Our first month ttc our first

@beckyBP It's a long 14 days isn't it! 😂 It's all consuming and I now understand analysing every twinge and pain, when realistically at 4DPO it's in my mind! I'm quite an optimistic person, but need to be prepare myself for a possible long journey ahead

@em201 thank you for your reply. Hopefully AF arrives for us both quickly and we can get on with BD!

@beckyBP thank you for the welcome! It seems like such a lovely thread

@meganlea thank you! I just grabbed a cheapie £5 digital one from ASDA. It counts to the right degree though. I've shoved in my bedside table for now...

@rosiej95 we never definitely are!!

And I’m just counting myself out this month then when AF comes I’m prepared mentally, anything other than that will a VERY pleasant surprise!!

Welcome @CLP86 good luck on your first cycle!! What thermometer did you get? I told DH if it doesn’t work this time (1st cycle) we’re binning the CB digital stick and going rogue with no tracking but I’ve already got some OPKs sat in my basket waiting for AF to arrive 🤣

@beckyBP yeah I definitely am! What does she know lol! I won’t be saying that come April cycle number 5 like haa.
Aww no it’s proper shit isn’t it, it’s like working really hard on a project at school that you put all your time and effort into for them to tell you you’ve done it all wrong and to try again. Like whaaat we have to do alllll this over again?! Hope it’s not AF symptoms and your body is just wanting you to think that.

@meganlea sorry it didn't go so well. Defo, pretend it didn't happen!!

I'm also totally getting pre AF symptoms. Due Monday. Feeling really crampy which is just getting me down.

Welcome @CLP86 welcome to the madness. It is such a lovely supportive place here. I haven't been on the pill for a while so can't help there sorry.

How are you feeling with your first TWW @bluemagicalsky

@CLP86 hey! I was on the pill for a long time with only a short break during the time. I took my last pill at the end of October and had a withdrawal bleed the next day. I’m now waiting for my AF to arrive as I have no idea what my cycle looks like! I’m 31 so it sounds like we are in similar positions! Wish you all the luck with your journey xx

@CLP86 That sounds like a great plan to me! So great to have everyone here to bounce ideas and knowledge around

@bluemagicalsky Currently my plan is to try and track using Ovia and basically just have lots of DTD!

It would be good to know how long my cycles are and then go from there. I also don't think I'm quite ready for OPKs etc although a thermometer did "fall" into my basket today

I think I'm prepared to give it 3 cycles or so to see how things go and if BFN then look to move towards the more "serious" stuff- it'll also give me time to understand it all!

It's such a minefield. Why can't it be like they teach you at school - one 'mistake' and boom your pregnant!

@CLP86 That's great news, you're on your way! Haha i feel the same, so much great information and women on these threads to help.
Thank you! I am just using Flo at the moment and DTD over the fertile window. If I get a few months down the line and still no success, I may look into OPKs, BBT & SMEP but as you say, seems a little complicated at first look. I guess I am following SMEP but without using OPKs. What's your plan?
I'm also taking seven seas, need to get wellman for OH - Hadn't thought of that! Thanks x

@bluemagicalsky thank you so much for your reply!

The WB arrived this morning so I'm feeling a little bit more relaxed now. Who knew this "making a baby thing" was so complicated! It's definitely not as easy as they make it look on tv!

Good luck with your first cycle! Are doing anything special to keep track?

I've started with folic acid (seven seas) and keep forcing wellman down OH!

Hi @CLP86
Welcome! I'm fairly new here too. Good luck with your journey.
I was also on the mini pill. It took 29 days for me to have my withdrawal bleed. I'm not sure if I would have skipped the withdrawal bleed as from my understanding withdrawal bleeds come sooner that that but who knows!
Now on my first cycle and am 3 dpo xx

Hello,
Can I please join in? Having read all 21 pages you all seem so lovely & supportive

I took my last pill on 03 Nov so desperately waiting for a withdrawal bleed to start tracking. Not expecting to fall or conceive quickly (I'm 34) but eager to get started!

For those who have come off of the pill - how long did it take to get your withdrawal bleed?

So backache and sore nipples this afternoon.... feel like crying as these are 100% AF symptoms they happen like clockwork in the week leading up to AF, I say I’m 7DPO but it could be anywhere between 7-9DPO and so I predict AF will be here by Sunday/Monday. 😭

I know I’m not out til I’m out but it really feels like I am my gut instinct is telling me I’m out and I really follow that 😫

Didn’t think I’d be this sad. Ordering a takeaway for tea and getting cuddled on the sofa with DH.

@Em201 never say never! My sister came off the pill and it happened first time for her!!

@beckyBP Well she got back to me and said , it was quite long so I'll just say the important bits, conception month will be April, important numbers are 19, 22 and 5 so might put lottery on actually haha, spiritual sign is seahorses and they don't see twins. Seems a load of sh*t tbh but it did dishearten me that she said April I'm kind of preying it isn't true because I don't want to wait that long and she didn't say a year for all I know it could mean April 2030 haha. I'm just going to pretend I didn't get the reading lol.

7DPO today, don't feel aaaany different, I already feel sad ha.

