TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 6)

@Pugprincess So sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your story with us, it sounds really traumatic, glad to see you have made positive adjustments to your lifestyle it will pay off dividends. This is a great group and I am sure you will find support here. You analogy to winning the lottery for your numbers to be wrong is so accurate!!x

@Lynz2020 Sorry too for your loss, what a awful story! Do you have alternative hospitals near by for when you fall pregnant again? Hopefully all our delays mean the hospital / scan experiences get better from now and we don't have to go through so much alone.

@mumoftoddlerandteen sorry for your loss, like I've said above this is a great group and I hope you find the support that sounds missing sadly - it's so hard sometimes to see others go through their PG journey seemingly so easy.

@littletandme excellent line progression, how exciting!

@MichT4 after my MC at 6 weeks my ovulation was only a couple of days later than usual (CD1 I counted as my first proper day of MC bleeding). So fingers crossed you snap back to a normal cycle quickly. I admire your determination, keep us updated with how you get on pushing the drs!!!

@MrsK21 I will be checking in early tomorrow to see your stick hehe x

@2020wish Oh no I hope you feel better soon!x

@Tink20058 so pleased to hear all is well!x

Thank you for sharing that @Lollol86. That’s what’s keeping us going. We want a baby, and it will be worth it eventually. I just hope 2 is enough for us 🤞🏼

Thank you so much. Yeah it’s so tough isn’t it. I’m definitely avoiding pregnant friends a bit, I just think you have to do what feels right don’t you. I know I won’t feel like this forever, it’s just temporary so I’m just trying to look after myself a bit x

@mumoftoddlerandteen it’s so hard when friends are pregnant, my best friend is pregnant and a lot further on then I would be but after my mc I avoided talking to her. Silly I know but I just couldn’t bring the subject up about her pregnancy. She totally understood, I’m back to being excited for her now but it’s still tough especially thinking we should be comparing notes. This thread is amazing and all the ladies are really supportive.

Oh @Tink20058 💕💕 that’s lovely to hear. Congratulations once again and I’m glad you have found the point at which you can enjoy your little bundle.

@1990EM yeah that’s where I’m at now. It’s happened and is happening but I’m ready to try and take some control over it, as much as I can.
I’ve called the doctor and am just going to ask if they’ll do the blood tests for my hormones. If no, I’ll just go private. I’m not waiting for people to be arsed. I don’t necessarily want the ones they do after 3, I just want to know my hormones are ok. I feel better that I’m ready this time with tracking a bit. Last time I didn’t do anything for the first 3 cycles and caught on the 4th when I did 🤞🏼🤞🏼

How are you getting on? xx

@MichT4 it’s definitely not insensitive at all. This time was my second miscarriage but not one after the other, however this time both me and hubby said we can’t go through that again but within a couple of days we changed our minds. He initially was dead set on not trying as he said he couldn’t watch me go through it again, I said to him though if we don’t we have been through all of this for nothing. My last mc was before I had my second child and when I first had the mc everyone would say everything happens for a reason and I absolutely hated peoples saying that to me, when I had my 2nd daughter I knew exactly what they meant and I was glad I went though that as I wouldn’t have Neve otherwise.

Hi can I join this thread please?

We have been ttc since December and sadly suffered a mc at 6-7 weeks in April this year :(

We started ttc again after my first period after the mc (wasn’t a normal one it was about ten days long) in late May/early June and this is now our second month ttc since then.

According to my ovulation sticks (clear blue) I ovulated around 27th June (I always get two smileys in a row - does anyone else?!) and so I’m now about 17dpo.

I got a false positive on a clear blue pregnancy test last month so haven’t wanted to test this month until I’m sure I’ve missed a period but my cycles can be a little irregular.

My boobs have been quite sore and heavy up until today when they feel not so sore and I’m convinced the witch is on her way!!

Anyway, I’m just getting a bit upset about it all now. Every time it doesn’t happen again it just reminds me of the little one we lost :( I’ve stupidly told people about the mc and that we are ttc so I’m getting sick of people asking and thinking why was I so stupid to tell people. I’m normally very private.

To top it off a couple of my close friends have now told me they are pregnant - one after the first try!

