TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 9)

@Pugprincess I started bleeding on tuesday and it was fairly immediately brown and then red and then bright red that day so if I use Tuesday as CD1 I'm CD6 today. I have ever so slight spotting last couple days but then I'll have a cramp and a tiny bit more blood on the pad so I think my body is just clearing out the final bits. I think they say don't have sex until bleeding stops to prevent infection?

I've ordered some one step OPKs they should come early this week.

Last cycle when I conceived I used for the first time and got peak on a CB digital on CD17 so I'll start using the cheapie OPKs as soon as they arrive. That's a good idea with the digi I had planned on not bothering with it this "cycle" as I didn't wanna waste it testing for ages but I can use the cheapies to guide me. I don't really get any signs of ovulation normally and I didn't even monitor CM last cycle because we DTD a lot around ovulation so wasn't able to check it haha! it went from low straight to peak so we just DTD that day and the next day and caught that month so I'll aim for similar but it's hard cause OH doesn't know I use OPKs I just have to encourage sex at right times lol.

How long since your MC has it been now you've got your BFP again? ♥️ honestly I thought I'd hate seeing people get BFPs but in this group it actually fills me with hope and I feel genuinely happy for everybody who has them because I know how it must feel ♥️

Sorry long post lol

@Bl0ndi3 thank you. For yourself I counted first day of proper mc red blood as day 1, (I had a week or so of brown first), my usual ovulation was 14-16 days in but this time it was around 18 so not much in it. I know the negative test is painful but try to see that your bodies sorting itself out quickly so that you can get ovulating ASAP. If I were you and this is what I did, I would test with cheap opk each day then once I start getting any kind of line I switch to cb digital. Obvs watch cm too. Do you ever get ovulation pains? I didn’t every month before but I did after mc so I felt like my body was really letting me know. What cycle day would you be on now if you do count red blood as cd1? X

Thank you @Tink20058 also. Once these hopefully start matching up with the control line I’m thinking of trying a stronger test like cb digital?

@Bl0ndi3 hi I counted my first day of mc as cd1 and started using clear blue ovulation test the week after took 11 days to get my peak but worked I got caught first cycle xx

@Pugprincess congratulations definitely progressing so happy for you ❤️❤️❤️ Xx

@Pugprincess definitely progression! ♥️

@Northernsoul90 I've just taken a test and it is negative 💔 that's painful.

it wasn't technically FMU because I woke up at like 4am and went then so I'll test again tomorrow just to be sure it's completely negative.

I'll probably give it a week before I start using the OPKs too although should I be judging the MC bleed like it's an AF and working off that with my normal cycles and typical ovulation timeframe until I know what my post MC cycles are like?

I think I see some more progression there?

@Bl0ndi3 @Lemondropsandgumdrops sorry you've both found yourself here. This is the most welcoming and supportive group, you'll get lots of support, reassurance and cheering on here xxx

@Bl0ndi3 Fingers crossed for you!! A few ladies on here have caught before first af so it's definitely possible. Have you got a negative pregnancy test yet? Just watch out for opks whilst still getting faint positives on pregnancy tests - they can confuse the hormones and show peak when it's not. It happened to me a few times before I got a negative pregnancy test xxx

@2020wish thank you for that suggestion. I'll get him to ask the consultant on Monday x

@VP91x thanks so much ♥️ I've been holding it together most of the time and then having moments to myself where I just cry! Hoping that passes soon it's awful :(

@Northernsoul90 I've been in two minds about whether to OPK and try now or wait til my first AF 🤔 I have ordered some cheapie OPKs so I may well end up using those and then use the clearblue digital one I still have when I've had AF if I am not insanely lucky and catch first time 🤞🏻🌈🤞🏻

Wow so much to catch up on!! Anniversary meal was lovely I've just got home and into my comfy pjs. I hope everyone has had a nice evening.

@VP91x That's annoying about the OPKs, it's good that you have a plan though and will be getting the day 21 bloods booked in! Xx

@chloedancer897 Fingers crossed for you for a bfp this time!! Xx

@Jazper I am also early on in my cycle - now cd 3 so hopefully we will be testing buddies this time 🤞🏼. Are all of the tests you are having booked privately? I'm glad things are moving forward for you. Sorry just read further down and seen your post about cost etc. Was the reason that you are having the tests just due to amount of time ttc? I don't know whether to book in for some myself xx

@Bl0ndi3 I am so sorry for your loss ❤️ It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through. You are in the right place though and I'm sure you will find lots of support and encouragement here. Will you be tracking ovulation or anything or are you going to wait until after you first af? Xx

@Lemondropsandgumdrops So sorry for your loss ❤️. It's so hard when your body takes a long time to go back to normal after mc, the bleeding must have been really frustrating. I'm glad it has settled now though and that you are in the TWW! Fingers crossed! Xx

I am now on CD3 everyone I've decided to count this spotting/ bleeding I'm having as af as it has arrived at the right time despite lack of blood that I expected to see. I will still speak to the nurse on Wednesday though as I've made myself really paranoid about Ashermans syndrome 🤦🏽‍♀️. Once I get something like that in my head I can't get it out... I don't know whether to book in for some investigations done or am I being irrational?!

