TTC after MC - July/August 2020 (Thread 8)

@Jazper no more breastfeeding for my son now. I’m 5th cycle post mc but af is coming so going into 6th cycle. And I stopped breastfeeding around four months ago. It stopped my periods until he was 13 months so I think I was one of those whose hormones are really affected by breastfeeding. You think you will conceive easily once you wean and that the breastfeeding is all that’s stopping you but alas it’s never that simple xx

Oh @Mommybear05 , my OH is EXACTLY the same!! He has no concerns. He is adamant it will happen. Equally though, he is sympathetic to my sadness. Sometimes I feel encouraged by his optimism and other times I just want to say 'how can you be so sure?!' It's almost like he's being blasé but I know that's not how he intends to come across.
You're right though, you do have to get it out of your system. My last two periods were a devastation for me. I cried uncontrollably on and off for days leading up to it. Strangely though, once it arrived, I felt relieved, the sadness went away and the optimism for the following month came through. I am due af next week and dreading the emotional turmoil 😢
I do hope your cycles regulate soon for you and the spotting stops xx

@calimommy I remember the vomiting well! Hope you are ok. I am not breastfeeding now. I tried weaning with my son not so longer after my mc- it seemed like the right time for us as my mc made my supply drop and he seemed to be losing interest anyway. It took like one day and then it was as if he couldn’t remember ever breastfeeding (broke my heart but made thing easier). So I think it’s been around 4 months since I’ve stopped. This is my 5th cycle since mc and af is coming so I know what you’re saying- 17 months of
Breastfeeding and a miscarriage mean my body is all over the place. I did ttc while breastfeeding. Tandem feeding was the dream but it hasn’t worked out for me this time. You’ve inspired me to take my vitex out of the cupboard. I’ve popped one this evening haha. And maybe if I do conceive then like you I can take just the one a day xxx

@Jazper by the way your dog is so adorable!!! 😍😍😍😍

@Jazper thank you ❤️ You girls really cheer me up. I feel much better now. I think sometimes you just have to get it out of your system and I’ve been crying most of the day with af coming this month it’s a real bummer! But I can’t wallow. Don’t know if anyone else finds this but when I speak to hubby he’s so much more patient and optimistic than I am. He’s just like oh we will get there we have nothing to worry about. He is so chilled and it makes me feel my emotions aren’t justified xx

@Hayley19835 thank you for sharing your experience that’s really helpful to learn that the second gp helped you. I absolutely cried when I was told to wait. I don’t want to generalise but the go I spoke to today runs the practice and I have a feeling she was thinking of overheads for referrals?? I could be wrong. But looking forward to hearing what the other go has to say xx

@MichT4 I did have two cats- Siberian forest cats. They were absolutely beautiful. But I sadly rehomed them
When my son was four months as he was badly allergic (his skin blistered around them!) it upset me so much 😭
I think a collie would bring you some happiness for sure. Are you available for walks and all the other doggy commitments?? My mom got a new pet poodle the week I miscarried and he has become my sons best friend. Moms house is en route to the park on our estate so we pick him up when we walk to the park and drop him off on the way home haha. Have you seen a collie you like? I love dogs but can’t commit to having a dog of my own- cats were easier but I prefer the company of a dog xx

@Mommybear05
I absolute echo what @calimommy said about your hormones being haywire while bf'ing.
How many cycles post mc are you? And how much is your LO feeding?

It is a big decision @MichT4 and it's absolutely right to think hard and ask lots of questions. So many people have flippantly got dogs during lockdown and rehoming rates are on the up ☹️
He's not expensive at all but he's only small and luckily very healthy and 'easy to do'. Never sick or sorry. Unfortunately you can't bank on any dog being so fit and well and vets bills are extortionate but insurance can relieve the burden of big bills.
He's a Patterdale Terrier and about 7 or 8 years old 🤔 we inherited him when his owner (a family friend) suddenly passed away. We've had him two years now and he is absolutely the best thing to have happened to our family. He's impeccable with the kids and sleeps under the covers with my eldest daughter every single night.
They are tying though. You do have to sacrifice long days out or make arrangements to have them looked in on and/or walked. High kennel rates when you go on holiday unless you have pet friendly family. Collies are highly intelligent and require masses of stimulation both physically and mentally. Having said that, they are so eager to please and easy to train with time expended on them. Xx

