Our first month ttc our first

I’ve literally just spent hours reading the whole thread. I hope you don’t mind me joining in 🙈 it’s so lovely to find such a supportive thread.

I’ve been with my partner for 11 years (I’m nearly 27, he’s 27 already) and I have been wanting to start a family for about a year, I found out I have endometriosis last year which made me want to try sooner too. He on the other hand would have preferred to wait a few more years but understood how much it meant to me so we are now trying.

I promised myself I wouldn’t get obsessive over the journey but oh my gosh, it’s so hard isn’t it! 🙈

Currently in the TWW stage and I feel like I’m going crazy and can’t switch off or think of anything else.

I’m so glad I’m not alone.

Sending everyone lots of love and positivity 💛

@beckyBP after my pink indent line last month I’m def not using FRER this month! The Tesco next to me has a pack of 3 early detection CB so I think I’ll get them. Yeah I know that af feeling, once I get that I just want her to hurry up.

It’s so frustrating because the longer i take to ov the less likely I am to know by Christmas Day - and either way I’d rather know by then so I can relax and enjoy the festivities.

I wish I had temped this cycle but didn’t bother, then I’d definitely know if I was still waiting to ov or just somehow totally missed it.

Yeah the whole thing is bloody torture!!! Xx

@Amy259 it was the one line one. I wanted a FRER but they only had CB or cheapies!
I know, I guess that's why they say not to open them, maybe it's something to do with the air getting to it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think it's so much easier said than done isn't it. The TWW is torture!

Yeah literally a tiny amount and nothing since, not even like spotting. Think it was too late for implantation. AF is defo on its way! I've got that 'feeling' you know?

How frustrating for you! Good idea to get the BD going anyway though for sure! Yeah fingers crossed it's tomorrow for you!!

Eurgh this process is RIDICULOUS! I'm thinking I may try temping next cycle x

@beckyBP did you use the digital early detection one or the line one? That’s so annoying about the bfn then opening it and it going to bfp... I say every month I won’t test early but always do, then go through this 3-4 day stage of bfns but still holding onto hope it might change - soul destroying!

Weird with the random streak of blood though? Could you have ovulated late and it be implantation or too far on for that?

I’m okay - CD20 today and still no positive opk, which is very weird for me. Normally I peak somewhere between 17-19 and have always ovulated by 20... so still waiting 🤷🏼‍♀️ BD this morning and I’ll try my luck tomorrow morning too 😂 hopeful I peak tomorrow because from from about 1:30pm tomorrow afternoon DH has a crazy work schedule (inc. nights) until Thursday, so I definitely won’t get another chance xx

@Amy259 hey doll.. I know I said I definitely wasn't going to test but.,

I took a CB early detection test yesterday morning. BFN.

I opened I afterwards just because I never have and was interested and it genuinely changes the result. To look at now you'd think it was a BFP. You have to be so careful with these things don't you not to get your hopes up.

disclaimer - genuinely only opened as was curious and know the 'new' result is invalid

I also had a streak of blood when I wiped yesterday but nothing since but I fully have the feeling of AF arriving any second (due tomorrow).

How are you getting on?

How is everyone else? Xx

@beckyBP how are you getting on?? Xx

@Amy259 wow that's so interesting! I'm definitely going to check that book out. Really good to know. Thanks for that doll xxx

@beckyBP they say before is better anyway! So even if you didn’t ov until the Monday or even Tuesday you’ll be definitely covered.

I just finished that book I mentioned and it’s written by a doctor and only has legit studies as it’s sources, and it talks about how most experiments show that when couples were told to only have sex once in the fw, only about 15% of successful pregnancies happen on the day of ov - the remaining 85% are all 2 days before or the day before. And not one scientific study has shown a single pregnancy conceived the day after ovualtion! The reason for the day of ov not being as successful is that the egg is probably older (6-12 hrs) before it’s fertilised as no sperm were waiting for it, and so unlikely to be healthy enough to implant and most that manage to fertilise end in chemicals. Here’s me always worrying about catching o day each month when really there’s no need to stress! X

@Amy259 totally! I don't plan on. I have no tests here so hopefully I won't be tempted to go and get any.

Nightmare.. that ALWAYS seems to happen around ov doesn't it! I think I ov'd on the Saturday or Sunday and we did it both nights but Monday my fiancé had the most stressful few days (genuinely haven't seen him that stressed ever) so we didn't do it all that week. So let's hope my apps were pretty close with ovulation xx

@beckyBP bless ya, it’s the worst time isn’t it?! When is your plan test?

I’m okay thanks! Waiting to ov but DH just phoned to say he’s leaving work (3 hrs late) and has a hellish few days ahead so who knows if we’ll manage this month 😂 there’s always something... x

@Amy259 driving myself crazy, as to be expected I guess 😂

How are you doing hun? X

@beckyBP that’s exciting! How’s the tww treating you? X

That's really interesting @meganlea hope everyone is ok! I'm 9/10dpos and keeping 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Xx

@Amy259 it’s amazing what you learn about your own body isn’t it when TTC? I think I’ll probably continue taking these vitamins after having a baby if it makes me healthier ha! Yeah I’m definitely going to get some of that too then for the next cycle.
Fingers crossed it holds off a day or 2 then so it can be less stressful trying to fit it in alongside long days!! And yeah AF has pretty much gone this morning by the looks on things, CD 4 now so hopefully be in my fertile week back end of this week early next week fingers crossed. Knowing my luck the short cycle will be a one off and I’ll be testing 3 times a day for weeks 😫....hopefully not though but I’m determined to not miss the surge this time. Xx

@meganlea I’m veggie and kept reading how important fish oil (because of the omega 3) is for literally everything - your own health, fertility and baby’s development, so I figured I best start taking supplements haha.
I’m hopeful it’s nearer Friday/Sat because DH has a lot on at work this week and next and is travelling lots, so my best chance for fun dtd is definitely the weekend! Is af away for you yet?

