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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How long were you TTC and how old were you?

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BlueProsecco97 · 06/07/2020 13:33

Me and DH will begin TTC in November! Part of me is excited but also very nervous as lately I feel I’ve been hearing a lot of stories about people who’ve tried for 5+ years and suffered many miscarriages and the thought of us going through that breaks my heart! I know we’d get through it of course but would not like to go that.

On the other hand I know that a lot of people say and some statistics say most couples conceive within a year of trying.

I guess I just want to hear positive and real stories! I do not want to go into the experience dreading a struggle that I may be lucky enough to not experience!

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Inglesina78 · 08/07/2020 18:27

@Elouera

How old are you OP?

I started TTC age 32. Still TTC 9yrs on and 3 losses later. Not the norm at all, but can happen.

I have a good egg count, very regular periods, no endo, PCOS, DH has good sperm count and no cause for infertility found other than being old eggs!

Same here, TTC 9yrs with all the tests ok so I guess it's just old eggs!

but it's such a drag and don't really know if it will ever happen, even with IVF! I blame the contraceptive pill, I bet it makes you infertile (I did have a termination in my early twenties, so I was pregnant once!)

flossletsfloss · 07/07/2020 14:47

First cycle both times and I was 33 and 35. Good luck 🍀

Caaat · 07/07/2020 14:39

Started TTC #1 in July 2017. I was almost 35. Got my BFP in January 2018 then miscarried at 7 weeks. Started TTC again straight away and got my BFP in April 2018. Baby girl was born in December 2018 and is now 18 months old

Fizzy13 · 07/07/2020 14:27

4 months at 33 and still waiting after 3 years now 38. Its hugely variable!

Fourdaystogo · 07/07/2020 14:09

First month aged 36. Wishing you the very best

coffeewithmilk · 07/07/2020 13:59

I'm 28 and DH is 34.
First month TTC #1 - this ended in a left ectopic removal of tube at 5.4weeks
Second time TTC after surgery was 4 months after surgery, successful on second month of trying - this also ended in an ectopic at 6weeks.

Waiting until we can try again as I'm only 1 week post op.

Keeping fingers crossed for our rainbow baby

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BlueProsecco97 · 07/07/2020 13:58

Thank you for the positive stores and real stories so far guys!

Of course I want to be realistic and know that although I’ll be 23 when we start that it could take longer than a few months, however the thought of this was making me feel quite down and I experienced panic attacks due to this thought. So I don’t want to be worrying in case that doesn’t happen to us and then I would’ve spent months of wasted energy worrying about something bad when it potentially couldn’t affect us!

I hope I am as lucky as some of you lovely ladies have been!

1st month off contraception is complete (I am cycle tracking) and so far everything has ran smoothly which is a good sign - of course this does not determine if we’ll conceive quickly but it is still quite a good sign imo!

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SkylinesTurnstiles · 07/07/2020 13:53

18months
Age 26

beautifulmonument · 07/07/2020 10:30

I've got positive stories for you! I've been pregnant 4 times, 3 were not planned, one was ectopic. I get pregnant ridiculously easily.
The one time I was actually trying I got pregnant on my first cycle after getting my Mirena removed.

jpaws · 07/07/2020 09:51

Conceived first month of tracking cycle at 32. My partner said it would happen straight away but I told him it might not - turned out he was right in our case. I think you hear more about how long it can take as opposed to how quick it can be too.

Elliexoxo · 07/07/2020 09:39

Took us 8 months to fall pregnant with my son, I was 23 ❤️

1990shopefulftm · 07/07/2020 09:35

I was 24 and it took 3 months, tracked from the 2nd cycle but I think we were very lucky.

A08x · 07/07/2020 09:24

I’m 25 - 12 months off contraception, but 8 cycles actively tracking etc, to conceive however ended in early MC. Now at month 15 and back TTC again (first baby).

I asked a similar question when we started out & I feel like it filled me with a lot of false hope and made the disappointment each month worse. Hopefully you don’t have to experience that disappointment also, but know that it’s totally normal for it to take a bit of time. A lot of lucky people on this thread so far. Good luck on your journey xx

sunsshineshowerss · 06/07/2020 22:29

Pregnant 3 times - each baby conceived first month of TTC. 27,28, 30

mynameisntlouise · 06/07/2020 22:21

Conceived first month of trying when I was 25 and convinced by accident when I was 27.

MeadowHay · 06/07/2020 22:14

I was 23 and it took about 6 months. More cycles as my entire cycles are between 23 and 26 days.

rathernotshare · 06/07/2020 22:11

We are both 26 and have been trying for 6 cycles, the odds are in our favour and it's not been too long but it's surprising how quickly you can feel so disappointed about it! Hopefully you catch quickly 💕

Wolfgirrl · 06/07/2020 22:08

First cycle for me at 26 HOWEVER I had had 'slip ups' with an ex that resulted in nothing, I don't think it means you're amazingly fertile, more that you're lucky. It is like throwing a dice, somebody will throw a 1.

DramaAlpaca · 06/07/2020 22:06

It took me 11 months at 28, one month at 30 and 4 months at 32.

BabyDancer · 06/07/2020 22:02

It took 2 months at 29. I had Shingles on my first cycle so I'm not sure it counts, but let's say two.

Katievb · 06/07/2020 21:28

Took 11 months at 25! 😊

Igotmylipstickon · 06/07/2020 14:49

3 months on both children, age 34 & 36.

BuffaloCauliflower · 06/07/2020 14:35

It’s more likely you won’t struggle than you will.

RDC2020 · 06/07/2020 14:01

Managed to conceive first month TTC (30 years old). I was on a non hormonal contraception beforehand, tracked my cycles so knew how long they were etc and I tracked my ovulation.

Best of luck! 🤞🏼✨

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BlueProsecco97 · 06/07/2020 13:53

This is all quite reassuring!

I did speak to my psychiatrist about it as it was affecting my moods quite a lot and my mental health is something I’m working on before TTC as I would like a healthy mind as well as body!

She did say that due to my age (23), the fact I don’t really drink (one night a month which’ll be stoped when TTC) and the fact I am cycle tracking and know my length and what day I ovulate are all good signs I should be okay

But I have came to seek reassurance here because after seeing so many viral social media stories/videos about infertility (self-reminder: take time off socials!) and the odd few stories I have heard from people we know, I just wanted to know that there is a chance we won’t struggle and it could be a happy time for us!

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