Our first month ttc our first

@beckyBP @Amy259 So apparently I'll be pregnant by July/August and will have a new job by March/April

@beckyBP haha yeah mine too - although I’m trying not to tell him too much because if I do get a BFP I want to surprise him (and also because he stops taking stuff in if I talk about symptoms etc for too long 🙈).

The vaccine is a tricky one. My grandparents had their first shot of it yesterday which is great and 100% needed for their generation atm. I’m hoping by the time it would even come around to us that I’d be pregnant and therefore wouldn’t have it until at least a few months after birth. I wouldn’t want it whilst pregnant tbh, or whilst trying. But that’s not to say you could catch corona whilst trying/pregnant and they don’t really know the long term affects that can have either so 🤷🏼‍♀️ I guess the difference is pregnant people have had corona and things seem to be ok atm, whereas the same can’t be said for the vaccine. But then no vaccines are really tested on pregnant people anyway. I do want to have it because we’re never going to get out of this sh*t show otherwise, but I think I’ll see where I’m at (I.e pregnant or not) when it comes to having it and get the advice of my doctor. Sorry that was so long 😅

@beckyBP I won't be having the vaccine just yet, it's been recommended if your pregnant or ttc not to have it as it hasn't been tested enough during pregnancy so I'll wait until they 100% know it's safe

@Amy259 @beckyBP I keep checking my emails 🤣🤣

Christmas is cancelled in our house, we're both nurses and working Christmas Day so was planning on doing Christmas dinner on Boxing Day but not allowed now 🙄

@meganlea tbh.. I feel like nothing shocks me anymore in 2020.

So sorry to hear you're struggling with it! I think just keep reminding yourself this isn't forever. It might not be the year we've planned but man it's going to be another level of awesome when it's over 🤍

I'm weirdly calm about it all this time.. I think when March came along it ruined our June wedding and for me personally that was the hardest thing.

@DNpink82 let us know how it goes! I'm intrigued

@Amyc94 it does. I'm wales so we still get some form of Christmas here. Where are you?

@Rice1992 you're spot on. I've learnt so much in the time I've been trying and I think my fiancé has taken in about 5% of that 😂

Yeah I don't envy the gov either.. whatever they do people don't like it so they can't win 😂 you're right though.. getting our hopes up for Christmas shouldn't have happened.

What's your guys opinion on the vaccine? It says you shouldn't have it if you're pregnant or planning to be in the next 3 months.

@meganlea yeah I’m starting to get a bit worried again. We’re in Scotland so for now it’s business as usual - we have tiers 0-4 here and I live in a 2, so we’re allowed to travel to areas the same or lower than us but haven’t been able to go into other houses for about 8 weeks now... but we can meet in cafes/restaurants. Then on Boxing Day the whole country is going to level 4 lockdown for minimum 3 weeks... and our schools aren’t going back until at least 18th Jan, so at lease we’ll hopefully see if that makes a difference.
We’re allowed to mix on Christmas Day so we’re still spending it with my parents but I am pretty worried about it. It’s all just such a scary and uncertain time 😔

@DNpink82 keep me posted 😂

@beckyBP yeah I’m pretty jealous of them too tbh 😅 The way I look at it though is that we’re educating ourselves, so if anything, we’re bettering our knowledge to help us and friends (like my best friend doesn’t know anything about TTC, so I’m filling her in on a lot!). That’s the way I try and rationalise the googling anyway 🤣

Sorry to hear you’re in tier 4 that’s so rubbish 🙁 I don’t envy the government but I think they really messed up the Christmas stuff by getting peoples hopes up too early. But anyway that’s enough about politics, back to TTC 😂 I’ve decided to test Tuesday not Wednesday, as I’ll be about 12DPO then and the wait is torturing me! Really hoping something would show up if it was a BFP then 🤔

@Lotty88 congratulations on your BFP that’s such lovely news! ☺️ Xx

@beckyBP yep we are tier 4 too 😑😑 sucks doesn't it!

@Amy259 I've just ordered my Psychic Derrek 🙈 I'll let you know what he says 🤣

@Amy259 that’s so true no point stressing this early on!

@beckyBP sorry to hear you’re in tier 4, how awful!

Anyone else getting a bit of pandemic anxiety again? I had it quite bad I March when it first started and I ended up not having a period for 69 days. I’ve woke up at 4am naturally to temp and I’m finding it hard to relax my breathing and control my shaking. I think it’s because I’m seeing family at Christmas and it’s getting closer and it’s making me super anxious but I don’t want to cancel Christmas because DH would be absolutely devastated. I just can’t stop feeling sick about it! 😫 any tips to take my mind off it?