@Mommybear05 I usually keep taking it until 12ish weeks. I did that with DS3 pregnancy as I was afraid to suddenly stop -which could be absolute nonsense as I've no conclusive evidence it has any affect at all. Obviously I was more concern it would do harm to the foetus but I could find nothing to suggest it would. I would say my third is my cleverest child too 😂 I'm
Joking but he certainly hasn't had any negative effects. I took it with my last pregnancy which I lost and I've continued taking it this time as well, just one tablet per day. I take it at night time with my multi vit -if I'm asleep I don't vomit the multi vit back up 😂

If you are still BF and have had a MC I'd say your hormones must be quite out of whack, which would absolutely explain spotting. It is so very frustrating for you, but not unexpected given your situation. Before I tried the AC that first time, my GP had put me on the OCP to settle my cycle but that didn't help (within a 2 month time frame) so I tried the AC.

@MichT4 if you don’t fancy the puppy stage you could always rehome an older one too. The toilet training takes a bit so good to do it if your home lots. We got ours when I was on a summer holiday so I had weeks to be taking him out. We used puppy pads which you can buy from b and m etc (pets at home are more pricey I think 💭) and you move them nearer to back door gradually and just praise etc. We taught ours the work ‘toilet’ so even now if I want him to try and go I will send him in garden with that command lol.

@MichT4 I’ve both cats and dogs lol get a kitten! Lol don’t need walked or bathed. Clean themselves lol here is my bleu

Aww @Pugprincess so cute! You guys are swaying me xx

@MichT4 yes doooo it lol (puppy) My dog keeps me company and gives me motivation to go for a walk no matter how I’m feeling. He’s literally my fur baby and I would hate to be without him. They liken getting a puppy to a baby don’t they lol, be a good practice run 🤪

@Jazper how cute is he? Do you find it expensive? And did you have to do much prep for him coming home? I just don't really know what to expect, and will it be a big tie? I mean I know it is but it's a big decision and I don't want to regret it.
But when I see a face like that I just think how amazing it would be.

How old is he, and what kind of pup? xx

@Mommybear05 I'm so sorry you've had a shitty day. I really sympathised with you having to step back from socialising with your family ❤️

@Hayleylou89 glad you got on ok 😊

@Mommybear05 so sorry to hear about your useless doctor I had the same issue with mine she told me to relax and not over think things! I got a 2nd opinion but I waited 3 months like she had told me too and the doctor I saw 2nd time round was not impressed I'd been told to relax and wait 3 months! He referred me straight away to women's health who deal with fertility in our area and ordered bloods. Hope you get some where at your 2nd opinion xx

Do it @MichT4 !!!!
He can be a right pain in the ass though. Not gonna sugar coat it 😂 but the joy he gives us far outweighs the occasional con (like when he finds a cat to chase in the surrounding fields and comes home three hours later stinking of fox poo...) 🙈😫😆

@Mommybear05 a collie. I just can't decide if I'm being totally whimsical and trying to replace the baby we haven't had. OH wants a dog one day anyway, so it will happen, I just can't decide what to do. Do you have pets? xx

@Hayleylou89 glad to hear that the operation went well :) take it easy and here’s to a speedy recovery and a healthy pregnancy xx

@SmileyT aw I remember that hungover feeling. I heard it’s the hcg that causes the nausea so it’s god for your pregnancy ❤️ Hmm yes I’m open to going private- I paid private for my scan when I miscarried- but I think I’ll wait til Tuesday when I can get a second opinion off another gp first xx

@HopeForRainbowbaby yay!! We can be tww buddies!💃🏻😁

@MichT4 ooh what breed? X

@Northernsoul90 thank you 😊 very emotional today but sometimes you got to let it all out and then carry on xx

@calimommy thank you so much for your response very helpful and I have a secondary question if you don’t mind please...

As a ttc breastfeeding momma for over a year I’ve surely heard of Angus cactus and have a massive jar of the stuff in the cupboard. I stopped taking it because I thought if I do get pregnant what I’m earth would I do??? Carry on taking it? Stop? Can you take it pregnant? If I stop abruptly will that be dangerous in early pregnancy? Can I ask you experiences of this? Xx