go from the first day you found the first high temp and count that as DPO1? Where would that sit you? How confusing!!

@Rice1992 Omg that's definitely a BFP....congratulations!!!! 💛

@Amy259 all the details 👆🏼😂

@beckyBP I must admit I feel so so incredibly blessed & lucky because this was our first month TTC. My cycles have been between 30-32 days since I came off the pill at the end of Aug, and I’ve been tracking using flo. I didn’t use temperature tracking or ovulation sticks, just went by the app and when it told me I was (which I know isn’t possible for a lot of people because their periods are so all over the place - so again, feel incredibly lucky). It told me ovulation was on Thursday and we DTD every day Mon-Thurs (we were going to go for Friday too but we were both too tired😅). I’ve also been taking seven seas for the last 2 months.

My symptoms weren’t bad/really obvious, just small but lots of them i.e 6/7 days after flo said I’d ovulated I had sharp pains which only lasted a few second but a couple of times throughout the day which I assume was implantation? I’ve had mild cramps which have felt more like heaviness and dullness. More erect nipples, more spots, slight nausea, hot flushes, bloating, struggling to sleep, vivid dreams, waking up really hungry but not having much of an appetite, feeling emotional and finally a really weird one - I’ve been so clumsy! I’m never clumsy but this last week it’s been so bad! To the point where I’ve been like what is wrong with me!

Obviously everyone’s differ so much and what worked for us when TTC might’ve been luck or it could’ve been the right thing to do - who knows. And lots of people don’t have any symptoms which must make it really hard!

But I really do send you all the luck in the world with your journeys. Even though it’s been short for me, I can see how tiring it can get so I’m sending you lots on baby dust and keeping my fingers crossed that this BFP stays for the journey! Xx

Yes @Rice1992 give us all the details 😂

@meganlea still no af yet... no idea what’s going on, as if I ov when I thought I did I would currently be 15dpo and normally my luteal phase is only 12 days. Bfns though. So strange, maybe I did ov really late... no idea.

@beckyBP it’s weird though, if I put too much effort in that’s when his head makes him stress out. So say something like lingerie or an outfit, which would normally be a holiday or occasion thing... I randomly bought stuff in the Black Friday sales and wore it, and he loved it, we had lots of fun, but then when it came to the “ending” (tmi?) he couldn’t... which is so not like him. And we talked about it afterwards and he explained that in his head he was like “right this must be baby time (which it wasn’t even, I was just having fun!) so come on now..” and the pressure of it got to him. Feel a bit guilty sharing that but worth it if anyone has any ideas!

It’s almost like because my sex drive has increased at the same time as ttc started, with getting the coil out, his head is telling him I’m only initiating it more because I want a baby not because I want sex?? No matter how much I explain you can realistically make a baby like 3 days a month so there’s no way every time I want to dtd that’s what I’m up to! I think he believes me but now it’s happened once, it worries him it’ll happen again. It does get me frustrated at times but most of the time I just wish I could take all the stress away for him.

@Rice1992 so so amazing!!

What were your symptoms and did you do anything special this month 👀 tell us your secrets 😂

Thank you @Amy259 @beckyBP I can’t quite believe it! It’s still early days so praying that everything is ok. I did get quite a few symptoms but was trying to convince myself that it was nothing as I didn’t want to get excited 🙈

Sending all my love for your journeys 💛 xx

@Amy259 that's so interesting! Yeah you're right. Maybe try and mix it up a bit like from the normal routine if you know what I mean. Do something different.

@Rice1992 that looks like a real good one! Huge congratulations 🥳 xxx

@beckyBP yeah I definitely feel a big difference after the coil removal. I think I would be enjoying dtd more during ttc too if my DH was embracing it as much - if anyone knows how to stop him feeling the pressure of it all, please let me know!

@Rice1992 certainly looks like it to me!! Congrats 🎉🎉🎉 what a brilliant Christmas present! Xx

So I didn’t manage to hold out until Christmas Eve to test, so I tested this morning at 12DPO and this is what happened...

Can you see it?! Does this mean what I think it does?!