The July Pact 2

Hi all, just wanted to share this...!!!

Got my bfp tonight! Just back from 3 days away camping which was a great distraction from my 2ww and no tests with me. Have felt mostly fine was actively not trying to symptom spot but looking back I have had kinda sore boobs/ itchy nipples (tmi?), my face has broken out a little which is unusual for me and needing to pee more often and more urgently...
Anyway got back after a long drive home and was desperate for a shower and remembered I had a test in a bathroom drawer, just an IC. Gave all the good ones to OH to hide! Anyway it was late in the day so really wasn't expecting anything as AF due tomorrow but just had a feeling and there it was. Praying it sticks after last month's chemical, will use my CB digital in a couple days but until then me and OH are cautiously excited!

@krj2608 your baby dust rubbed off and birthday and cycle buddies must have been lucky!!

@babyH88 I'm not the biggest drinker but I have never / would probably never give up drinking before a BFP as I do enjoy a social drink on the odd occasion that I do get chance to go out. If you don't feel comfortable drinking while trying then I would just use some of the suggestions below x

Hi @mm26 and @BabyH88

@mm26 ahh that makes sense, AF isn’t due until the 25th here. So at the opposite end of the month! Good luck for next month 😊

@babyH88 regarding alcohol we’re only in our first month of trying and I’ve only been out once to a friends garden where people have had a drink. And I drove so it was easy not to drink. Quite a few of the people I see regularly with my daughter though know we’re TTC so even if I wasn’t with her they’re aware, so it’s a bit different here.

I’m kind of under the same impression though, it wouldn’t hurt to have the odd one before you get a BFP. Or could you pretend to drink it and then throw it when people aren’t looking? Not the greatest solution but I’ve heard of people to do that before

(To clarify, just on reading my post below, I wouldn't drink if I genuinely suspected I was pregnant or had had my BFP! 😂😅)

Hi @Kristy17 and @BabyH88!

I think most of us have moved onto the August thread now? We had a spreadsheet on the original thread and I think I was one of the last testers. I'm out for July so have just moved over here this morning 👇🏻
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3963049-august-might-be-a-pact-might-be-madness

@BabyH88 I have the opinion that a glass or two isn't going to be catastrophic so I just drank, but drank only one or two drinks slowly and had low alcohol stuff (I.e. no spirits or wine that's a high %). Obviously everyone is different and has their own opinion on it, so I'm not saying what I think is right and I've not been successfully TTC yet! I put ice/water in my wine to "chill" it or because I pretended to find the taste too strong, which watered it down.
If you don't want to drink then I usually go with driving or saying I've had headaches on and off and don't want to dehydrated myself with booze. If you can order your own drinks without others noticing, order soda water/lemonade and lime cordial- people just think it's G&T or vodka soda or something. I spent my late teens/early 20s not drinking due to family issues with alcohol so got good at hiding it so I didn't have to explain myself. Ive always felt it's so ridiculous that if you're not drinking people think there's something wrong with you and feel like it's there business to ask why!! 😂

How does everyone get around the subject of alcohol? we are not wanting to tell family and friends we are trying but are both very sociable people and generally like to have a few glasses here and there but I feel it will be very obvious if I am not drinking. Any experience of this or advice on how to navigate away from the obvious conversations.

Hello, is anyone still here? I’ve been stalking the thread and it’s now gone quiet, finally made an account.

We’re TTC number 2, first cycle, had my copper coil removed just after AF. AF due Saturday and 10DPO today! Where are you all in your cycle?

@mm26 that sounds promising! Keep us updated 🤞

Morning everyone! How is everyone today?

I have had a rollercoaster the past 18 (or so) hours! I got a FRER yesterday and tested and got the absolute faintest line (cautious YAY!). All good until I went to bed last night around midnight and wiped (tmi) strange dull pink-y colour that was also mixed with some slippy Cm, almost egg white I would say (though I'm no expert). Also, last night my RHR shot up from 63 to 66. I tested again with a FRER this morning around 9am and got nothing, there's maybe a line but I don't think there's colour - it's fainter than yesterday so hard to tell. There has been no more pink Cm/wiping yet this morning. I've added photos of the first FRER, my RHR chart and my temps. Just sitting here waiting patiently to see if it's AF showing up though I don't think she's due until Friday.

Thank you

@boc86 @pabsypops sorry to hear you're both having a rubbish time this month! Hopefully next month will be our month ❤️

@mm26 I am pretty certain it's AF although I've never ever had spotting like I did yesterday so it's so odd. I'm thinking about seeing the GP soon as I've been off contraception for 10 months and still nothing. I'm worrying now but maybe it's because it's such a disappointment after I thought I was having implantation bleed.

The only thing keeping me going is I've always had in my head I'll have a baby in April / May which would mean I would conceive next month or the month after! I guess if it's not happened in the next 2 cycles then I will go to the GP. Sorry I'm just thinking out loud lol

@sindylouwho I'm 10DPO today but didn't have a test. I'll probably test tomorrow!

@PabsyPops I never got a peak with OPK either. I had flashing smileys on the CB one for about 17 days (testing mostly twice a day) then ran out of sticks! I usually have a 35(ish) day cycle. I don't know if I missed my peak, didn't O or if the OPK just wasn't working for me. I did have to change holder half way through flashing smileys though, so possible issue there. I'm also 10DPO today. Still a little crampy. Will test tomorrow I think.
Do you think it is properly AF or could it be just heavy implantation?

@mm26 well if the flo app predicted O right then 10 days... but I did an OPK on the day and it said high. I never got my peak so I either ovulated early and missed it with my OPKS or never ovulated at all. I just don't get it at all. I've just ordered a femometer.

When have people been testing? When period is due or 10dpo?

Aw @PabsyPops I'm so sorry! 😫 that so crap! How long did you have between O and AF?

Aww sorry to hear that :(

AF arrived for me today - what a head f**k!! I thought I was having implantation bleed yesterday and today AF has just made an appearance. I don't even know now when I ovulated or even if I did. Feeling shit!

Thank you, I hope so, this is awful to fall pregnant come but it not stick x

Thank you @PabsyPops
I’m so upset, why can’t I stay pregnant

@Boc86 oh I'm so sorry ☹️

I’m out :(
Having my second chemical in a row, so gutted :(

@mm26 I've tried not to pay any attention this month but I did have a headache last night and very slightly sore boobs. AF is never ever early so I'm not thinking it's that but who knows!! I have been off contraception for about 7-8 months but haven't really been "properly" trying. I started using CB OPK last month which basically told me I was ovulating at a completely different time to when I thought so really we've only tried properly, at the right time, for 2 months! Even though this month though I was away when I ovulated! It's so hard to tell 😂 I'm so excited now but don't want to get my hopes up!!