TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

Hi ladies just catching up on the chat.

@SmileyT massive congratulations on your bfp I'm delighted for you 😊 wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. Xx

@IWM20 I'm so sorry you are going through another loss please take care of yourself and rest up. Xx

@Lynz2020 welcome to the group and sorry to hear about your loss. Its frustrating when ttc again after a loss and it doesn't happen when you want it to. I was the exact same but I'm now 5 cycles in after my mmc I just keep telling myself it will happen when it happens. Xx

@IWM20 be kind to yourself and do what's best for you, if that means having a bit of time out of ttc then definitely do that ❤️

@2020wish I'm the same as @VP91x probably go through a couple of litres of Pom a week. And I definitely be taking today as peak and tomorrow as ov day x

@VP91x I'm now in a food coma and ready for bed but just what I needed... how was B&L? Really made me laugh, Bella not recognising you comment 😂

@MrsK21 @Northernsoul90 I think bite size is the only way to keep me sane and you ladies when you get your BFPs x

@fafi I have the opposite problem I've had to take my extensions out and I'm so desperate to get them back in 💁🏾‍♀️

@Bellabubble ahh thanks so much, I feel so overwhelmed with how nice everyone is being... I dont think I'll even get this many congrats in real life 😂 do you know why you are so tired? Change in weather always gets me... and yeah I did take coq10 in TWW but will stop now, I read there is no evidence it does any harm but not enough evidence for them to promote it. Fingers crossed all the calc flour pays off 🤞

@2020wish I think you have definitely covered yourself don’t worry about yesterday! X

Hi everyone, whilst I’m in a bit of a wait until hcg levels hopefully reach 0 I was thinking of starting some different supplements and things to promote fertility (I need to do something proactive going crazy over here 🤪). Currently I take folic acid with b12 and a separate vitamin D. Are there any supplements that you recommend or heard that are good at boosting fertility? I know my cycles aren’t back yet but might as well prepare x

@2020wish I think you have covered yourself, especially with a bonus one tomorrow. Don’t worry about yesterday, you’ve DTD every other day and that’s perfectly fine

@MichT4 thanks. I usually hit like 114% for peak so just found it odd. No I held in between the four hours after the 80%. But gonna try again I’m another 4 hours. Maybe it is my peak as I got all the ovulation pains and bloating. I DTD this morning so hoping I’ve covered myself: I’ve done it every two days from fertile week started so 3 times this week. And well dtd again tomorrow. That should cover me? Feel like I should of did it yesterday also lol

Possibly @Bellabubble , I haven't heard that. I'm a terribly obsessive serial 'Googler' and actually read that a substantial age gap can hinder conception. I'm not suggesting your age gap is substantial but ours is. Equally though, I'm sure the fact that I am young(ish) will make conceiving a little easier than if we were both pushing 50...
As you conceived so quickly the first time, could it be that your body is still settling and regulating post mc? I'm beginning to think mine is as I'm on cd 31 now and pre mc my cycles were 29 days. Last cycle was 31 days, and the first two were 5 weeks.

@2020wish I’m no expert but I’d say that 80% could be your peak. Was your wee diluted in the one after? Or not held?
DTD tonight If you can, you’ll be covered if it was the peak OPK yesterday or today xx

@SmileyT eeeeeek so excited and happy for you!! Sorry I didn’t message earlier! I woke up late this morn (I have been super tired recently) so didn’t get time to read the thread! But I did think of you lol!! Wishing you a happy healthy 9mths that speeds by!! Did you take your coQ10 during your tww’s? I have stopped mine as I didn’t know if it was ok too? I’m still doing the calc fluor and pom juice though 👍🏻 xx

@Jazper we were lucky the first time and fell literally first try - but now not so much! Although I know 5mths isn’t long in ttc terms - my age is a factor! Oh is younger than me though which apparently balances out - so maybe that is the same for you and your oh? xx

@IWM20 I’m so sorry to see you here again - take your time and be kind to yourself xx

@IWM20 I'm so sorry to hear about your loss lovely 😔 It's never easy, take it easy this week xx

@Lynz2020 welcome to the group, sorry to hear about your journey, it doesn't sound easy at all, but you're in the right place, it's a great group xx

@SmileyT I'm going to the hairdressers tomorrow too! I CANNOT WAIT! My long hair is quite the mane now!!

