TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

Aw @Pugprincess , I'm so sorry you've had such a tough day. @chloedancer897 post really resonated with me though. I too was so so so desperate in the first few months after mc to become pregnant and in hindsight, I don't even think I ovulated the first two months afterwards and my body clearly wasn't ready but starting trying immediately after, and being so desperate to fall pregnant has made this journey feel sooooo long and I aren't even pregnant (yet!!! 🤨)

@MichT4 not impressed you missed breakfast again. Knitting my eyebrows together in your direction! 😂

@VP91x thank you for your early morning advice on testing. We've called the clinic and got the ball rolling. Calling again tomorrow to make a firm consultation appointment.

@Northernsoul90 sorry you have struggled today too. This part of the tww is the absolute worst. I think I'm better testing early as I know once I've tested, I can't test again for another two days at least, otherwise, I'd just be thinking about it alllllll the time. But everyone has their own way and I really wish I could just push it out so I didn't waste so much money on tests!
Anyway, getting back to you, it's good to give yourself a goal. Like 'if af doesn't arrive by X date, I'll phone the GP'. I really hope something happens for you soon. A bfp being the winner outcome, obviously.

@Firevie and @MichT4
You've both given some really sound advice today in trusting in our bodies. It really hit hard after being so sad yesterday. You're right, our bodies have been through a lot, as have our souls. We need to allow them to recover and trust they will come right.
Thank you both ❤️

@BEESY90 I am the exact same and terrified to test! I'm in the tww also. When do you think you will test? Xx

@Pugprincess I'm glad you are feeling a little better and have managed to keep busy xx

@VP91x Thank you, I was just having a wobble earlier I feel a bit better now 😊 just got to try and keep going - it makes me feel so much better speaking to you ladies about it. I don't blame you about the sex thing I get like that - you just get in a bit of a rut and see dtd as a means to an end. I feel a bit guilty sometimes, DH days that I farm him 🙈. If you feel up to it maybe dtd as EWCM is a good sign but don't be hard on yourself about not wanting to initiate xx

@Pugprincess we were the same. I wouldn't say every month we were actively trying but not preventing. Sounds like your diet is great! I don't eat a lot of fish. You probably get plenty of omega 3 xx

@SmileyT a little better thank you. Think I’m finding the mornings especially hard because I wake up and think oh crap all this is still real 😩 I managed to do some painting and gardening this afternoon. I had a little more discharge when I went toilet once but nothing on my liner yet and not had anything else for a bit. Just hope it stops. Xx

@chloedancer897 hi it was me asking about the pregnacare too I think so thank you. I don’t take an omega 3 supplement so I shall order one. I do eat makeral, kippers, tuna and white fish though. My calc Fluor has just arrived from amazon so I shall get straight on that till AF. I’ve been trying 5 years and same as you my one and only pregnancy was a mc. The whole 5 years we haven’t tried every month solidly though, some periods where we gave up and wasn’t having enough sex or timing anything at all. It’s too hard to do it solidly but I am 100% ready in my life to do this now. I had doubts over those 5 years cause we was renting a flat and I didn’t want to get stuck in a first floor one bed with a baby. Now we have bought a house and I’ve finally after a year settled in lol. Then I had job security worries and we moved so far so it might not be easy to have family help us with child care etc. Now I’ve finished both my old zero hours contract type jobs which were unreliable and stressful week to week financially I will just be working the one job-which reminds me hope your first day went well @VP91x
You tempt me with the aspirin but I would have to call my doctor first. X

@BEESY90 I am exactly like you. I’d probably push it out for a few days lol

I think I would be terrified to test because I am scared to know result! Is that normal?! X

@MichT4 ahh definitely loads of things to look forward to for you over the next month ☺️ I'm so excited for my holiday but it's not for another 14weeks and I haven't had any time off since my MC in March, so by the time I go it'll have been 8 months without a day off and I'll well and truly need it 😴

@Pugprincess how are you feeling now? x

@Firevie ahh that will be a fabulous trip and definitely a great chance to relax and have loads of fun x

@Pugprincess I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I was exactly the same last month and was super obsessive the first cycle after my MC, although in retrospect, I really should have just let myself and my body heal, I wasn't ready to be pregnant again. I echo what the others are saying, try not to stress and trust your body, it will do its thing. Remind me how long you've been trying? I've been trying almost 3 years and had MC in May. My first and only so far. I was so over the moon to see that positive test and then I felt so determined to get pregnant ASAP as I'd read so much about being so fertile after MC. I've stopped symptom spotting altogether now because I actually think we are just more in tuned with our bodies and looking out for things. Try to find things to distract you if you can. So hard to do when TTC is all you think about if you're anything like me!

