TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

@fafi my smoothies can be made with water rather than fruit juice so maybe I should try that. Least I’m still getting that fruit or veg then. And pom juice with breakfast x

@fafi good to know! Yes think I might start having the pom juice with breakfast and a smoothie later on? Is pom juice sugary do we think? I definitely don’t want to be having too much sugar as fruit has enough and I already cut out my spoon of sugar in my tea lol. Also cut right back on chocolate and biscuits etc. Only proper sweet thing I had yesterday was pudding after dinner. X

@pugprincess I had those shooting pains in my vagina and thought it was weird and now I'm pregnant so fingers crossed!! There is loads of sugar in juice too so watch it, can really mess with your teeth. Only a glass a day really.

@scrambledeggy welcome, I loss is a loss no matter how many weeks. I hate the term chemical pregnancy it makes you feel like it's not real. @pancakes7 welcome to you too, sorry for your losses.

@northernsoul90 my CM continued. I think if conception didn't occur it tends to dry up. Mine was watery and then creamy / sticky and I still get it most days now at 6+3

@Jazper I'm so sorry you're feeling this way 😔 as the others have said you're not out until AF arrives and even if she does you got this!!

@Firevie @MichT4 I know I need to just not even go there and do it to myself symptom spotting is the devil! Xx

@Pugprincess Yes going with a different lender over a shorter term so I'm cleaning and sorting like a mad woman 😂. I hope af isn't lurking for you... I started trying to check my cm but I've talked myself out of it as it would just be another thing to think about xx

@MrsK21 I hope the days go quick for you lovely!! Xx

@Jazper Sorry that it was negative and you are feeling low 😣 it's still early yet though so I would definitely wait a few days and if no af retest? I am also 10dpo and trying to wait it out until Saturday but struggling to think about anything else. TTC after mc is an absolute struggle emotionally as well as physically - the longing for a baby is unbearable. We are all here for you 💖 xx

@Pancakes7 sorry for your loss to and welcome to the group. Are you keeping an eye out for ovulation, thinking if bleedings stopped you might start ovulating again. Do you test xx

@Jazper I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. 10dpo is so early still, please don't give up hope, you're not out until AF arrives. Sorry if I have missed it, but how many cycles are you post mc? Like you, I fell pregnant so quickly pre MC, literally decided to try and bang, it happened. Here I am now CD 68 and nothing much going on.
I also had LOADS of hair fall. My hormones I think were to blame, I found cowashing (just washing couple of times a week with conditioner only) really helped along with leaving it braided and just giving it time. But it's horrid feeling you're also going bald on top of MC.
Hope it slows down soon for you and sending you a big hug xxx

Oh and @MichT4 your puppy is 😍😍😍 congratulations and we all want lots of pics when he comes home. Don't be anxious, it's a journey in itself owning a doggo but one filled with excitement and joy and love and frustration. You'll love it xx

@Jazper sorry yours isn’t showing either. Still early for us both though. I’m not testing again now just going to see if AF comes. I had two cries yesterday and nearly had a third while in a shop 😩 hugs to you, it is bloody hard xxx

@scrambledeggy Yh I’ve cut out all caffeine so decaf tea (was never a coffee drinker) but drank Diet Coke. Once I was preg I reduced Diet Coke to just once with dinner but since mc I’ve stopped that too. I don’t think decaf tea has any or just small amounts of caffeine right?? I only let myself have 2 cups a day max anyway. Trying to drink more water.

I’ve learnt today that a glass of juice and then a glass of smoothie all only counts as one of your 5 a day 😩 so I’ve not been doing as well as I thought 😩

@SmileyT , I did check in yesterday to see how your scan went and was so relieved to see it was good news. Congratulations and try to relax ❤️

@Pugprincess sorry your tests aren't showing more definitive positives. I know how much you need this. I am keeping everything crossed for you.

@Pugprincess thanks for posting the link. I might try out that one tmr. I think it doesn’t really matter which exact videos you do - I’m sure they’re all good and beneficial! Yay loving our little Bettina rae group here haha xx

Hi ladies. Thank you for the new thread @VP91x
I had such a busy weekend, it didn't even enter my head to test. 10dpo today, Monday morning feeling, new work week, and I caved. Absolute negative. This ttc journey is killing me. I'm gutted. Why is not happening? How can I have fallen pregnant so easily and quickly pre mc, and it's not happening now post mc? I'm also losing so much hair when I wash or brush it and I'm concerned that my hormones are just not right, but I'm fretting a regular LH surge every month, so perhaps I'm just paranoid? Urgh. Feel so bloody sad. Sat at my work desk just holding back the tears. I didn't even tell my OH I tested. Just carrying the disappointment alone 😢 xx

@Firevie thank you, I will try that one tomorrow as I did this one by her today in the end before I saw your message
Lots of deep breathing and some stretches. This ones for ovulation and implantation. I see your link is for the tww so that’s good! X

Thank you @Northernsoul90 and @micht4 , it's so reassuring to have somewhere to vent. @pugprincess Cup of tea and list of jobs! Sounds good, I am also drinking lots of decaff tea. I'm supposed to be working right now (I am still working I swear!) but this group is really calming my nerves.

@Pancakes7 Sorry for your losses, I hope this is the cycle for you or that things at least settle down. How lovely that you have a son already though! Hope you're managing okay during this weird time.

