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Gosh it’s all so confusing isn’t it. I’m going with my symptoms rather than the opks or temps this month. I know I’m crap at doing temps anyways so not sure how reliable they are and I think not worth the stress.
Forgot to say my 1st acupuncture session was great, found it really relaxing. Some of the points were a little painful . She was doing things to stimulate ovulation and I had really strong pains in the evening after the session. Could be coincidence as I do get strong pains sometimes (or I did when I had my coil in; assumed it was that). Think I will stick with it, even if it just helps with relaxation it’s worth it

*arrives

PS - Will keep doing OPKs until AF arrived, just in case of a second surge.

Thanks @LT103 and @Maddie020 - I will keep recording and see how it goes. I just find the varying LH lines confusing!

Last month I got a cover line and it seems I ovulated around CD17, so this month seems slightly more 'on target'.

We've DTD the last three nights (since positive OPK)... might do again tonight just to be sure!

Got my private fertility tests next week (AMH and internal ultrasound). Then need to re-do the FSH test for GP. Scared! Would almost rather not know the latter (I've currently got faint hope that the last one was an anomaly)...

Nausea and cramping...cue AF and bang on 28 days as expected! Not many “tries” this month so not surprised and determined not to be down about it. It’s only been 3 months of trying and I’m only 37! Spent today on the beach with my boys so going to focus on that (and guzzle chocolate) 😊 hopefully more BFPs to come on here soon.

Hey ladies ... I am on cd6 ... I usually bleed 🩸 till cd4 and then very light spotting on cd5 ... but today I noticed I had very dark brown clots 🙄 ... I am on taking Clomid ... should I be worried 😟

@CC81: could be that you ovulated on cd15/16 or may be it’s on it’s way ... but u still have chance till 2dpo 😉

@mouldygrapes deffo looks like ewcm xx

Thanks @Smaddie020
I’m getting less strong OPKs now so think it possibly did happen early.
Here is the gross pic and sorry if it’s TMI

Not at all ... post pictures, everyone’s here is so nice and we all in same boat.. in case u want u can pm me ... but I have heard that ewcm can also occur few days before ovulation and this could be a sign that u will ovulate soon ... I had the same situation one month ... I had lots of ewcm but on OPK it was only showing fertile and 2 days after I got my +ve opk

@CC81 keep checking both. I would guess you ovulated day 16 so you will need a couple more high temps before it gives you a cover line. My opk will be high then peak (sometimes for more than one day) then move to high again before disappearing so might just be the levels tailing off. Hopefully you will know more in next couple of days

I also have a query about LH surges and temp!

I’m always unsure of what it means when an OPK shows the test line, but not dark enough to be ‘positive’. Does this mean LH is present, but simply not high enough to be a peak?

I had a definite positive OPK on day 14 (very dark test line). Today is day 17 and I got the test line below (not as dark as the control line).

But see also my temp chart on two different apps. Looks like ovulation probably has occurred already, either day 15 or 16?

What do you think?

Got another peak today, and we're off camping with friends 😩

@Loll35 we are dpo buddies...I'm also 6dpos. Have you been trying for long? Me since jan. One mc and 2 cps xxx

Hi guys can i ask what your temps are generally after ovulation? Mine have been 97.91 f and I'm 5dpo 🙂 not sure if that's where they should be or not? Lol xx I'm trying again after an mc and 2 cps xx

@LT103 thanks - this didn’t sink into the paper so I’m guessing it was EWCM.

@claireb707 my temps have been pretty erratic and also no rise but have had high LH readings and mucus and ovulation pain

Hmmm doesn't look like I've ovulated this month 😩😢 am cd19, got peak opk on CD 14 and 16 but my temps haven't risen

@mouldygrapes apparently there’s a way to tell (not that I’ve googled it before or anything). If it’s ewcm then it won’t soak into the toilet paper. But if it’s sperm it disappears after so many seconds. You’d maybe need to google it 😂

@SnowWhite1985 I’m not surprised you’re feeling unwell. Be gentle with yourself, glad you’re home now. One step at a time. I haven’t read your other thread but so sorry if you’re getting piled on.

Can I ask a very much TMI question ladies? I think I have ewcm today (cd11) which is a little early- but I’m not sure if it is.. We have been trying to DTD every night just in case so could it be semen (im sorry, gross I know)
Is it weird to post a picture? Could I PM someone?

@SnowWhite1985 sounds like a great plan. Some people put too much importance on everything being exactly right to have a baby. In my opinion (and I’m sure many will shoot me down) You have all it needs. I had nothing when I got pregnant at the age of 20, absolutely nothing! But it worked out ok in the end because I gave my child what he really needed and that was love and a plan! He’s nearly 17 now and I think he’s turned out just fine 😊

Thanks everyone, you’ve all been so kind, it means a lot.
I think I’ll stay (loosely) on this board, because I think I’m going to try and have a baby myself through donor insemination. I looked into it extensively the last time my partner and I took time apart. I don’t think I can handle an anonymous sperm donor (although I acknowledge the advantages of that approach). I don’t think it’s for me though so I’ll likely ask one of my close friends. It’s a major thing though / huge decision. I’d ideally like someone who would commit to having more than one child too.
Obviously I’d much rather fall in love with someone who wants nothing more than to have kids with me, but I don’t know that I realistically have time for that. Especially with this pandemic where no one socialises anymore!
It seems I’ve already had most of the tests that need to be done for it so that’s a plus. It might seem like I’m rushing into it but it’s something I’ve thought about for years if things didn’t work out with my partner. The insemination also might help with some of the challenges of getting pregnant at my age.
My partner said it’s selfish for any woman to consider that, but I don’t think I agree. I think I could give a child a loving home, and there other male role models in my family too. I would probably move closer to my parents so the child could have wonderful grandparents in the regular picture too.

@SnowWhite1985 I'm so sorry this has happened my love I'm only just catching up! The girls have said it all really and I echo want they have all said. Give yourself time to heal, onwards and upwards for you don't ever look back!
Sending you all my love and the best for the future xxx