NEWBIE 🙋🏼‍♀️ TTC first baby - anyone else new to the journey?

@Kristy17 thank you :) you never know it could all work out in the end! It's tricky isn't it as it's just a waiting game, but for me with this being our first I feel like if I learn as much as I can then I'm giving us the best chance possible, just praying my cycles get back on track! Now CD36 with no ovulation...kind of hoping my body just gives up soon and that AF arrives so I can get on with a new cycle. Keeping my fingers crossed for you too! x

I really hope I’m pregnant enough by Christmas to be able to tell people why I’m not drinking. That’s the dream anyway!

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@beckyBP these are the ones I’ve been taking. I had to talk to the Gp about TTC as I normally take medication that I have to come to avoid risks to a baby. Anyway GP recommend vitamin D and folic acid. She said to take them for 3 months before! Online it says 1 month so I think she was being a bit extra. I’ll have been taking them for about 2 months when we start trying.

@MintGreenLife my fingers are crossed for you. But I also definitely get the age gap things, that’s why we’ve gone for it. We always said we would start trying from July so after we postponed the wedding we just decided we’d go with it and carry on with that, the wedding is out of hands but trying for baby 2 isn’t.

I’m not surprised, I know I’d be disappointed too. I didn’t realise the stats were so high with how long it could take to get back to your normal cycle that’s crazy, I was on the pill before baby 1.

We haven’t discussed a cut off, but it would probably be end of October to give us a July baby meaning August would be free ahead of the wedding. I wouldn’t want to risk being heavily pregnant/due end of Aug and/or the possibility of giving birth at our wedding, or the week before. I went 3 days overdue last time so don’t trust it if that makes sense haha. But I’m also a bridesmaid in June for a close friend of mine since school amazingly, so also don’t want to miss that, and that is her postponed wedding too. It’s a tight frame so it’s difficult and obviously if we stopped trying and hadn’t fallen pregnant then the age gap would increase to longer than we’d ideally like, but alas.

@Kristy17 having already postponed once, I really hope our venue and all our suppliers will be flexible if we have to do it again 😕 But then I worry about fitting it in with baby number 2 as we don't want too big an age gap 🙈 Think I'm getting ahead of myself. Things would have been so much more straightforward has we all just been able to get married and then TTC like we planned 🙄

That's great you don't have the pill to contend with and added to the mix. It has been a little disappointing that I've not got back to normal, and I can't figure out why as I'm a healthy weight, eat well, exercise regularly, don't drink much etc, but it's just one of those things. I read a study that showed 60% of women start ovulating within weeks of stopping, and the! 40% experience cycle abnormalities for up to 9 months afterwards. I hoped I would be one of the 60% but alas not.

Have you put a vague cutoff time of when you'll stop trying? Ours would be end of September, but that feels like it's too close, and given how things are going with coming off the pill so far I don't think we will catch by then, so I think we will most likely just carry on x

@MintGreenLife oh that’s what we debated doing, but after speaking with the venue we decided against it. It’s such a hard decision, we only made it a few weeks back after going back and fourth with what to do. A small ceremony will be lovely to be officially married too 😊. It’s nice to hear from others going through the same.

Oh no that’s frustrating, that is what I always think, you don’t know how it’s going to be until you start trying. Fingers crossed you start ovulating soon. There’s always ways around things.

I had the copper coil so non-hormonal so I’ve been lucky in that I haven’t had to worry about hormones getting out of my system.

@Kristy17 another September wedding here 👋🏼 Have done the same as you and postponed until next September, but going to officially get married this year on our original date with a small ceremony.

I was hoping the same and that we would fall quickly to fit in with our wedding next year, so I went all out and have been using OPKs and charting BBT. Have read four different fertility books now too 🙈 Unfortunately though it seems I've maybe not started ovulating yet since coming off the pill three months ago, either that or a have an extremely short luteal phase, so trying to get pregnant within the timeframe need isn't looking hopeful! Don't think we will stop though. We will just have to figure things out as we go 🤷🏻‍♀️

@RebeccaLF our wedding was the 5th of September also! When did you come off the pill? I've been off three months now and I don't think I'm ovulating yet, which is frustrating but hopefully things will get back to normal soon x

@PinkPlantCase same here! I’ve been furloughed and doing nothing is really tiring!

