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NEWBIE 🙋🏼‍♀️ TTC first baby - anyone else new to the journey?

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beckyBP · 21/07/2020 16:17

Hey ladies,

Thought I'd start a new thread for anyone new to this like me 🙋🏼‍♀️

We're TTC after a change of plans when COVID postponed our wedding 🙄

Currently cycle 1 of TTC WITH AF due in 3 days.. I think I can feel it coming tbh.

Didn't use any form of ovulation tracker other than Flo (which I've used to track period for years) this cycle.

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beckyBP · 21/07/2020 18:52

@MintGreenLife it really is.. we've had no control over our weddings which sucks! Glad you've still got it to look forward to this year though.

Saaame.. my dress is very fitted 😅

For some reason I have in my head that it takes 3 cycles to regulate so hopefully it won't be long for you!

I'm cycle 1 TTC and told myself I wouldn't become obsessed.. here I am.. totally obsessed

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MintGreenLife · 21/07/2020 18:42

@Marden11302 I feel the exact same! I'm getting on to 32 now and I just don't want to leave it any longer as this will be our first. Think we are just going to power through and see how it pans out 😂 Sorry to hear about your wedding. It's so rubbish, but at least there are lots of us in the same boat! X

Marden11302 · 21/07/2020 18:04

It’s so nice to hear people in the same situation! We were due to get married this August but have postponed to next.
We’ve decided to try for our first baby, but realistically only have until October to be successful, if not it’s waiting until after the new date. I really don’t want to delay trying anymore, we’ve delayed it for many different reasons over the last four years, I feel like I’ve waited my whole life to ttc! Good luck to us all! 😂

MintGreenLife · 21/07/2020 17:43

@beckyBP it's a very strange position to be put in, so it's no wonder we found it difficult. Will keep my fingers crossed for you for your September date! We are lucky in that we are still officially getting married on our original date, and then next year will be the day before our first wedding anniversary.

Oh gosh I'm worried about my dress too! It's fitted, so I won't get away with a big bump or much in the way of weight gain ha.

I really hope so, I do like your optimism ha. It's interesting as this cycle has been so different to the last. My first cycle was 30 days and my second 37, and now I'm C35, so will be interesting to see when AF comes. Well that's great you've not been on the pill for so long, hopefully that'll mean you've a good chance of falling quite quickly :)

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beckyBP · 21/07/2020 17:34

@MintGreenLife I found it really difficult tbh. I'm really attached to my original date that I find it hard to like my new one. I know it's silly.

Yeah ours was big too.. 124 day and 200 evening. Yeah that's totally fair especially with people travelling so far.

Yep! Exactly the same, couldn't see or talk weddings until my original date had been and gone!

Thing is, what I realised in the end is that, although in an ideal world I'd have liked to of been married first.. I'm not prepared to delay starting a family for it and if there's a baby at my wedding then so be it.. worried about my dress though 😂

Ah ok, I reckon by next cycle you'll be back to normal! I definitely need to look into OPKs and BBT for my next cycle. No, haven't been on the pill for a few years. Just using other methods

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MintGreenLife · 21/07/2020 16:52

@beckyBP How did you find having to face postponing? We hung on for months but made the final call a few weeks ago. At the moment I think receptions with up to 30 are going ahead, but then that's no good if you're having a big wedding? I have a big family and we had 100 invited to the day, so just made sense to move it in the end. We felt like if we left it much later it would be too much of a rush and we had people flying in from America and Australia.

I totally get that. I felt pretty rubbish for a few months and couldn't face even looking at wedding plans or watching any wedding related TV. Now we've made a decision I feel positive again, but do worry about how we will juggle possible pregnancy or baby + wedding, would never have chosen to do it this way ha.

Yep I started using OPKs and also charting my BBT my second cycle off the pill, which was first cycle TTC, that's how I've worked out I'm not ovulating. I got multiple LH peaks in my last cycle, but no temp rise. This cycle I'm currently on CD35 and got an almost positive OPK this morning, but then faint line again this afternoon. Will be interesting to see if my temp goes up tomorrow, but I'm not hopeful. I've been getting EWCM in patches each month. This cycle I've had a few days of EWCM three times, spaced apart by a few days at a time, so seems my body is having a good go, but just not quite getting there.

Sounds like you weren't using any kind of hormonal birth control? Which is great if so! It's a bit of a nightmare trying to navigate coming off it. I've been having days of complete exhaustion, and my skin seems to keep thinking about breaking out and then changing it's mind! x

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beckyBP · 21/07/2020 16:43

@MintGreenLife Hey!

Ah so nice to have someone in the same boat. We were originally June, now September but I'm not confident on that one tbh.

That'll be lovely and in a way.. you get two weddings.

Yeah I've head it can take a while after coming off the pill. Have you been taking ovulation tests? I haven't as yet but will definitely look into this next cycle.

Yes! Super worried about how everything will fit in. It's just impossible to plan isn't it.. two huge things in our lives (wedding & baby) that we have little to no control over! We're thinking if we do conceive, we'll probably postpone but it's just so stressful to know when to.. which probably doesn't help when TTC!

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MintGreenLife · 21/07/2020 16:37

@beckyBP hey :) this is my second cycle. Thought I would reply as we had to postpone our wedding also, and we came up with the same plan to TTC instead. We are still getting officially married this year in September, but we are just having a small ceremony and then our 'proper' wedding has been rebooked for next September.

This is my second cycle TTC, however I'm not doing very well so far as I don't appear to be ovulating after coming off the pill in April, I know these things can take time, so just keeping my fingers crossed.

I'm quite worried about how TTC is going to fit in with our 'wedding' next year. It's such a strange situation to be in - you're probably the same - but we planned to get married and start TTC afterwards, and now have the difficulty of juggling possibly being heavily pregnant for the wedding, or having a new born, or due date being right on top of it! Think we've decided to just go with the flow and hope for the best, eeek!