TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

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Morning ladies
Used my FRER this morning and it's a definite positive
I'm so happy, shocked, scared don't know what to think. I ovulated late and managed to dtd once in fertile week either on day of ovulation or 2 days before. I ran out of OPKs after I got my peak but thought sod it it won't happen this month anyway.
I used the fertility cup and have been taking all the vits including calc Fluor and vitamin e,d,omega 3, evening primrose oil and pregnacare. I've also been eating brazills, pineapple, pomegranates, pineapples and grapefruit oh and drinking rose.
My temp and heart rate are high and increasing and I have been getting period cramps but not so much today, no sore boobs but feel tired, moody, emotional and so forgetful and ditsy I made a morning coffee (decaf) from the machine without putting a cup under it that made me think I could be as I get baby brain really bad. Let's bring on more BFPs good look everyone xx

@VP91x shame, dh always likes to be involved and I think he tries to take the pressure off me. Last month he kept asking me if I tested, which actually got very annoying 😂 so I asked him to chill a bit.

So I was checking my cm earlier and noticed that there was a tiny speck of blood in my ewcm. Last time I had that, I definitely ovulated so hoping it's a good sign!

@2020wish I’m so sorry that your husbands spiteful ex has been so cruel and darn right nasty 😢. I completely understand why you would feel so broken after her uncalled for horrible comments / laughter 💔 it’s such a tough journey that you’ve travelled and fully appreciate that you could really do without that added trauma at anytime . Sending you lots of love 💕

@MichT4 Im sorry that you’ve been experiencing some bleeding and completely understand your worry but very much hope you can get some reassurance from epu today and that everything settles down again for you and you can begin to relax and enjoy a happy successful pregnancy . I’ve everything crossed for you for a healthy progression 🤞🏼🙏 sending you lots of positive thoughts 💕

Firstly Thank you ladies 💕 there’s so many of you and this thread moves so fast that I’ve struggled to keep up to thank you all personally but really do appreciate all the well wishes 💕

@Emsnewmum - I’m also in scotland
( edinburgh ) 😊

@HopeForRainbowbaby - yes the obstetric team that I had a brief chat with on Saturday have advised me to rest as much as I can ( complete bed rest would be ideal but pretty impossible ) until I hear from my consultant this week hopefully . I think they are just being very cautious as I had another slight bleed straight after the scan and still experiencing some pain which is hopefully uti related 🙏

@Eli2020 - hmmm yes I have had some symptoms that I’ve had in previous pregnancy’s now that I think about it like feeling extremely tired , as though I’ve had a never ending hangover for weeks only without the drink , really run down , a bit dizzy and lacking in energy like someone had zapped it all out of me , bad skin and horrendous cramps . I’ve also been very emotional and my boobs have been very sore on and off . However I have also been extremely busy , not getting much sleep as one of my daughters have been poorly, not had much of an appetite or been taking any of the vitamins that I usually do , was grieving a loss and had what I thought were periods as the bleeding was always when I would normally have expected af so I just assumed it was my body recovering from the mc and delivery of my previous twins and getting back into a cycle 😬 The thought had crossed my mind a few times leading up to my last “ period / bleed “ last week that I could be expecting again but like many ladies who are ttc I had become so obsessed with symptom spotting that I truly just thought I was beginning to imagine things that weren’t there just because I wanted it so bad and was trying so hard to be pregnant again if that makes sense. Then I had what I thought was a full flown period start a day before I was expecting af so thought nothing more of it as they are also period symptoms for me and had no urge to test . I’m now kicking myself for not looking after myself properly the last few months or testing just incase but what is done is done I know I can’t change the past only wait it out rest and focus on the future so no point in beating myself up ☺️

I spent yesterday just relaxing and trying to de stress after a pretty sleepless night . Haven’t brought it up again with my other half yet he’s been chatting away as tho as nothing’s happened all day although he did ask my oldest daughter to help out with the housework for the next few weeks , told her I had a bad back and wasn’t to lift anything heavier than a cup and had to rest . Il take that for now and know we will chat when he is ready . I hope everyone else had a lovely relaxing Sunday x

Having a time of it. Dh ex finally agreed to speak with him on the phone regarding letting him see his kids (she stopped contact last Halloween for no other reason than she’s still not over him)

But she kept bringing up our pregnancy and how dare he impregnate another woman. Then when he told her to be nice and explained we have had 3 loses she bloody laughed and shouted well that sucks infront of his eldest daughter. I feel so broken... I didn’t think anyone could react and be that cruel. Don’t think dh fully understands why I’ve taken it so bad. Just feel like crying

@SmileyT I can't find the thread, can you tag me in or copy the link here?

