TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

@Sophj19 yes, I've been offered testing at the recurrent MC clinic once I'm discharged from Charing Cross as my most recent MC was a molar pregnancy.
The last year has been a journey, that's for sure. I would recommend the surgical removal, only because you know everything is cleared sooner for you to try again when you're mentally ready. There is also potentially the opportunity for you have your tissues sent off for testing. Unfortunately, there wasn't enough of my tissue to be tested for cytogenetics.

@Sophj19 Making the decision is hard, I decided to have a surgical procedure under local (mva) as they were not doing any under general due to covid. I just wanted it over and I had heard that medial management can fail and then you may need a procedure anyway so I decided to go for it. Everyone is different though... I have written about my experience on another thread which I can link if you want to know more about mva. It depends what options are available at your hospital as well though. I hope you are doing okay xxx

@VP91x I’m not sure I didn’t really ask as I had to ring them the next day because I didn’t listen to a word they said 😩I may ask them if they could do it under local as I really don’t want to stay in xx

@littletandme did you have to stay in for long after it? Thank you for replying xx

@MichT4 I’m not sure how long I’d have to stay in for they didn’t say, I had to ring them after my appointment last week I didn’t take anything in after the scan. I’ll ask when I go Wednesday though xx

@SmileyT yes it does seem to be the “quicker” option and I’ve heard so many stories of how the medication doesn’t always work. Did you feel okay after it? Cramps wise? X

@GraceG26 how awful for you both! Thank you for sharing- you have helped have you been offered any testing as it was your 3rd? They don’t get any easier do they? Xx

@Emsnewmum oh right okay thank you! You really do worry about every little thing... I think you are right sometimes just switching off and not trying to read into every little thing helps.

Sorry that you had a rough time with infection 😣. It just seems so cruel to go through a mc and then have complications as well. Yes rest and looking after your health sounds like a good idea and it definitely won’t do any harm. I hope you can ttc soon 🤞🏼 xx

@SmileyT are you tempted to test early? xx

@nothernsoul90

Don't worry at all about asking it is so hard to keep track on this thread I'm always worried i might say something wrong.

I went for natural misscarriage and I bled really heavily with huge clots for 3 weeks before I finally got admitted so I'm not sure what caused the infection to be honest they never said.
I just wish I had a ultrasound machine at home so I could see what my body is doing.

I think you just become supersensitisupersensitibe to ether ache and pain in your body after. I've never really had anything as big as this before I think the blood transfusion freaked me out and I stopped trusting my body.

So sorry you are having to wait to ttc it's so hard because you don't know how long it will take once you try to concieve. I will say one thing though I got a new job just before I found out I was pregnant and wasn't concentrating on my cycle and measuring every ( I was definitely still trying) and then I thought I wasn't pregnant but ended up being I feel like I'd given my self a break from the stress and it hraped.

But I know it's almost impossible not to think about it so close after loosing but im going to try and focus on my health and diet etc and that might help my stress levels too.

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@smileyT looks like the standard easy at home is 25ml sensitivity and femometer is 20ml, so you'd expect the femometer to have a darker line I think?
Have you felt any more symptoms? All looks positive for you so far, fingers crossed x

@Emsnewmum so sorry that you are having to wait it’s really frustrating! I’m also waiting to ttc after mc feel a bit in limbo and you just want everything back to normal... I hope you are okay! 💖 can I ask what procedure was it you had that may increase infection risk? Sorry you’ve probably already said but the thread is hard to keep up with sometimes! Xx

@Sophj19 I am so sorry to hear you are having to make this decision. I thought I would share my experience with you.
I had my third MC back in January (no living children) and was advised to have an SMM which is the surgical miscarriage management. We found out about the MC a week before we got married and my 30th birthday.
I have to say I was very nervous about the operation and my husband was only allowed so far into the hospital/process by my side. I was looked after so well by the nurses and doctors but unfortunately when discharged, I fainted on my way out so ended up having to stay overnight. The bleeding following the operation was more than I thought it would be about a week or so later. I remember being up in the night one night just crying because I just felt as though life is so unfair.
I know the feeling when you know you're not pregnant but your body thinks you are. It's so sad. You feel sorry for your body, it's an odd feeling!
I'm not sure if I've helped in any way here. I've probably made things worse 😳 I was thankful to be able to be looked after by professionals during the most difficult time. It was hard being alone going into the operation but the nurses were absolute stars!

