TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

Hi everyone. I've recently found out I've had a missed miscarriage, i have to go back on Wednesday for a rescan but I feel I just know im going to be told those dreded words again.

Its been a very long week for us waiting for Wednesday to come and I keep thinking about TTC again. I wanted to ask you ladies if I need to wait to have a period before trying again or if we can try straight away? Has anyone fallen pregnant straight away after a MC and everything has turned out okay?

@Pugprincess so sorry for your loss we have a new thread (we talk a lot lol) here is the link welcome hope you find support with us xxx www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3964135-TTC-after-MC-July-2020-Thread-6?watched=1

Hello all. I’ve found this forum as I feel I need some support from ladies who have also experienced miscarriage. I hope you don’t mind me joining. In a nutshell myself and husband had tried on and off for 5 years (I say on and off as sometimes more intensely testing trying etc and other times just letting things be but no contraception that whole time). We had hospital tests and all unexplained infertility no problems found. We were just about to start IUI cycles and I fell pregnant during lockdown naturally. I honestly believe stopping work and stress did it for me so I think I know where I went wrong (I was working two jobs and long days-one being agency and neither under contracts so financially I never could feel secure). I’ve since left both jobs and got myself one contracted job in a school as a teaching assistant for next year so I know get my evenings and holidays back which I hope will help my fertility as I don’t think I was eating or sleeping properly and I’ve read this can affect the quality of your lining for pregnancy. Anyway...unfortunately towards the end of June I was getting brown discharge that was increasing, started off when wiping after wee, then it was going in toilet bowl during wee, dripping on floor when I stood up, I just knew something wasn’t right so I went for a private scan, we were so happy and reassured as scan showed no bleeding in uterus and a 6 week 4 day baby with a heartbeat. I was 7 weeks 3 days at the time so I was a bit concerned to be measuring smaller but people reassured me that they catch up. On Monday last week I had some pains that felt strong but I rested up and tried to keep calm, they didn’t last too long. Then Tuesday the pains were bad and every 5 mins like contractions and lasted hours, I’ve toilet visit my brown had red in. I rang doctors and they booked me into the epau at hospital for Thursday morning. Wednesday I didn’t get pain all day but I did have red mucus when wiping. By 9pm that evening the pains returned and were constant. I couldn’t sleep with them so I rang 111 and explained that I was in pain and wouldn’t be able to get myself to hospital in the morning. They sent an ambulance, half hour passed and nothing arrived, I went for a wee and the bowel was full of bright red blood this time, then I really panicked and rang 999 as 111 had told me to if heavy bleeding started. Ambulance came much quicker then and took me to hospital on my own due to covid (were in Leicester so on lockdown again). I waited in a little room and made a few toilet trips where I passed more blood. Unfortunately the nurse didn’t tell me till morning to use a cardboard bowel in toilet-I didn’t know this was my 1st pregnancy and 1st miscarriage! She informed me I had passed a big clot so I wondered if that was my baby and even worse I thought it’s been flushed away 😢 Hours later they scanned me and told me everything had gone-complete miscarriage. They told me they thought I was past the worst of it. Turns out they were wrong. Since then at home the pains been the worst. Worse than the night I was taken in. I had 2 hot water bottles, ibu and paras, then co-codamol. I was screaming in pain. Sunday night I believe I passed my placenta which made me wonder if baby was still there after all. Yesterday morning I went for a wee and heard a plop. I pulled it out and I’m pretty sure it was the sac. I had googled and checked with friends/relatives. My sacs amniotic fluid wasn’t there and I couldn’t see the baby but it had been inside me dead for probably a good week so it’s not a surprise. I put it in water in Tupperware and placed in fridge till husband got home from work. I called my Vicar and he came and did a burial with us in our garden which meant the world to give our baby a proper send off. Baby is now buried in a little box I made for it under a rose bush my mother in law bought us for a memorial. Today is a new day and I hope I can start to feel better and I’m so glad my baby wasn’t flushed away at hospital. I’m so glad it’s buried here with us and we have somewhere to sit and reflect. We are desperate to ttc ASAP. I’ve been advised to wait for a period mainly due to dates but in my head I think it’s a good idea to let your body have one cycle and clear anything else out. I plan to use my summer holiday to get in new better routines ready for when school starts back up. Lots of long dog walks for exercise, healthy eating and solid sleep routines. The money I would have spent on my ten week scan I will use to buy a blender to make myself healthy smoothies and so on. I pray we all get a happy ending and our rainbow 🌈 babies 👶🏼 🙏🏻