@Pugprincess hi lovely thanks so much, my cramps are weird like I can not describe the feeling they aren't like any period cramps I've had before and they're infrequent and last about an hour maybe and then they're gone. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Interesting!! I'll give both of those a look. I'm forever following slimming world haha lifelong weight struggles so I will be getting fully back on the SW wagon now I'm over the initial heartache and devastation which resulted in junk food and takeaways most days this past week, when I was up to eating that is! Last time I was TTC I wasn't really doing anything outside the norm so I'll give the other stuff a look as I'll do anything to help it along!

@Jazper can't hurt to lose weight and eat healthy can it! I've got about 2 stone to lose so I can focus on that and see how much I can lose before I get my BFP 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Pugprincess - no I just have the cheaper one with static or circle, so a lovely little static smiley looking at me. I knew though. My Cm has been all over tbh Due to the recent mmc, I was discharging brownish/pink until a few days ago x

@Pugprincess thanks. I'm hoping it's a good sign but like I said, I'm not too hopeful anymore really.
No nothing at all he can do. There's nothing to prevent it or get rid of it and they don't even know what causes it. He's taking a multivitamin anyway for fertility so every little helps I'm sure

@chloedancer897 would hcg injections be something he could take to increase his speed count and improve his sperm quality? A few of us on here have had our partners take it that we suspect have issues and are now holding a pregnancy (fingers crossed so far)

@fafi haha that made me laugh! Tbh though in those 5 years we had many months where we went mad on dtd like that and all timed perfectly using opk etc and big fat nothing. So I wasn’t too hopeful but I did have more ewcm than I have ever seen in my life so something changed I believe.

@chloedancer897 cm is a good sign. I had that yellow type stuff, then light brown mixed in it for a few days, now back to normal at the moment 🤞🏻 I don’t want to see any brown cause that’s how my mc started 😭 is there a supplement your OH could take to help the sperm?

@2020wish no, nothing 😭

@chloedancer897 yes stay positive! U still have eggs and cm does sound promising!!! Can they do anything for ur partners sperm? Is there any treatment?

@Bl0ndi3
I know everyone is different but distractions are good for me too. I need something to almost 'obsess' over. Dieting and getting fit are good distractions and ones which can only prove beneficial in your ttc journey.
It is horrible that it's happened but all I can hope is that it happened because it's what was meant to happen and one day, when I have my baby in my arms, i will genuinely feel that's the case ❤️

Thank you @fafi xx

@Firevie thank you and regarding smoking can you keep windows open at all? What’s the weather like there is it good?!

@Jazper thank you! Yes in shock but trying to keep as level a head as I can but nice to try and enjoy it too. Like you say after all those years trying I feared I’d had and lost my only chance. Hopefully this means my fertility is better now. I really hope this one sticks, I’m paranoid every time I wipe or feel discharge come out.

@Bl0ndi3 hello and welcome, I’m sorry to read about your recent loss, it’s horrible when you have wanted it for so long and then it goes wrong. First pregnancy too because it’s not like we really know what’s normal etc anyway and you are aware it can happen but you just don’t think it will happen to you. 1 in 4 end like this they say though 😩 my tips for you would be to follow a healthy diet if you don’t already-5 a day and all that. Exercise if you don’t already. And the ladies here and myself drink Pom juice (pomegranate) to thicken the lining. It’s really expensive but just one glass a day. Some of us take a supplement called calc Fluor too which are tissue salts to help with lining and developments. There the biggest things I learnt and found in the early days after MC it helped me to focus on making positive changes I felt might help us conceive and carry a pregnancy successfully. How bad are your cramps? Are they lasting hours?

@Runnergirl1 thank you! Great news for ovulation! Was it a flashy smiley face or static? Keep testing if flashy and get DTD 😅 how’s your CM? Lol keep eye out for egg white x

@Lemondropsandgumdrops hi sorry to also read about your loss and how long it went on for. It seems to be quite common that they stop growing early on, mine stopped around 6 weeks 4 days and I lost baby by the time I was 8 weeks. Must be development problems in those cases? The TWW is a killer, but lots of support here, try to keep busy but easier said than done. (I was awful🤦🏼‍♀️)

@chloedancer897 me too hun I have everything crossed for you xx

@fafi do you think so?? Oh god I really hope so. I really do

@pugprincess yes deffo a line!! How exciting 🥰 I was thinking yesterday after all the DTD you managed I'd be shocked if you didn't get a BFP in the end 😂 my boobs didn't really start hurting until 5 weeks I don't think.

@Firevie omg I'm not surprised you're mad! It's worse when you feel it's double standards. Can he have a test? My friend did before visiting his parents.

@chloedancer897 CM like that leading up to AF is deffo a sign of PG! Most people are dry after ovulation if conception hasn't occurred 🤞🏼

@Jazper so glad you have fresh hope!

@runnergirl11 yay for ovulation! Nice to know when you feel in tune with your bod

@Bl0ndi3 @lemondropsandgumdrops sorry for your losses and welcome to the group. Like the others have said it's the perfect place to be. I'm pregnant, 7+1 after a chemical pregnancy in May and a miscarriage in June so there is hope! And we seem to be on the start of a flurry of new BFPs 🤞🏼