Our first month ttc our first

@beckyBP I came off birth control pill in April I think? X

Hi @beckyBP thank you for replying :)
It is our first month TTC so not expecting get BFP this month...I would be extremely lucky. But just confused as to why I would showing a flashing smiley so late in my cycle?
I bought one of the cheap boots OPK and it only had one line, so am really confused now! X

@BettyM90 hey Hun, sorry to hear you're having a hard time! I haven't had that personally. Is it you're first month TTC? Have you recently come off contraception? X

Hello I hope it’s ok to message in here but just really feel like I need some help/advice and am starting to really stress out! I guess I just need a rant and don’t really have anyone to talk to about the whole TTC situation.
I have been using the clear blue advance OPK sticks since CD9 (which was the day after my AF finished) I had 3 blank circles and the CD12 - CD22 (today) I have had high fertility flashing faces 😩 yet to see a peak. Apps and my cycle are saying that I’m due AF around 10th of this month but I guess I’m just confused as to why I haven’t yet seen a peak.
Have any of you had a similar experience like this? X

@Amy259 how lovely! Enjoy your honeymoon!

We're cycle 4 TTC and weirdly I'm not feeling the pressure this month. I'm not even using opks. That will probably all change in the TWW 😂

@rosiej95 how annoying for you!! You just want to know. Don't count yourself out until AF arrives

@rosiej95 that's so frustrating for you, tests still BFN? Fingers still tightly crossed for you!

@Amy259 30th now honeymoon sounds like a lovely couple of weeks for you! Arran is meant to be beautiful I've never been but it looks amazing!

@RLou3 I’m not sure - I had a chemical pregnancy last month so I don’t know if my cycle is messed up or not. So originally it should be this Sat/Sun but I don’t even have a flashing smiley yet so it could be delayed.

I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling that way, the pressure can get so overwhelming. I’m on cycle 3 now and have found that I’m more relaxed now than I was 2 months ago, but maybe because I don’t think there’s much more I can research now 😂 we’re actually currently on our honeymoon (just on Arran) so have been DTD a fair bit but I think it’ll be too early for that to have any affect!

@RLou3 I'm so sorry you're feeling crap and that happened. Honestly I feel you I'm off work this week (own my own business and really needed a break after this year, key worker sector so have worked throughout) and although I'm switching off from work and trying to relax I am just obsessing over ttc. I am constantly googling foods, supplements, acupuncture, listening to podcasts about fertility and feeling so stressed and overwhelmed and its bloody month 2!
The main takeaway from everything is be relaxed and don't get stressed and that's the one thing I cannot do!
If it makes you feel better I'm already nervous about DTD, I don't want it to feel forced but it probably will. Doesn't help that I read that you're more likely to get pregnant from 'non baby making sex' haha can someone come and take away my internet?!

Hey ladies,

@rosiej95 keep positive! No AF is a good sign. 🤞🏽 for you.

@RLou3 I'm due to ovulate Sunday I believe so started the fertile window yesterday. DTD once but the thought of doing it everyday 🤯😂🙈

Sorry to hear it didn't work out well for you. I thinks it's so hard to not put pressure on ourselves and our partners. Maybe put on some nice underwear and just walk past him and give him the eyes.

@maudesid good luck for your fertile window!! I think every other day is a good shout x

@maudesid I'm Due to ovulate this Saturday - haven't DTD yet!! We just tried but failed miserably and turned into me crying. I'm stressing myself out so much about it - I literally suddenly got it into my head - we need to do it now - so I shouted from upstairs "we need to do it" I was laying ready 😂😂 he came up after 10 mins (ridiculous) and we started - all was fine but I really wasn't in the mood as it was so robotic - he started off fine and then wasn't hard any more (TMI) so I was fuming and started really crying out of anger! Oh my lord - I'm the devil but I just can't stand this any longer and it's only month 2!!!! It's just so much pressure on both of us. Think he feels so bad now... I feel bad for him too - but I'm just so desperate for it to hurry up and happen 😔

@rosiej95 you never know! Really hope AF stays away for you and you get that BFP!