@Amy259 ohh that’s good that is has all that in there already!! I’ve just checked the seven seas and it doesn’t have any vit c, it has vit d prep (whatever that means) but only a small amount! So I need to take them still then, I feel like a little old lady every morning taking my pills haha. And I don’t each fish either which is probs making me vit d deficient!

Ooo yeah the omega seems like it had made a bit of a difference this month then! At least you’re regular and know round about when O day is! Best get busy this week 😜 haha xx

@meganlea that’s super interesting! I would love for it to shorten without shortening my luteal phase - ovulating around day 14 would be a bloody dream 😂 I take pregnacare which has vit D3 and vit C in it which is good, but only 400 of folic acid and I recently read you should be taking 800.
I added in an omega 3 supplement this month because I don’t eat fish, and (potentially tmi here!!) have had ewcm last night and today which I never really get - not sure if there’s a link there but I’m not complaining as it did always concern me that I never saw any. Think I’m due to ovulate somewhere around Thursday-Sat this week x

And I am well aware every time I post on this thread it's nothing short of a small novel so I do apologise girls I just have a lot to say and no one in the real world is on the same page so I just unload everything here haha x

Hey all, just wanted to quickly message to say I've been doing some research as to why my cycle jumped from 35 days down to 23, and the 23 day cycle the only thing I did differently is that I started taking the vitamins that DH takes every day, on top of the seven seas that I was already taking. The vitamins are Vitamin C chew tablets and Vitamin D (on the back it says they're vitamin d3), they're both from aldi and pretty cheap. I googled the relationship between Vitamin D and the menstrual cycle and there's sooo many studies showing not only does it reduce PMS symptoms, but sometimes duration too, that's if you have a Vit D deficiency which I could have had. And apart from being emotional and having cramps, I had no other PMS symptoms, and every month without fail I get these killer headaches and I didn't get them at all this time. It could be a fluke like, I'll see how long this cycle is and if it's around the same number of days, I'll know it wasn't just a one off. But might help people who's cycles aren't regular and haven't been diagnosed with anything like PCOS / other hormone related conditions. @Amy259 might be worth a try see if it will shorten yours! xx

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@meganlea I hope so. Had to know when you're not tracking though 😕

I was exactly the same., was never sure what classes as day 1 and it's the first full day of flow so I'd say no! Xx

@Amy259 yeah definitely AF I’ve been crying at Greys Anatomy all afternoon haha.

@beckyBP aww it sounds like you’ve covered yourself anyway just frustrating having to wait. It’s so hard not to wish your life away whilst TTC!!

Guys if it’s just a day of brown CM, would you class that as CD1 or would you wait until you get red? I’ve never been sure on this one!

@rosiej95 sorry doll! Although, you're not out until AF arrives!

@meganlea sorry your OH is still suffering. That's so frustrating for you both. Seems like you've got a plan and you're on it though. Well done

I'm roughly 6dpo now. DTD a fair amount in lead up and two days over when I think ovulation was. Then OH had a REALLY stressful week so no more DTD since. Hopefully that hadn't ruined chances and I ovulated when I thought I did.

Hope everyone's ok! Happy Friday xx

Wow @meganlea that’s crazy!! Such a big difference in cycles. But yes less waiting about which is lovely - I’m jealous 😂 brown spotting definitely not implantation? Glad to here DTD hasn’t been affected by your OH’s pain but sorry that he’s still suffering, that’s rotten. Fingers crossed the new antibiotics help!

@rosiej95 sorry about your bfn 😔 it’s no help right now, but try to remember how quickly the disappointment moves on to being ready to try again when af comes! It’ll pass and we go again ♥️

@rosiej95 urgh that’s so annoying. I hope it’s just late implantation for you!!

Hi all, quick update, DH is still on and off with pain in his groin/testicle area, he went back to the Drs just now, he’s been prescribed another but different course of anti biotics (I’m praying they don’t affect TTC but I’ll read the labels when he’s home lol) and they’re referring him for a scan on down there just for his own peace of mind they don’t suspect anything, he’s getting stressed over it. We DTD the other day and he isn’t in pain with sex so we’re good to go in that area.
But anyway, shock horror, I’ve had brown CM today so AF should be here tonight/tomorrow if not then this weekend 100%. Which is crazy because my cycles are usually 5 weeks! And I’m only on CD23 today? Must be my health kick that I’ve been on that’s brought it down to a normal length! Anyway, a bit gutted because it confirms I completely missed my O day I predicted CD24 and apparently it was around CD11-12 and explains why my temps surged around CD11 onwards lol. But I’m taking a massive positive from this that if AF comes tomorrow, I don’t have to wait over 3 whole weeks to get into my fertile week again so fingers crossed I get another 23-24 day cycle and I will be testing for my LH surge 3 times a day from CD8 onwards and using the temp calculator you gave me which has made my temps look more stable so thank you so much !! @Amy259