TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

@2020wish aww I don’t blame you for being almost superstitious with it, I would be the same. Feel like cursed myself by telling so many people and yesterday I saw DH grandma and she said she had knitted the baby a cardigan but she will save it for me 😭 in that last photo I was about 7 weeks xx

@Jazper very good point! I need to be looking after myself as if I am pregnant I suppose, just in case!
I'm glad you are feeling a little better. It's always good to talk through things. Will your GP not run tests? I popped into mine today as I had a little 'bump' appear on the sole of my foot and wanted it checked out (🙋🏻‍♀️ another over thinker right here!). He wasn't worried but it was the same doc who authorised my tests. He just think I'm a loon! I asked if I could have the progesterone one now but he said they had to be done in order really and that I wouldn't know where I was to be certain of my cycle. I didn't preach OPKs and temps as I don't think doctors take much notice. But my point is, he is willing to do them all and I think if you can talk to the right person then you should be able to get the ball rolling. I know I was lucky to get him, but worth a try? Definitely if you are having issues with hair loss too, although they can also be difficult if they think your hormones aren't settled enough. It shouldn't be this hard!

I'd say definitely have a conversation, see what they say? You never know - they might whisk you off for tests. I'm sure it's nothing wrong, given you are struggling with the hair loss I think it's just your body needing more time to balance out. And once it does, you'll be good to go.

Sorry if that's rambly and unhelpful. I just want you to feel better and positive that soon you'll have your sticky bean.

@SmileyT glad it was a little cooler. I had derailed from MAFS over the weekend so I'm watching now. How are you finding it?

@VP91x glad you had a good day today! Are you all ready for your first day? Is it in the office?

xx

@MichT4 thank you for checking up and asking how my day progressed. I felt better for speaking with my OH. He was really understanding and encouraging. He doesn't think there's an issue with either of us, and he's positive 'it will happen when it happens' but I'm a really anxious over thinker. So as I said, we're looking in to tests on him just for peace of mind. With me, I'm pretty sure my hormones haven't settled properly after the mc and I'm just in limbo wondering what to do. Emotionally, I'm ok, at the moment 🙈
And you definitely need to have breakfast before work lady! An army doesn't march on an empty stomach and your army has a baby to make!! Xx

@MrsK21 will be thinking of you Thursday and hope you get some answers. Although a bfp in two weeks time would be lovely for you 🥰

@VP91x thank you and thanks for the tips re. Hair loss. I lost hair after having my babies but losing it after a mc is just a massive kick in the bloody teeth isn't it 😢 we're looking in to same basic fertility tests. My OH wants to be analysed. Not because we think it's him, we just want peace of mind as he's older. I definitely think my hormones are out of whack and I'm wondering whether to ask for hormonal bloods done on me. Or whether to push for those through the docs on the basis of mc, hair loss, etc. What's your thoughts?

I wish it was a bump :( lol aww look at yours! How far along where u in that? Actually I’m not yet. I know it’s stupid but I’m too afraid to buy cream and all that jazz until after my scan so I know it’s progressing and viable. Cause my second loss happened right after I ordered pregnancy stuff online so just a little bit still on the fence atm

@2020wish this is how mine was. Are you moisturising? X

@2020wish awww look at your bump ❤️ I know you say it’s bloat but just show it off 🤗 least you are preg haha I have no excuse at the moment 🤪 I loved my bump when I had it. Let me find a pic from just before my mc xx

Excuse the nail marks I was scratching cause my skin feels that tight it’s itchy

@Pugprincess I’m really hoping this is your month and that’s a good Bloat! Omg u want to see mine... I’m only like 5.5 weeks and I’ve been so bloated from the beginning. My tummy is stretched out and rock hard- no soft bits.. I can’t suck it in as it’s so uncomfortable and it actually looks like the beginning of like a 4/5 month bump.. I’m embarrassed going outside cause all my tops are tight fitting because I have a flat tummy usually but now I actually look either pregnant or fat but I know it’s just bloat so if people where to ask me was I pregnant I’d be embarrassed saying yes but like 5/6 weeks lol my tummy is so sore. I’m not even eating cause my appetite is gone and the sickness feeling. Like what is this??? Surely it’s not normal

@VP91x Neve is 101cm and I have avoided going as thought it wouldn't be fair on her not being able to go on much but obviously there is more there for her than I realised xx

@VP91x no I haven't been since then, is it good? Ahhh sounds like you had a fab day. I will have to book a trip there. Was there much for Bella to go on? Xx

@Firevie aw you sound as though you are reaching the end of your tether. Hopefully the email is ok and work gets sorted out. Walking is good to clear the mind, I took a long walk today too. Xx

Said bloat and puggles...I’m no six pack but I promise my gut isn’t always like this 😆

@2020wish Yh I don’t even have any desire left to poas now 😂 I’ve had it with tests lol, I will wait and see what Mother Nature brings.