@IWM20 so sorry to read your update. Big hugs to you ❤️ X

Can someone help me with my ovulation? It’s went up to 80% today but then back down to 24% 4 hours later (it’s confusing that on the app 80% it meant to be a peak) but it’s classed it as high for some reason.

Last night it says I took a test at 8pm roughly then shortly after one... I didn’t I took one in between at 10pm as I didn’t the loo had and it was in the 64% range also so I’m Worried my peak was around that time as I wasn’t going to the loo more regularly and not letting my urine get as concentrated as it needed to be to show a peak?

Sorry forgot to tag you! @MrsK21

Yes is definitely does. We make choices that are right for us at that time and can’t know what will come of it. I think maybe if you had retained tissue you would be getting positive tests so I wouldn’t worry about that too much. I would love to know someone who could give me a scan every week so I know what’s going on 😂. I hope af arrives for you soon. Like you say though if not I would definitely chase your GP up. I’m here if you ever need to talk about the frustration of waiting... I think it’s driving me slightly crazy 🤪 xx

@Northernsoul90 yes I did, though I was in and out of EPU, the mc itself was natural. I wasn't even offered surgery as an option! I preferred that at the time but it's now concerning me that perhaps some tissue has been left behind. I guess every option has pros and cons 🤷🏽‍♀️

@VP91x yeah that’s a good idea. I like @SmileyT’s idea of the mini goals. At the moment I’m just so worried about step 1. I had another glimpse of a tint after another BM and now I’m a bit fearful of going. But you’re right, step by step 🤞🏼🤞🏼🌈
Today was fine. I didn’t have to go to the office, have to meet my boss tomorrow for brunch instead. I was uncomfy in my sports bra so that’s come off and now I’m hanging free and in my pjs, watching the new lion king 😂

😂😂😂 about Bella not recognising you looking all glam. Do you have to travel far for your lovely meal? I’m craving a night like that. Have a lovely time xx

@MrsK21 Definitely, it can be hard sometimes being firm with your doctor but you want answers. Sorry I know you will have already said in previous threads but did you miscarry naturally? xxx

@SmileyT good idea!! I will do the same I think when I get a bfp 🤞🏼. It’s a good way to get through the first trimester xx

Thank you for the support. @HopeForRainbowbaby my cycle has returned to normal which has always been 28-29 days, af is due in a couple of days unless I get lucky, then it will be onto cycle 3 to try again.

@MichT4 wohooo I'm glad ☺️ cheers to your healthy 9 months ❤️ I'm on 2 dpo and I'm already thinking... well I could test in one week ..where is my strong will.. lost in action I guess 😂

@IWM20 im so sorry dear. My heart goes to you :( I wish for you that Mc goes smooth and quickly❤️

@Lynz2020 thank you for sharing you story❤️ I'm sorry that you had to go through Mc. I wish you bfp ASAP!! How are your cycles after Mc ?

@SmileyT @VP91x how much Pom juice are you drinking a day?

@IWM20 I’m so sorry :( life is so cruel :( giving iou a massive hand hold x

@IWM20 I'm so sorry you are going through this again sending love xx

@Lynz2020 sorry you are going through this too, this is a really lovely group where you will get lots of support x

@SmileyT mini goals sounds so achievable. I like the thought of that rather than thinking in trimester chunks. I'll definitely use this idea when my time comes xx

@Northernsoul90 after feeling really sorry for myself earlier, I've decided I will be more firm with my GP when I speak to them after this 2 weeks wait for my period. If it doesn't come by then, I'm asking for a blood test at least to check my HCG levels have dropped to non pregnant levels as a starting point x

I'd already had a couple of days to come to terms with it so I was 95% sure that I knew what she was going to say. Life is just so cruel. I honestly never thought TTC would be like this and I really thought the first MC would be my last. I think I'm going to wait until I've had a period this time, last time I was so so lucky to catch straight away but I'm wondering if that was maybe a bad idea and also don't think i can emotionally do through all this again so soon. Thank you so much for all of your support, its so nice to have people that genuinely understand how youre feeling xxx