@VP91x oh is Bella only in Wednesday to Friday? Glad she is enjoying her tea and biscuits now and frozen 2, girl after my own heart. Strangely I have never smiled so much after being sick before 😂 however much I tell others to be positive, I don't want to get my hopes up and be disappointed. Pathetic really 🙈 also really interesting to look at the difference in the strips did femometer read them as different % or was the contract to control line the same?

@MichT4 only when ttc do people cheer if you vom at work 🥳 definitely keep the Ava off, it isn't going to help or change anything, maybe get the eBay listing ready to go because you won't need it again for another year or so x

@Sophj19 I had the surgical option as I'd previously had the medication to end a pregnancy and my friend suggested I get surgery as it was quicker. I found it so much better, I was in and out so quickly and barely any bleeding at home, within 2/3 days it was down to spotting, the surgery takes about 20mins and I was home about 90mins later. I was the first of the day and no partners allowed on the ward but if I ever had to do it again I'd definitely pick this option x

@mrsssk 😂😂 I know, I think I'll be jealous of his lines after mine peed me off so much.

@VP91x I imagine the two are going to give the same result. Perhaps the new ones are more confusing as the line looks so close to peak. We'll see how this develops. I hope you have enough Fem ones to continue the comparison journey 😂 xx

@Sophj19 so sorry you are going through this and having to make this decision. How long would you have to be in for?
I would want the tests done, so I think I'd do the surgical route, but it's obviously totally up to what you feel comfy with. I think as @littletandme said, you will be well looked after. I know it's not the same as having someone there. Let us know what you decide xx

@Sophj19 I'm sorry you've already gone through this twice before, that is awful. I had surgical management in May and had to be alone for that but the midwives and the consultant who did the MVA under local anaesthetic were all very lovely and calming. It wasn't pleasant at all to go through but there are pros and cons to both medical and surgical management x

@VP91x yep I bought femometer after some recommendations on this thread so will stick with them for now. They are definitely better than One Step which really tested my squinting at a line abilities.

@MichT4 wouldn't be surprised if your OH got better readings than I got on some days! lol my LH been truly non existent since the dizzy heights of a weak positive on 29th June

@VP91x thank you for the tag xx
I’ve been trying to step away from my phone as I’m constantly googling 🙄😩
Looking for some advice... I’ve got my NHS appointment for second scan and EPU on Wednesday and have to decide on treatment. My last two MC I passed naturally. However this time I still feel very much pregnant, so cruel. As it’s my 3rd I could have medication But would have to stay in hospital for nurses to send the tissue off for testing, if I don’t the tissue tested then I can take the medication and come straight home. I’d rather take the tablets at home because I don’t want to wait in hospital and go through it alone (they’ve said I’d have to come in on my own) but then won’t be able to have the tissue tested. Is it’s worth having the tissue tested? The surgical option scares the crap out of me and I don’t want to go through that alone either. Could anyone offer advice/share their experience please? Xx

@VP91x yeah let's see if I stick to waiting its just so hard isn't it when you want so much to just be pregnant again.

I can't believe the difference in those tests I always thought fermometer were good it's what I use but you would not believe those are from the same sample! Looks like you def may ovulate soon! Got my fingers crossed for you!

@Dipsy77 oh really? How strange. Guess it doesn’t want to give too much data to people for anxiety purposes

@VP91x @mrsssk I ordered another box full the day before my bfp. Hoping I don’t have to open them! OH is keen to know if he’s ovulating 🙄😂

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@MichT4 it doesn't do temp either xx

@Rebecca1992 I've been doing OPKs and tracking BBT! I quite OPKs a few months ago because I never got a strong line / + test so just stuck to BBT. But after my MC I gave myself a weird bargain that if any of my left over OPKs were + we would TTC this month! Low and behold we have +OPKs on Sat and Sun (which is later in my cycle than my usual ovulation) so we have DTD over the weekend. Let's see now!

How about you?

@VP91x the difference between those is absolutely ridiculous! I've got a 50 pack of Femometer to get through, I'm considering POAS 5 x a day now to use them up and get some Easy @ Home lol

@VP91x wow that actually is really different. The new ones look like it won’t be long! xx