Hello,

Hope you don’t mind me joining, we’re actually TTC our second but we’ve also had to postpone our wedding. We were September this year and now September next, so decided to somehow try to conceive and have a baby in that time but who knows 🤷‍♀️

First LO is 20 months old. We’re first cycle, and gone for it with Clearblue ovulation kit and cheapy ovulation tests. As we’re on a deadline decided to just go full out and have now started tracking temp too. As we’ve got my dress now I think we’ll stop trying at some point so I’m not heavily pregnant at our wedding and would then try again a couple of months before. I’m currently 10DPO.

Where are you ladies in your cycle?

@RebeccaLF I’m going to have to hide tests in a couple of weeks! I was the same last month, tricked myself into thinking I would get BFP and was guttered! Haha I’m the same, I’ve heard of people unable to conceive because of too much sex, I mean I’m trying to stick to every 2 days but around ovulation time I feel it’s a must everyday😂

@whitershadeofpale I’ve also just stared the vitamins! Can’t say I feel any less tired though

Hi ladies I came of the pill last week! I was on a super low dose mini pill so hoping to be up and running again by September. We got married last summer and thought TTC would be a good first anniversary present

@beckyBP it definitely is hard! In the nicest way possible I kind of just want to get it over with now. I feel like the whole experience has been massively tainted by the stress of it all. I know we will still have a lovely day though and I'm sure one day I'll look and see the funny side of it!

I've been off the pill since around the start of June. I never thought the pill really affected me but I've found that I've been so much happier since coming off it.

@TTCBaby1 I'm really trying not to put pressure on myself but it's sooooo much easier said than done. I feel like I've never been more aware of every twinge my body makes. I don't know whether it's because I know we're TTC or because I'm not being pumped of hormones from the pill but my sex drive has gone through the roof haha.

Hello,

I hope that you don’t mind me joining in. I’m not TTC just yet but am getting prepared and started taking my vitamins!

We’re due to get married in October and TTC straight afterwards, I’m 34 so don’t want to wait another year which is what we’d be looking at to delay. Instead we’re having a small ceremony with just immediate family somewhere very special to us.

I’m on the mini pill at the moment and am due to finish in September, I’m not sure whether to take them until then or stop sooner. I had a 6 month break last year and my periods regulated really quickly but I don’t know if/when I was ovulating.

@beckyBP we started trying after AF in June, usually my cycles range from 30-35 days, today is cycle day 34, so we’re getting near to a late period. However took a test 14 dpo and negative, then took another 16 dpo and still negative, so now we’re just waiting for AF to turn up.
We only postponed the first week of June, otherwise we would have started trying sooner. Bit stressful 😫

@RebeccaLF I was guttered when I came on last month, I felt like I was putting too much pressure thinking it would happen straight away! So have tried to be a bit more chilled this month 🙈 The TWW seems to go on forever! Never had as much sex since we first met haha

I'm also in the same boat, our September 5th wedding was cancelled a month ago. We have rescheduled on a very small scale for the 12th of September.

We were originally planning to TTC early next year as we would have had to wait 3 months after our honeymoon to Thailand due to Zika virus. As we're not going anymore we figured there was no point in waiting.

We are currently on cycle 1 and AF is now 3 days late, I tested on the day I was due and got a BFN so I'm going to give it another week and if she hasn't appeared I'll do another test. I'm guessing it's probably just my cycles settling down after being on the pill for so long!

Hi ladies, me and my husband got married last August. This will be our 2nd cycle ttc after having the implant removed in June, my period is due on 5th August 🤞

@beckyBP it'll be a story to tell when we are older 😂

I hope you're right. I've read lots of different things with up to a year being the longest.

Oh god me too! At this stage I've now read four books about TTC/fertility and menstrual health 🙈 I'm finding it interesting though and enjoying learning. It's been a great distraction from the wedding palava! X