TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 7)

Thank you so much ladies. It’s nice to have people to talk to. Although my partner is good he deals with things a little differently and I sometimes find it hard to talk in depth with him. So thank you.

That’s what has been the hardest all the waiting around and the ifs and buts. Thankfully my body has decided to complete naturally which was also worrying me. Hopefully my body readjusts and we can just get back to it. I will speak to the hospital on Friday and see what they say. It’s glad this has happened before I go back as they will still scan and see if there is anything left which is abit of reassurance. But like some of you I don’t really want to wait around I just want to get back to ttc as quickly as possible, just hope my body is ready for it x

@Northernsoul90 that's exactly what I've been doing too. Gave myself deadlines to move onto the next stage from, it'd be unbearable the wait otherwise. Hoping you get the static smiley soon though xxx

It really is unfair @Hayley19835. Thank you, hope you are ok too. X

Thank you @Northernsoul90 and @MichT4 🥰. @MichT4 looks like you are all set up on the Pom juice front! X

@VP91x Thank you lovely. Sorry to hear about your spotting. Really hope it is connected to implantation for you. But if you do go for tests hope you can get some answers. X

@Northernsoul90 it's a great idea and I totally agree. It helped the doctor said I can have tests when next AF arrives as it means I either get a lovely surprise or I have tests. It makes thus month so much easier to relax xx

I've just been reading about people drinking Pom juice for the first 13 days of their cycle? I thought you all drank it after ovulation? Am I getting confused?

If anyone is feeling a bit lost or hopeless something which has helped me is setting myself mini goals kind of. I think so many of us feel a bit better about things when we have a plan/time scale in our minds.

I've decided if I see no peak on opks and no af within 2 weeks I'm going to contact my GP as that will be 8 weeks since mc. If I do get a peak but no af or positive test 2 weeks after the peak I'll contact then. I'm giving myself another a couple of weeks as I'm only just getting a negative so my body is definitely still readjusting (even though it's now technically cd 45 😱). Just telling myself that this is my plan has made me feel a bit less overwhelmed and panicky as it doesn't just feel like weeks and weeks stretching out in front of me. Hopefully this might help someone 😊

Hi @Runnergirl1

Sorry to hear your story, and welcome to the group. I think the girls have covered my view, I agree it's a personal choice as to when you feel ready but unless told otherwise, there's no reason to wait. It's just for dating.
My first MC we didn't track or 'try' but we weren't actively preventing either. This time I am tracking and trying to catch ovulation but the first cycle is always a little unknown so just seeing how it plays out.
Hope you get your rainbow soon xx

@Runnergirl1 So sorry for your loss ❤️ I bet the waiting was brutal. As @SmileyT said I think the general reason that doctors advise to wait is for dating reasons, apart from if you have been told to wait specially for a medical reason. I had an mva procedure for a mmc 6 weeks ago and have only just got a negative pregnant test. I've decided to not wait for af and just ttc when I next ovulate, I feel like I can wait any longer. Everyone is different it just depends on your body and when you feel ready 😊. I hope you find lots of help and support on the thread xx

Welcome to the newbies. Sorry you have found urself here but this thread is very supportive.

@SmileyT i wouldnt min losing a few myself. My bmi is 33 now. I use to be so slim last year. Have u any thoughts on what you are going to try?

@VP91x :( must be so frustrating for u. Ur not dramatic at all. I still have hope there is a bfp in a few days for u tho xx

@VP91x I'm so sorry you're feeling down lovely. I say it's better to be proactive and try and get to the bottom of things because then you at least know how to find a solution to the problem.

I also woke up to a small bleed this morning so I'm as confused as you are.

Sending you a big hug Xx

@chloedancer897 does pro seed have any benefit? I thought it was just a lubricant? What's seed cycling? Xx

@Runnergirl1 sorry you're finding yourself here. There is so much support here. Everyone is different so when your ready to try go for it. EPU advises me to wait for first period and to be fair I didn't feel mentally prepared to try again for a few months. In the mean time look after yourself and give yourself time to heal xx

@Wishingfornumber2 I'm in the same boat a close friend who wasn't even trying just announced she's pregnant. Cue my tears and how unfair life is sometimes. Hope your ok xx

@VP91x not unreasonable to ask for an apt you know your body better than anyone. FX for you it is IB xx

@SmileyT you're right, doesn't hurt to have positivity about the situation. Yeah I think I'll wait as long as possible, see if AF arrives, and if 6 weeks pass then test? I dunno
I'm on the sofa watching new girl too! Your dinner sounds amazing. I love pasta!
Might have to dilute the juice. Maybe I was meant to 🙊