I’m just posting for a bit of a ‘get it off my chest’ really as I’m feeling sad x

@VP91x delighted about the static!!!!

Away for a few days with dodgy internet but trying my best to catch up here. @MichT4 I felt the same about diving straight back in, when I first MC i was adamant that I would wait a few months but even before the bleeding stopped I was ready to go again. And thats perfectly ok.

Lovely to see some positive tests! Will be keeping up as best as I can. Even though I'm not commenting loads I am cheering and praying for everyone whether it's good news or bad ❤

Quick update from me, went for my nhs scan this morning and all healthy 🌈🌈🌈 13+4 so now I’m going to start enjoying it a bit and relaxing xxx

@Lollol86 yes absolutely. I feel like it's a good method. I'll let you know if it works!😊🤞

Thank you @MrsK21 @VP91x @VP91x ☺️

@SmileyT I need to start doing them again I got a faint positive so kind of gave up but hearing that you ovulated a few days after a faint positive has given me some hope. How are you feeling? Xx

@MichT4 hope you are feeling okay today, not at all insensitive thinking of ttc again it's the only thing that's got me through focusing on that goal after mc xx

@Pugprincess So sorry for your loss, it is such a hard thing to go through. Wishing you lots of luck in ttc 🌈✨🤞🏼

@littletandme Lovely line progression!! Congrats 🥳✨

Thank you @HE88 nice to not feel so alone in this and will keep you all updated on my cycles etc. Obviously at the moment I’m waiting for the bleeding to stop and I have to do the pregnancy tests to check the hormones have left me. They sent me home with 3 tests so I might do one this Thursday (a week after miscarriage started) and then another by the 23rd as that’s the date the hospital wanted me to do one by. I would try before period but I will have no idea when I will ovulate and I want to make sure I don’t get an infection if cervix isn’t closed yet. Least I would know my dates then too. For our pregnancy we didn’t use tests etc just did it twice around mid cycle. I’ve tried all sorts over the years, ovulation tests-even clear blue expensive ones, discharge observation, cervix examinations, fertility lube, basal temps, heck we even tried wearing a moon cup to keep sperm up there! I honestly think I just was working too much and wasn’t relaxed. So I’ve got to change my lifestyle now so I’m only working one job not two so I’m hoping that will help. I was leaving my house 7.30am and at school all day then I would go off to my second job so I wouldn’t be home till about 8pm then it was bath dinner and bed-no life. Probably 6 hours sleep a night which I need about 8/9. No time to cook good food just quick easy meals. School doesn’t start till late August so hopefully period will have been by then and we can be trying 🤞🏻 Good luck everyone! X

Best not beat

@chloedancer897 I get what you mean. As woman we like to know we have given our bodies the beat chance though. It’s definitely not as fun having a structure.

@Renna how are you doing? Af is due on Sunday for me is that the same for you? Xx

Yay to your static smiley @VP91x glad you managed to dtd! Xx

Hi @Pugprincess welcome to the group sorry to hear what you went through sounds awful. Xx

@Lollol86 I just think it was the structure of it all. No spontaneity that ruined it for him

@chloedancer897 @VP91x thank you. Ok I think we will try later. My husband has a really Hugh sex drive, but this cycle we had sex 5 days in a row and he was struggling so just trying to take a different approach this time. Fingers crossed it works!

Morning ladies. 6dpo today. Feeling blah! Think I’ve ate something dodgy yesterday lol How we all feeling today?

@Lollol86 I did SMEP this month and it was very stressful. My OH did not like the regiment of it. I'm 11DPO so don't know if it's worked yet

@Lynz2020 yes I know that feeling! I likened it to winning the lottery and then being told your numbers are wrong. Gone from feeling the luckiest to the unluckiest x

@littletandme so lovely to see your lines progressing nicely! Congrats! My FRERs are arriving today so I'll use it tomorrow with FMU x

@Pugprincess It was a shock because I was convinced it would take us months. For it to then happen but be taken away. It's gutting especially because all of our friends have kids all the same age and another got pregnant with her 1st in October and she's due in a couple of weeks. She's mid 20s, got pregnant 3 months after getting married. Just need some luck for once. Hopefully it will happen soon for all of us.