I can't remember who was asking about the difference between pregnant are conception and the normal one but there isn't much. As long as you're taking folic acid, vit D, you need omega 3 which you can get from flaxseed if you do seed cycling and just make sure you're getting enough sleep and looking after yourself. I'm also trying calc fluor this month. I'm sure it'll take a few months to take effect. I also spoke to my SIL who said the only thing that got her pregnant was aspirin which I'll start next cycle and @2020wish swears by it too!

Hi @BEESY90 don’t feel alone. This is a lovely group of ladies! We are all in it together! Sending positive vibes xx

Hi everyone i’m 11 dpo from fertility medss if the OPK was right. Its a horrible time. Lovely to read all your stories and not feel alone x

@MichT4 yes you will have a lovely time. No I've not got another holiday planned. We were supposed to be going to New York at the end of the year but that's not happening now 😭😭 xx

Thanks everyone yes I cannot wait! All my friends will be at the wedding too which will be lovely! And I’m right there with you guys in terms of overthinking but we have to break that habit. I think I have mentioned it before but if you have Spotify listen to Rob Dial - he is so good and hits the nail on the head with things such as overthinking, negative thinking etc!

@Northernsoul90 exactly. Don't give yourself a hard time, this could all be great signs that things are happening. What's the plan for keeping busy this week? xx

@MichT4 Thank you!! It's hard isn't it I just keep thinking if I'm 11dpo today I wouldn't have got my period yet anyway so hopefully things are just moving in the right direction xx

@Lollol86 it is a long drive, but with a pitstop it won't be too bad. And once we get there it'll be a delight!

Are you off anywhere?

@Firevie wow that trip sounds amazing, and a wedding thrown in too! Lovely!

@Northernsoul90 I hear ya - I'm a fellow overthinker! xx

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@Firevie ohhh so jealous, I would love to visit Vienna xx

@MichT4 cor that's a trip isn't it? I'd love to go there but I have travelling for too long 🤣🤣 xx

Thank you @Pugprincess @Firevie @Lollol86 I'm the worst for googling and then overthinking and worrying about health things especially. My plan is to test on Saturday if nothing has appeared and if that's a negative I will contact my doctor on the Monday - just got to try and stay busy and positive until then! Xx

@Firevie That sounds lovely!! I bet you can't wait to see family and friends xx

@Lollol86 the Lake District - off for a hopefully dry week away!

@Northernsoul90 sorry you are wobbly too. I know it's not the outcome you would want, but at least those pains would suggest something happening, so keep positive if you can. Not long to wait now, but definitely push your GP to do something if you feel like something isn't quite right xx

@Lollol86 I’m from Vienna so I’m going back home to see my mum and dad and my friends. It is also my best friends wedding in two weeks so can’t wait and so grateful that I can go!

@Northernsoul90 honestly
Our minds are designed to automatically think the worst and google is just awful isn't it. Sending big virtual hugs to you and have everything crossed for this weekend xx

@Firevie where are you going on holiday? Xx

@Northernsoul90 hello 👋! Sorry to hear you’ve had a wobble this morning. If you’re worried then speak to your GP perhaps? I’m sure nothing to worry about but GP will be able to put your mind to rest? I’ve got my post ERPC follow up on Thursday to check that everything’s fine. Do some yoga and meditate it will do you good and treat yourself to some yummy food. I’m okay, thanks, not too focusing on this at the moment as I’ve got work woes on my mind and until I get the work thing resolved I can’t seem to focus on anything work related either so ugh! I’m off on hols this Saturday which seriously can’t come sooner. I really am at the end of my tether

@Northernsoul90 sorry to hear you are feeling crap too 😞