@fafi yes soy milk would be good, or I read Greek yoghurt too. I’m on whole milk so I could give that a go for the extra calcium too.

@SmileyT it’s definitely coming out a slight shade of whatever that is lol because I’ve seen it wet on tissue but i agree the liner must have dried a bit by the time I got home cause the stuff on tissue isn’t so dark. It’s almost like discharge with the tiniest hint of brown. I really hope it’s not AF but not much I can do about it, out of my hands isn’t it. Hate the bloating though it reminds me of being preg 😭 my tummy was going down after mc, but since ovulation I’ve bloated up, think I will be in for a hell of a period if it comes. Must be the progesterone xx

@SmileyT yay hope you found it useful!!!
@Rainbowhope11 as others have said I wouldn’t worry about it. Many don’t know they’re pregnant and keep on drinking
DH is at friends this eve so I’m making my student dinner which I make when he’s not around - spicy tuna sweet corn pasta bake yumm
Have also been for my 6k walk as something at work is really stressing me out. My boss and I need to resolve something for our clients and I’ve been beating myself up about it that I should have spotted the mistake. My boss is amazing and not mad but just says we have to resolve it but I can’t help spiralling into a negative bubble so I had to step Way whilst I’m waiting for his email
I just feel I’m ready for a holiday / have been working nonstop, DH had the virus at beginning of lockdown, got pregnant, lost baby and through it all I’ve been working which tbh has been a grat distraction. I love my job so always want to be perfect and if something then doesn’t go to plan I beat myself up about it
Anyway rant over / once I’ve had my run a pasta bake I will have a relaxing evening watching tv waiting for my boss email xx

@fafi @2020wish @MichT4 @SmileyT thanks ladies! 🤞🏼 that it's doesn't affect my chances!

@SmileyT honestly it was so good, I’ll get back on my diet tomorrow 🤣🤣 xx

@VP91x yeah it'll be like 2 1/2 weeks between now and the next scan and then the same amount of time until the dating scan. How was legoland? X

@MichT4 It was nice that it was a bit cooler today for the commute on the tube, beginning of the month is always mental at work so this week will go fast, and just put MAFS Australia on 👌🏾

@Firevie I tried one of Bettina Rae's yoga practices this afternoon, thanks for the Rec x

@Lollol86 omg now you've mentioned McDs I could really eat one, really trying to be good and OH made a whole loads of chicken and veg on the BBQ yesterday but I feel like I need McDs 😂

@Rainbowhope11 I did the same thing around ovulation last month, I was so drunk and had my CB static that morning so had no idea if the temp rise was just from the alcohol, I've now concluded it probably was and I ovulated the day after... touch wood it didn't do me any harm 🙈

@Pugprincess yeah I wouldn't be worried about that I find that white CM dries an off yellow colour and is nothing I've ever worried about x

Welcome to all those that have joined us, sorry you find yourself here but this is honestly the most supportive thread following a loss so feel free to share whatever.

@Rainbowhope11 I think it makes a difference but might not be much. How much did it spike? I reckon tonight it might be a bit lower but still high.
And don't worry about a few drinks. It doesn't hinder your chances. So many people (including me first time) wouldn't know they were pg and would be merrily drinking, so that won't change the outcome of your month 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@pugprincess yeah I'd have the pom and a smoothie at the most - I'm sure it'll be nice even with water or even like soy milk for some protein!

@rainbowhope11 yeah mine shoots up when I've been drinking!

@Rainbowhope11 I noticed when I had alcohol my temp was raised the next day but it could also be a combination of the two. Sorry not much help lol

@SmileyT I'm so glad everything went well at your scan! ❤️