TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

@Sallyjo27 I'm so sorry you didn't have answers. I know how frustrating that can me. Usually with histopathology they are looking for congenital anomalies or signs of infection. I suppose in a way, it's good that they didn't find anything as it means that you don't have a genetic condition which means you keep miscarrying. I'm sorry it didn't give you more answers and that you felt unheard by the staff. It's so awful, I wish they would understand where we are at emotionally and how much we are hurting x

@Lollol86 oh yes sorry, I have 2 but they're 12 and 7 so I'm sure my egg reserve was fine then

Hi all hope your all doing okay,

I had my histology results back today for my 3rd miscarriage and they were inconclusive so feel a bit confused as to what that means. The nurse didn’t really know either (so helpful) I’ve looked online and can’t really see what the histology test is for. Has anyone else had this result? My EPU are absolutely useless. I rang them twice to clarify the result and to be honest I felt the nurse didn’t know herself and kept talking to someone else as I was talking 🙄. I don’t even know what the test is for as I haven’t been able to find much online xx

@chloedancer897 did you say you have children already or not?

@Lollol86 he just dismissed it as a chemical pregnancy and said it was like my body teasing me.

@Firevie I'm sure age isn't a factor for some people but my egg reserve is definitely diminishing which is due to age for me

@chloedancer897 that's really rubbish but you have just recently fallen pregnant so that's a plus surely? Xx

@chloedancer897 I will be 37 in October and got pregnant first time round which sadly ended in MC. Before I fell pregnant I always worried about age and eggs but I think falling pregnant gives me hope and my doctor said that age really only becomes a factor from 42 onwards! Don’t give up hope xxx

@chloedancer897 I'm so sorry to hear your news sending you the biggest virtual hug xx

@Firevie I'm 35. He was just being realistic I suppose. And that's what I needed. And that's why I went to him. But it's heartbreaking as there's nothing you can do to improve egg reserve at all

@chloedancer897 That sounds so crap. You definitely deserve several crys. It always gets on my nerves that things are so much easier for those who have all the money- surely everyone should have a chance at a child? Thinking of you, hope you get some better news soon.

@fafi TWW crew represent! I am resisting the temptation to broadcast all my weird symptoms here, so am just bothering DH with them instead

@chloedancer897 oh no I just read your update. What a rubbish consultant! What were the tests for? Sorry I missed this and what’s your age if you don’t mind me asking? But you’ve fallen pregnant before so why is the consultant being so negative? Sending lots of hugs your way xxx

@MichT4 his advice was to continue trying, stay on the list and when I finally get my review appointment from the fertility centre, if it's going to be more than a year, to consider going privately because I don't have the luxury of time. The waiting list is awful because they are backlogged from covid. It could well be another 2 years before I get treatment. And the consultant doesn't think I have that kind of time with my egg reserve dwindling.

I'm heartbroken. I came out and sobbed. I just feel like this is a sign that we should stop trying because it's not going to happen.

@chloedancer897 sorry to hear you are feeling that way. Did the consultant say what your chances were of conceiving, or have any suggestions as to what you should do next?
Why is the wait so long? Maybe you'll be put further up the list?
I'm not sure I have any words to help you right now, as it's so fresh, but always keep a positive mind if you can. Nothing is saying it won't happen, and you know it can happen. You know what's best and right for you, but I have faith it will happen 🥰🌈🌈. Sending love xxx

I'm just back from the consultant for my review appointment. He said my AMH is dropping which means that my egg reserve is decreasing. Of course I expected that a little because of my age but so far all of my tests have been fine. My husband also has anti sperm antibodies, a small amount but they're still present. So I left that appointment feeling completely deflated. I actually think our only hope now will be IVF but considering I've been on the list 2 years already, I'm not holding out too much hope. I can't afford to go privately at the minute and he said that time is of the essence. I actually feel like just accepting this isn't going to happen and move on from it.

Thank you @fafi 10dpo here, 4 days to go I think x

@fafi thank you lovely, we are definitely due some xx

@Rebecca1992 oh wow how strange is that xx

Thank you @fafi. We are definitely due some 🤞🏼 x

Oooh I feel like it's been a while since we've had some BFPs on here! I'm rooting for you @MichT4 @Northernsoul90 @Pugprincess @Lollol86 @VP91x and everyone who is in the TWW!! xxx

@MichT4 hmmm maybe I’m wrong I will double check XX

@Pugprincess oh ok. I knew you shouldn't with your MC bleed but I thought it was fine after that. I did - I can't deal with it without, but maybe I wasn't meant to!?

@Northernsoul90 I really hope AF is a no show - not long to wait!

@MichT4 it said in my miscarriage leaflet about not wearing them for first cycle due to infection x

@lollol86 Oh my that's so weird I literally said the same after mine! My nanny could never carry boys, my mam had 5 of us, 4 boys and myself but I'm a twin to a boy 🤔

@MichT4 Thank you! Well going off my cycles before mc I would normally get af 12/13dpo and I'm 12dpo today so any time really. I don't know if my body will follow that pattern this time though which is why I thought I might wait until Saturday to test - obviously only if I get no period xx

@Rb486 Thank you . Yes I had cramps too when I fell last time... I'm really hoping that's what it is but because im 12dpo and normally I would come on either 12/13dpo I'm thinking it would be too much of a coincidence to start cramping now. You never know though 🤞🏼. I think there's a lot to be said for a relaxed approach it all can just get a bit much can't it tracking everything! We definitely need to try and enjoy the last of summer as much as we can 😊 xx