@MichT4 I'm having pasta with chicken in a homemade tomato and basil sauce (with some veg thrown in for nutrients 🤣) I think holding off testing is always the best plan. Wouldn't it be great if you could find out your pregnant and not have the anxious wait for AF date etc. I feel like I've been waiting forever because I tested early this time 🤦🏾‍♀️ But remember you can't jinx it thinking about what could be won't mean somebody upstairs takes it away from you. Also I never had the pomegranate on its own, I had it more like squash like 100ml of pomegranate and then topped up with water much better for me 👌🏾 back on the sofa now just about to watch new girl xx

@Runnergirl1 I'm so sorry for your loss and especially the waiting that you've had must've made it even harder. I think most of us decided to try before AF my Dr said there was no reason to wait apart from it makes it easier to date a new pregnancy and if you haven't had a negative test it might confuse things when you test when you think next AF is due and a few ladies here have got their BFPs before AF arrives so there is definitely hope. Hope you are being looked after at home and taking it easy xx

@VP91x You don't sound over dramatic at all, sorry you've been feeling down. ❤️ Hopefully you can get an appointment. I still think it could be implantation related 🙏🏼 but I would feel the same as you xx

@Wishingfornumber2 Sorry you had a down day today. Announcements are really hard to deal with... hope you are okay xxx

Hi. Can I join please. Had a rough few weeks. So went for a scan at 8weeks measuring 2weeks behind so I knew what the outcome would be. However told to come back 2weeks later - same result. Then got referred to hospital on Friday and told more or less I would miscarry. I then started bleeding - today I believe was the day I passed everything g but back In for a scan Friday - sorry if this is tmi. I feel ok now and to be honest just want to start again trying for our little family. I currently have no children, my partner has one to a previous relationship but I want one to call our own. Anyway hoping to get the ball rolling after I finish bleeding - has everyone waited until after their first period or before? I know the recommend to wait until after first period for dating purposes but feel like I just want to get on with it.
Thanks

By the way this pure pomegranate malarkey is brutal 😂

@SmileyT ok I won't be too jealous then. What's for dinner?
Jury's out on testing this month. I think I'm going to say no, because I have a perfect opportunity to wait as long as possible given they say 4-6 weeks. The longer I can hold off, IF by some miracle I was lucky enough to catch, I might save myself the anxiety of the early days.
I'm worried to jinx it by even getting ahead of myself and allowing the thought to cross my mind xx

@vp91x I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. Getting checked out for these bleeds sounds like a good idea. We know our bodies best and especially after a loss and TTC are so much more in tune with what feels normal or not for us.
I really do still feel hopeful for you that it's IB rather than AF spotting but I completely understand your concerns. It's really tough and if after this cycle you think there's an ovulation issue, maybe push your GP for that scan they'd mentioned previous cycle. Really hope you feel better after a little cry hun xxx

@VP91x not dramatic at all. It's really hard when you know something just isn't normal for you, and I think we should be entitled to be at least listened to and taken seriously. Maybe ask for the progesterone test. Possibly that is low and causing the lining to shed a bit. Not sure if this is possible, but maybe the earlier ovulation has confused your progesterone slightly. Definitely stick with your gut feeling on it, you've made the first step by calling today so keep on until you're seen. Should hopefully trigger them to push through your referral too.

BUT I must also add, this might all be ok, could still be linked to implantation, or even ovulation. So don't give up hope yet xx

@MichT4 trust me you don't want to be in London now it's like a ghost town half the cafes and coffee shops are closed ☹️ and the tube with a mask 😷 is honestly the worst thing ever in the heat but home now and OH has just started cooking my dinner as I missed lunch again. But I'm all good thanks just being patient waiting for next little milestones. Also that opk definitely looks like surge is over 🤞 will you test at all this month? x

@2020wish my 1st test at 13dpo looked quite similar to your last test so all looking good... and thanks probs sounds daft that it upset me walking past a building but just brings back so much. Ooh I'm also trying to watch my eating at the moment, but I do want to lose a bit of weight, I've put so much on since MC 😩

@VP91x if I hadn't been sick at 11dpo and ordered the FRER that day, I probably would've tested earlier I just knew I only had cheapie hcg tests and they wouldn't pick anything up earlier. I think Saturday would be good waiting for you, how you feeling? You don't sound over dramatic at all, it's a lot to go through. I'd really push for the day21 bloods if you can get your GP to do them as you're about the right time and they can at least confirm you ovulated and will take some pressure off. I'm still confident that this could be your month though xx

@Pugprincess i was ovulating around CD14 but after MC it was CD18 a few days after a nearly negative pregnancy test so could definitely still happen in the next few days x

@Lollol86 same! I'm really determined this month. I'm doing seed cycling, I've cut out caffeine, I'm going to take aspirin and progesterone cream after ovulation and using pre seed. I just want to give everything a go this month

@chloedancer897 yea it's definitely worth getting it checked out. I'm ok thank you, period is practically over so just wanting to get on with trying again now.