Welcome @Em201 sorry about your wedding! We've cancelled 2 now, it's so tough isn't it. Exciting that you're starting TTC.

Hope your really AF arrives soon so you can get to it!

I'm not @meganlea but that sound super interesting let us know how that goes. Well done for not testing!! I think I'm 7dpo ish and I'm not going to test. I found it so much easier mentally last month when I didn't test.

Hope we're all ok girls. Looking forward to seeing some BFPs this month! Xx

Oh and I miss words all the time when I’m writing as you would have just noticed haha. Think I get ahead of myself when typing!

@meganlea ah, hopefully the next week or so fly by for you! :) that’s really helpful to know! I had a withdrawal bleed the very next day after stopping my pill which last four days. We DTD for the first time, unprotected last week but there is a not a chance I have ovulated. I just want to get into more a routine so it’s not so forced in my fertile week as I don’t want it to get like that already!

@Amy259 honestly; I feel like I’ve read every single page on google, haha! I’m going to stop now though as it’s not doing me any good and everyone has such a different experiences. I feel like I’d be better off asking you girls as we are all going through the same thing! x

@Em201
I'm on my first cycle and in my 2 week wait after ovulation now so I'm 6DPO.....super nervous!

I was on the pill from age 17-22 I was having shooting pains whilst I was breathing so I came off the pill completely 2 years ago for my health and had a 'withdrawal bleed' 36 days after stopping the pill, then it was another 76 days before I had a real period and from then on my cycles have been between 30-45 days but I'm not sure if the pill messed me up or it's because I'm a bit of a stress head but I feel like my long cycles are very out of the ordinary so I wouldn't worry too much my sisters when they came off the pill had their periods come back like clockwork every 4 weeks. The pills I have been on are yasmin and co-cyprindiol.
It's so easy to just get quickly roped into everything!!

@meganlea oh god the “line eyes”... give it a rest!! 😂😂

@Em201 welcome! Sorry, I can’t help with the mini pill question but yes google will send you mental!! If it’s any consolation I think by the time I was my second cycle into this I had googled just about everything on the planet related to ttc... so once I hit that level, I stopped because there was nothing new to google 😂

Thanks @meganlea

How far into your journey are you?

Has anyone else been on the mini-pill for a while? I keep reading stories of it taking ages to become regular again but I think I’m focusing on the bad rather than the good as it’s not the same for everyone.

I promised myself I wouldn’t get too hung up on all of this to begin with and just ‘go with the flow’ for a few months but it’s so hard what with having access to google 24/7! x

Yeah I joined a few weeks ago and I'm already getting really fed up with them. Too many people testing dead early and posting asking for 'line eyes' and when there's clearly nothing there but people are like I see it!! ...no you don't, stop getting someones hopes up.

I know exactly what you mean, I think the same! It could apply to anything. But I'll let you know my experience, I feel like they're just con artists preying on vulnerable women that are struggling but I want to be proven wrong sooo badly haha. I'm barely over my first cycle and I've paid for this I'm just not very patient with anything!!

@meganlea I’m a member of the one my app recommends, which was great at first because I wasn’t sure how to do certain things but loads of people had asked the questions I wanted to know. But I’ve hidden them now because seeing it on my feed all the time added to my obsession and all the people getting bfps at 8dpo (which is so rare!) was hard to see each month.

But I have been SO tempted with the psychic thing too!! I’ve never done anything like that before, I think I was just getting so impatient that I wanted to give it a try. But I never found anyone good, so let me know how you get on. I was put off a couple by the “special months” thing because they didn’t give any indication to what was special about them - I felt like was like a star sign, where you could probably twist anything to be relevant to you? Because a special month could be conception, bfp, first scan, gender, birth.. so they’d probably always get it “right”? But that didn’t stop me from being very tempted though 😂

@Amy259 @beckyBP yess definitely I re joined my local authority 3 years ago now you just know you're going to be looked after. Which is all you want especially when starting a family!

Is anyone a member of those TTC groups on FB? I'm a member of 2 and they both have over 20k plus members. There's fertility psychics on there too and, maybe quite foolish of me because I'm very skeptical of people like this, but I've just paid £15 for someone called Gemma Barr to give me a reading. She said 48 hours and it's been 48 hours now so I'm hoping to have it through today. She's supposed to predict your conception month, Important numbers, Spiritual signs, likelihood of twins and fertility guidance. Might be a load of bull but it's only what I'd have spent on a takeaway and there's always someone posting saying she got their prediction right.

6DPO today. TBF the way I calculated my first DPO I could be between 6-8DPO today. Not going to test though, I'm just going to hold out and see if AF turns up I think. Part of me really doesn't want to test because my anxiety is like omg what if you're pregnant, and then it's also like, OMG what if you're not? So if I don't test I won't have to deal with that just yet ha.

@Em201 Welcome! Good luck on your journey xx

Hi girls

How are you all?

I am completely new to this and hope you don’t mind me jumping on this thread! I have had a read through a few and thought this was one was probably most relevant to me!

We were due to get married next year but that is now all up in the air so we have made the decision to TTC earlier than originally planned!

I came off of my contraception on 30/10 and now waiting for my first real AF to arrive.

Look forward to chatting to you all you girls x