@Chickoletta I joined this Group not a follow on from this thread but the one I found that was most appropriate for me Pregnant after Missed Miscarriage MMC www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3951965-pregnant-after-missed-miscarriage-mmc

@Chickoletta I think the thread has moved on to the next one now! Not sure about a graduates thread. Such a good idea! I’ll be testing the beginning of August so a while to wait yet! X

Thank you @Mommybear05. So touched that people remember me and my story here. Yes, busy times ahead for us. I keep using the word ‘exciting’ as it’s so much more positive than ‘terrifying’ or ‘expensive’!

I’ve just read back over the thread and it’s lovely to see so many BFPs recently. Is there a thread for graduates of this group?

Is anyone else testing soon? 🤞🏼for even more BFPs.

@Chickoletta that’s a lovely clear line. Congratulations. Sounds like the next few months/ year will be very busy for you! Glad to hear life can finally start moving forward for you. And still so sorry for your loss back in April xxx

@Hayleylou89 glad you are being so looked after. I hope you enjoy your break away. 😊

@VP91x how are you feeling today? Xx

Amazing pics @@Hayleylou89 that's so nice they done that xxx
Congrats to all the other BFPs xxxx

Massive congratulations @Chickoletta . A fellow twin loss mummy in April I wish you the Very best for a happy healthy 9 months 🌈💕

Congratulations @Chickoletta x

@VP91x
How cute are those two 🐰🐰

@Chickoletta Congratulations wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy 😊💕

@VP91x Oh my goodness they are so cute! I'm such an animal lover... I bet Bella will be thrilled! Has she seen them yet? Xx

@MichT4 I'm absolutely exhausted but my friend finally announced that she had her baby on Monday, she kept us all waiting, but super exciting. I'm also trying to reign in the eating to lose a couple pounds and I'm starving, not sure how long this will last 😂

Congrats @Chickoletta 🥳 definitely a clear line x

@Stayinghopeful92x yes I can definitely see why you don't want to test before attending EPU, but great news you are getting some tests done xx

@VP91x omg how cute 🥰🥰🥰 I literally want to reach into my screen and stroke them xx

@VP91x oh so cute, my girls would love them

Oh @Chickoletta that is such wonderful news! So pleased for you both! It was meant to be on this cycle, I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months ahead x

@VP91x your bunnies are so cute! i hope they bring a lot of joy to Bella x

@VP91x oh my gosh how cute! I've been trying to bribe the OH into letting me get a puppy, or at least another kitten to add to our brood of cats, but he is staunchly refusing. Misery! So pleased you've got some cuties to plow your energies into!

@Stayinghopeful92x I hope you're able to get some answers now!

@Chickoletta congratulations !!! This is lovely line ☺️ and how do you feel? Do you have any symptoms ? I can understand you are worried but I don't know if there is anything you can do, then just take care of yourself mama 😘

this chat group fills with Bfp this month! It is very exciting🥰

Thank you everyone! I’m delighted, of course, but also trying not to get too excited. I know that the odds are generally in our favour though.

@Lollol86 - I’ve had two proper periods since my MC, so this is my third cycle.

The things I did differently this time were to stop tracking and just have lots of sex mid-cycle, used the Pre-Seed lube (DH, who’s a vet was very cynical about this though) and put my feet in the air after sex!

Life is about to get very interesting for us as we’re in the middle of moving house - all got halted due to lockdown - and will be doing a building project for the next year. Will still be in a caravan when this baby (or babies, could be twins again I guess) arrives! We move out of our temporary, lockdown home next week and then in with my in-laws for a couple of weeks until completion of buying the plot, sorting caravan etc. 😬

@VP91x awww they are so cute. I love rabbits 🥰

@VP91x oh my gosh, they are gorgeous!! Bella is going to be so excited!!

@Stayinghopeful92x it must feel good to know you’ll get some answers soon. Not sure what those tests are but a step in the right direction for sure