@meganlea great news about your husband. Glad you're back in the game

Welcome @Rice1992 husbands/partners just DONT get the obsessiveness.. slightly jealous of them 😂

@Amy259 I think we've all lost the plot tbf. You defo aren't alone.
Amazing that it's changed your mindset! Good on you girl.

@Lotty88 HUGE congrats on your BFP!! WOOP woop!!

Hope everyone else is ok?! Also.. tier 4 over here 🙋🏼‍♀️ yaay 😑

@Amy259 thank you xx

@Lotty88 oh my god how did I miss that?! Congratulations!!

@DNpink82 @justwanttobemum tried to link the Etsy shop but it won’t let me so go on Etsy and search psychicderrek, that’s him.

@meganlea for now it’s completely changed my mindset. June marks 1 year for us so it’s when we’d qualify for help. So on one hand someone has seen me have a healthy conception by then makes me stress less now. But on the other hand even if it’s bollocks it’s made me remember that I can’t actually do much about it until June anyway so why stress so much?! Just enjoy trying!

Thank you so much. It hasn’t sunk in at the moment. Merry Christmas to you too! Hope 2021 is your year xxx

@Lotty88 wow, amazing news!! ✨ Merry Christmas to you and yours!!! The perfect gift from you to you lol. Congratulations 🎉.....and yep I can imagine the worrying just increases big time when you get that BFP, lots more new worries haha! Xx

@meganlea hey Megan. Yeah I tested this morning...and it’s positive. I can’t believe it. It’s been 2 years! I’ve done three tests and definitely a BFP. I so hope it happens for all you guys soon, I didn’t think it would happen for me so don’t give up hope! I only joined this group a few days ago but found it so helpful to know others were in the same position as me. Now to worry about the fact I am! Such early days but trying to keep positive and not worry xx

@Lotty88 omg did you manage to test?! Hope AF hasn’t come yet or at all!!

@Amy259 so sorry only just seen this it’s been a hectic few days!! Welcome to my world haha at least I’m not the only one paying online psychics I’ve never heard of. You kinda got a bargain there!! I paid £15 and was told April?!. Kinda hope it’s not true and it happens earlier but also gave me a bit of faith as all I could think is well they didn’t say I’m infertile which lifted my spirits massively. What if he can actually sense it though and it does happen around that time??. I’m glad you’ve put it on here because if he’s right he’ll get a LOT more custom!! How do you feel after hearing back from him??

@Amy259 I want his name too, I'm happy to waste £3.70 🤣🤣

@Amy259 this is very me! Can I have his name hahaha

Girls help me I have officially lost the plot.

In the ttc Facebook group I creep on (always read, never post!) for people using the Premom app was going crazy yesterday over some Etsy psychic reading guy who got loads of women/their friends spot on with his fertility reading. Looked at his shop this morning, £3.70 or something, course I bought it, didn’t I? Never had a psychic reading or been into any of that stuff in my life... here I am asking a stranger to use a deck of cards to predict if I’ll get pregnant soon 🙈 I’ve lost it.

He replied about 10 minutes ago saying he sees successful conception by June-July with a full term healthy pregnancy. He also advised prenatals which made me laugh 😂

Haha I know, I think this sort of science would have benefited me more than anything else!

I’m 15dpo, according to my clue app it predicted by period on Wednesday but my cycles do vary by around 3 days. I’ve been having cramping since Tuesday so expected to have seen AF by now but nothing yet. Too scared to test! Only found this group yesterday, nice to see so many common themes without people thinking that you’re going mad! You have a good right outlook though, a negative test I suppose just means you can relax/have a few drinks over Christmas! Xx

@Amy259 well you've got one more day for a potential implant. But you're right, even if it's not the outcome you want, at least you know you can really let your hair down for Christmas!!

@meganlea I would think by 11dpo a bfp would show up so I’m guessing I’m out this month. A Christmas bfp would’ve been amazing but I’m trying to focus on the positives - like Christmas bubbly! 😂

@Lotty88 oh I know! I spent about 14 years thinking I had to do everything in my power to prevent it whereas actually it’s quite a science 😂

@Amy259 ahh thank you for explaining! Who knew baby making was so complicated! They didn’t pre-warn us of this in school!

@Amy259 Ooo keep temping just in case at least if it dips you'll know AF is coming so can kind of mentally prepare for it a bit. But yeah, fingers crossed it isn't a fluke like mine, I knew 23 days was way too good to be true haha! Yeah now you can take a massive positive from this cycle it just means testing and temping a lot earlier if you're planning to track the next cycle, but hopefully it won't even come to that at all and AF doesn't come at all!!!

Yeah definitely a big relief, can put this behind us not sort of and hopefully be able to try this cycle!! x