@VP91x thanks. In spite of myself I always have a little bit of hope until I see AF, but this feels so like my usual symptoms, just earlier than expected x

@VP91x @SmileyT thank you! I was curious about it and it’s also helpful to know obviously. Our bodies are so interesting but frustrating at the same time! The day 21 progesterone tests are something I haven’t heard of... don’t get me started haha 🤪 xx

I'm in agreement with @VP91x temp rise, day21 progesterone test or ultrasound is the only way to confirm ovulation. Opks give you an idea that ovulation is coming but don't confirm that your body actually ovulated @Northernsoul90 xx

@ManchNic join the AF due 11th July crew with me, @AC2020 @Eli2020 and @elliew818 🙌🏾

Hey! Oh my goodness this thread moves so quickly, I really can't keep up!

@VP91x I'm doing ok thank you. CD 23 today, due AF Fri/Sat (Mon according to Ovia app). Normally 27/28 day cycle but ovulated slightly later than normal this cycle so a bit unsure. Got a positive cheapie opk CD15 then peak on CB digital the next morning on CD 16, so guessing I ovulated CD16/17?
Normally get positive cheapie on CD 12ish so not sure what late ovulation means.

I normally get AF symptoms around 5-7 days beforehand but get at least a week between ovulation/dtd and symptoms. But this time I've had symptoms since CD21 (only 4/5DPO) - period type cramps and lower back ache.

Had a massive cry to my hubby on Friday because it just feels like I get no time to be hopeful. Only just stopped dtd and 3 days later cramps/backache started. So unsure if I've just got early AF symptoms this month, or if AF is just going to arrive much earlier than expected. Or if it's all just out of whack because I ovulated late!! 🙈

It just feels like the whole month is governed by my bloody cycle, and didn't even get a week of being hopeful this time 😫 I try so hard to stay positive but sometimes I just get so scared it's never going to happen.

@Mommybear05 since I gave birth 3 years ago I started spotting up to 3 days before AF. It's so annoying because as you say it prolongs the agony, but everything I've read/everyone I've spoken to seems to say it's just one of those things and quite common. Just count CD1 as full day of AF.

Congratulations on all the bfp's!

I think a few people are on a similar cycle to me so good luck for all the bfp's 🤞🏻

Ladies what does everyone think is the most reliable indicator of ovulation - temp or opks? I’ve seen some ladies post and say they have had surges on opks but temp hasn’t risen, could this be due to other factors though? Or would you take that as a definite that you have not ovulated?

@StrawberriCream I thought I had already posted this message so if I have please ignore me I can’t now find it! I’m really sorry for your loss. Wishing you luck for this cycle 🤞🏼✨ xx

Hi @smileyT i literally just came off my period yesterday, I had quite a traumatic time with the mmc. Trying to take it all slowly. Not temp taking or anything else just trying to see what my body does

Yes I would think so @Rebecca1992 xx

@VP91x fingers crossed for a temp rise and then consistent high temps following that so I can see that I ovulated. The last time I had a peak, then temp rise, but then temp was jumping up and down so I definitely didn't ovulate 🙈 I'm not feeling stressed though, I feel like I'm just interested in knowing whether I ovulate or not. And we haven't been dtd like crazy, so I'm not too exhausted 😂 Dh found out that I got a peak, and he was getting upset that I didn't tell him😂 he says that I should tell him these important things 🤣🤣 I didn't do anything for 4th of July, I actually just stayed in bed and caught up on sleep.

How are you feeling? What Cd are you on now?

@Mommybear05 it was really hurtful. People just don't realise I'm impact their words can have especially when someone is going through something as painful as a miscarriage.
But I've always believed everything happens for a reason so I'm holding onto that and you all should too.
Our babies will come ❤️

Ladies if I had my peak OPK on the 1st of July, would that most likely make my ovulation day the 2nd??

@VP91x soy ??? Not heard of that one! What do they do then? Yes he’s fully weaned now. Cycle range from 28/ 30 days. But the spotting always 24/25 days. So annoying! Good luck for this 6th cycle xx

@Mommybear05 yeah April or May is what I'm thinking, we've got a holiday booked for November and I would love to be over the 12week scan mark which would mean falling in this cycle or the following 2, we'll see!! I'm actually feeling strangely calm I've tried every old wives tale in the book and it hasn't happened yet so I'm just trying not to make it my life's focus, which is obviously easier at certain points than others. xx

@Wishingfornumber2 yeah I'm exactly the same if somebody brings up ttc I'll ask about it, but if they don't I won't assume x

Sorry for your loss @StrawberriCream hopefully a few months off has given your body a chance to reset, I also had a MMC in March and still patiently waiting for my rainbow. Are you at the start of your cycle now? Xx

@elliew818 ahh you're much further into Essex, my parents lived between Romford and Ilford so basically London tbh and went to school over in Woodford Green. When I was at school I used to work in Lakeside but that's pretty much all I know of Grays 😂