TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 6)

Thank you @Lollol86. And for telling me about the MA - it did help to get a reply from them. Weirdly makes you feel less alone.

@fafi yes to 3rd time lucky. I hope we've had our share of the bad luck now. That goes for all of us.

@CasperFlamingo tell me about it. I definitely didn't think staying PG would be so hard, thought once we had caught one, that would be it. Talk about tainting what should be a wonderful thing. That's what makes me extra sad xx

Question. Does a opk show as a positive before a hcg test and if so how soon before does it usually?

@MichT4 as my husband says, you've sometimes got to kiss a lot of frogs before you get a prince... I'm not sure it quite tracks about TTC, but I think the sentiment is the same!

If someone had told me that TTC and staying PG was this hard, I wouldn't have believed it. At school, in society, in films and TV if you even thought about sex you'd be pregnant and giving birth before you knew it! There's not much realism / awareness about women's bodies, sex, TTC, PG or MC in the everyday world, based on my experiences so far!

@MrsK21 @littletandme @DBTJ I can see lines in all of your Posts!! So exciting!!!! What great luck we seem to be getting this month for BFP!!!

@MichT4 that was me that said about the miscarriage association, they are lovely and know more about this then anyone.
It’s so frustrating as you hear it’s just one of those things but we automatically think there’s something wrong. Definitely get back on the bus if and when you feel ready.
We are all hear cheering you on xx

@MrsK21 yes can see a line! Excited for you test again. X

So I have been watching workin moms and got up to the bit where one of the characters only does one OPK and it’s positive, DTD and gets pregnant! I remember someone saying about that in a previous thread a while ago. I know it can happen but man not what you want to see when TTC for a while 😂!

@MichT4 That sounds really good advice, and @HopeForRainbowbaby that is super reassuring that it doesn't change the odds! Fingers crossed for us all - third time lucky for us @MichT4 I hope xx

@MrsK21 I can see the lines too, no need to throw any shoes. Fingers crossed for a development on the FRER.

@CasperFlamingo @HopeForRainbowbaby thank you both. I'm doing OK. I'll jump back on the bus - being here isn't the worst place to be, even if I do end up sat alone in the back row!
The bleeding is pretty heavy and clotty today - mixed feelings - firstly I wish I could wear a tampon (what's a Monday without a TMI), and secondly, I'm relieved it's happening on it's own.

I can't remember who said, but I emailed the Miscarriage Association and they were lovely. They said it's common (urgh) and normally they won't find a cause, hence no testing until 3. It makes me think not to push tests yet, as I'd rather trust my body will do what it needs to when the time is right. I don't want to start treating it like it's failing in some way, even though I feel a little bit like it is xx

@fafi i fell pg in Jan this year but had a mmc at the end of Feb. We were really lucky and fell pg first try last time but since the mc have had no luck. My TWW symptoms have all been so similar to what I felt when pg (twinges, sore boobs, lightheaded etc) that I have given up symptom spotting!!

@VP91x yeh it’s so sucky - I never had this before the mc!! Last cycle was only one day so I thought that was the end of it - but if I have a 27/28 day cycle this month I’m looking at 3 or 4 days again 🙄 I hope you don’t get too many flashys this month!! xx

@MichT4 I'm so sorry that you go through it again. My heart goes to you ❤️ take care of yourself dear.

Just want to share what midwife told me after second miscarriage that even with 3 MCs, for 9/10 of couples there are no issues found why MCs happens. And even after 3 MCs you do have the same chance for healthy pregnancy as without MC. I hope that helps dear ❤️

@MrsK21 YES I can deffo see a faint line! So excited for you to take your FRER!

I'm 7DPO and feeling twinges but they are more like IN my vajayjay - like I've DTD vigorously but we haven't! Very strange. Anyone had that before? Damn TWW! I might have had it when I was PG last time but I put it down to my sudden mission to do daily pelvic floor exercises but I haven't been doing any lately!

@MichT4 beyond gutted for you. I've been keeping an eye out and thought I'd come back to check just now. Sending you all love and best wishes lovely xxx

@Renna sorry to hear about oh ex still being a witch and your sister splitting up with her bf not great timing for you, I hope things settle down a bit. Xx

@Northernsoul90 thanks will update as soon as they let me know. Yes hope the progress sticks

@fafi yes top one is today

@VP91x @michT4 thank you let's hope this progress is here to stay

@MrsK21 I have never used frer i dont no why I was expecting it to be alot darker.
I can see the line on yours honesty there should be a job for analysing preg test.

@VP91x @Northernsoul90 I don't have a FRER at home as used them to confirm negatives post MC, so have just placed an amazon order, they should be here tomorrow. I'm glad you both and @chloedancer897 could see it too, I felt so silly posting those pics!
Thank you ladies xxx

I'm just going to carry on living in ignorance for the time being as not sure I can take the stress of the first 12 weeks just yet and certainly not before a clearer test on a FRER or a CB. I definitely think a mc just takes all your innocence away x

@VP91x no it wasn't FMU so that probably didn't help either 🤦🏼‍♀️ I shouldn't have done it really but I'd just convinced myself I was def pg. I'll try again tomorrow or wed xx

@VP91x I really hope so. If not, I have no idea what the pain is as I've never had this before. It's not awful but I'm aware of it. Kind of like a pinching sensation that comes and goes? No bleeding. I'm hoping it's implantation. But I don't want to get my hopes up x

@VP91x I'm good thank you...still getting faint positives this morning 🤦🏽‍♀️ I did a cheapy opk which showed a clear line - darker than the pregnancy test but definitely not a peak, again I'm thinking it's picking up hcg still if I'm still getting a positive.

@MrsK21 I see a line in both pics!

Let me just add, I feel like throwing shoes at myself for posting these pics - but at 6 weeks post MC and no period, I'm desperate to believe anything at this point lol

@VP91x oh yes I remember! Have you heard anymore about your scan that the GP referred you for? X

@MrsK21 I can see a very faint line as well!! Really hoping that this is a bfp for you... why don't you get a frer to do in the morning? Or have you got one? 🙏🏼🤞🏼