@RLou3 currently CD7 and will probably OV around CD20 again so 13th October ish? Have not DTD yet I'm thinking about trying to DTD every other day from CD14ish but I don't know if that will actually happen! When are you hitting your fertile period?

@rosiej95 fingers crossed AF doesn't show... you just never know 

@beckyBP @maudesid @Amy259 when are you all due to ovulate next girls? And have you been DTD much? Xxxx

Yes to the rare steaks @rosiej95 💁🏼‍♀️ 😂 you're still in the running! 🤞🏽 AF stays away!!

Totally know what you mean @maudesid I think it's easier to talk with people who genuinely know how you feel! Hope you're screening is quick and done with.

Xx

It's such a nice thread to come to with no judging and people who get it because I know I don't feel like I can talk to people in my day to day life
about this stuff!

Had my cervical screening letter come through so that's booked in for next Tuesday from what I can see it is safe to have it done while ttc and should be before my fertile period hopefully!

@maudesid it really is isn't it. LOVE this thread as it's not too much either.
Gutted AF was there for your weekend away but good you and your husband got to talk about it properly. Fertile window starts Tuesday for me I think!

@Amy259 happy 30th sweets! Glad you managed to celebrate!! ❤️

@RLou3 we go again! We've got this 👏🏽👏🏽

Hope you're ok @rosiej95

Thanks @maudesid! I managed to have lots of mini celebrations with friends and family, since we’re not allowed anything as a group just now, and it was lovely! Lots of bubbles and good food too, and DH spoilt me rotten.

I think it’s quite common for a cp to mess up your cycle, so if I ov when I’m supposed to I’d be due to ovulate around 3rd/4th Oct but if I go from the bleed being cd1 it would be 7th/8th. So I guess I’ll just have to keep DTD regularly and try to use OPKs to date it this month. It shouldn’t matter too much, I hope!

Happy Birthday @Amy259 I hope you had a lovely weekend how did you celebrate? We might be around the same time then!

@rosiej95 I feel ya - we’re in cycle 3 now too (with a cp last month) and I can’t imagine what it must be like for couples ttc for years, I’m already feeling the strain!! Every cycle feels so long. Sorry to hear about those tests, that’s rubbish ♥️

@maudesid af has just left here too, now for the wait.... cd8 here and I think I’ll ov around cd19/20 if the chemical doesn’t mess it up.

@beckyBP & @RLou3 I need to take a leaf out of your book and learn to take a break from it all during af!

Hope you’ve all had a lovely weekend girls! I’ve done lots of celebrating as it was my 30th so it’s been a welcome distraction from a sad week last week. Hope you’re all well!!

Morning girls! Can I just say how much I love having this little place to come to with people who understand

@beckyBP how long until your fertile window? Get down the gym and get that energy up haha

@rosiej95 sod those tests for messing you around definitely don't buy those again! I will be using OPK's again because my app uses my temp so kind of guesses your fertile window and then confirms ov after the temp spike so I don't want to rely on that predicting my window especially as my cycles seem to vary in length! I have to say the first positive opk I got last month felt like winning the lottery I was so relieved to see I was ovulating!

@RLou3 I am currently CD4 last month I ov'd on CD21(ish) and my cycle ended up being 36 days so I'm guessing I'll be in my fertile window from about CD17? Assuming a similar length cycle this time, they seem to be 32-36 with the odd 45 thrown in just to really stress me out!

Me and DH just got back from a weekend away (of which I was on my period the whole time how cruel!) and had a chat about babies and really going for it now, before he was very much let's just relax and it will happen (I was never on that page haha) I'm considering accupuncture if my cycles don't settle soon.

Morning girls ❤️

Sorry have just seen this @rosiej95.. oh goodness!!! Really feeling for you! Defo don’t use those tests again!! That’s torture!

@maudesid where are you in your cycle now? XX

@beckyBP same as you! AF time after the initial anger of it.... it’s actually such a nice break of not obsessing over EVERYTHING!!!

Here we go again girls.. next round 😩😩😩