I feel like (pardon the pun) such a baby reading this thread, you've all got mortgages and proper household chores, I'm still renting and driving an old banger! Good motivation to pursue my career goals I guess

Best of luck @Lollol86! I always end up baking loads of cake when I need to distract myself, not sure if that's a proper medical recommendation though

@Pugprincess do it! Join us! This is the link of the one I’ve done today. Once you go to this link you’ll see many more pop up from Bettina rae so I think I will work through them
Xx

My opk tests are back to low 😊 so now the dresses tww starts. I need to try stay occupied as I drive myself mad 😂

@scrambledeggy @Pancakes7 welcome to the group and sorry to hear about your losses. This group is a godsend and I hope you find comfort here

@MrsK21 I'm feeling good today after such a lovely weekend. I just told my boss in a quick fire way 😂 so that's another thing done. This week I'm just working, it's both in laws birthdays this week so will pop there at some point and then have a lunch out for it on Saturday. Hoping to see the pup on Friday but need to call her today. Hopefully that'll see me to a nice 9/10dpo. As if I won't be thinking about it every day 😂

Sounds like you'll be busy enough to get to your appointment quickly. How are you?

@Northernsoul90 it's so hard but try not to symptom spot or test! After my first MC I was terrible for SS but frustratingly my pre AF symptoms had changed to mimic PG signs so it really threw me. Not saying that will happen, but it's best to remain blissfully ignorant, although appreciate that's not easy!

@Pugprincess sounds like you've got lots to occupy yourself. Not long to keep distracted for

xx

@Firevie think I ought to try this yoga lol. Is it YouTube. Which one have you done today. How long is the session x

@SmileyT that's amazing on your scan :D hope you are feeling reassured and can relax until at least your next scan when you'll hopefully see a lot more

@VP91x oooh new puppy and new job! So much happening for you this week, enjoy Legoland, I love taking my niece and nephew there!
Yep you're right, my next appointment is Thurs, so not too far away and it's with the consultant. Fx I get some answers re this cyst. Though I've been doing some reading and leaving a chocolate cyst seems to be better than removing it if it's causing no pain etc. Apparently removing it can also remove healthy ovarian tissue which might actually make TTC / assisted conception harder. How confusing now!

@MichT4 your temps are still way high, so hopefully all OK. Hope you had a nice relaxing break over the weekend too. Anything else keeping you busy this week?

@Pugprincess sorry it was a BFN but you're still so early. I felt like you too and first cycle straight after MC just wanted to chuck everything at it. I've since calmed down a bit! lol

@Northernsoul90 aagggh the urge is strong! But try and stick to your promise, testing early can be such a mind f*!

I've got a horribly busy week at work so it'll hopefully make time go quickly to my next appointment!

@Northernsoul90 ah are you going with a different lender? Good luck!

Funny you mention cm cause on toilet when I wiped I’ve just had this...slight brown tinge I think. I know some might say could be an implantation bleed. But I didn’t notice one last pregnancy although I know they can be totally different. For me brown usually means AF is lurking. Xx

@Northernsoul90 don’t do it - symptom spotting !! If you do the Bettina Rae gentle fertility class she will say exactly done. Don’t Symptom Spot instead trust that your baby is on its way to you xx

@scrambledeggy So sorry for your loss 💕 wishing you luck this cycle! I'm in the tww also currently 10dpo xx

@Pugprincess Sounds like a good plan with lots to keep you busy! I need to get in gear as well got lots to do today, the house is being valued tomorrow for remortgaging xx

@Pancakes7 We don't mind at all, welcome and so sorry for your loss. You will find lots of friendly support here 😊 xx

I'm trying not to symptom spot 🥴 but does anyone know what cervical mucus would be like if conception has occurred? I'm finding differing things online!

@Pancakes7 ah I can see you’ve found us. I just responded to you on the other thread asking if you can find this one. Welcome to this group and so sorry for your loss but this group and these ladies are amazing and inspirational! We are all here for you xx

Hello, I had an mmc in May 2018, my son was born May 2019 and is now 14 & a half months old. I've just had another mmc. I had the smm on Friday. I'm wanting to try again ASAP. Strangely this time I'm not bleeding at all. So feeling ready. I hope you don't mind me joining your group.

@scrambledeggy don’t worry I’ve gone nuts and done the same this month. It’s my first cycle since my mc so I have to learn to wait for Mother Nature to let me know.

My first pregnancy I didn’t test till day 33 ish (I did test on day 28 and I just looked quick and thought that’s neg and threw away-I do wonder if that came up positive after lol) even my day 33 one took a couple of mins to develop and longer to get darker. I suppose that’s another reason why I stare at them for 5-10 mins cause I need to make sure lol.

I’m still getting all sorts of twinges and twitches going on. Had shooting pain in right thigh for awhile last night and then shooting pain down my lower left side back. I’ve had pains shoot up my vagina and in my nipple, around my belly button. Headaches etc, the symptom spotting has been unreal. Last time I didn’t even suspect anything until day 28 when I hadn’t had any strong pains or brown spotting like I usually get. Then my day 30 I had ovulation pains and remember thinking I’m due on why am I getting that now.

I’m guessing my pmt symptoms might be different now. So once I get this cycle done maybe I know what my new normal is so I won’t get myself so worked up next time.

Anyway I have made it downstairs with a cup of tea and written a little list of jobs to get on with 💪🏻