Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

Hi, can I join.

All very new to this. I'm 31 this month. Just finished my last pill packet June 21st. Started taking folic acid and drinking less alcohol to try prepare my body. Been on pill for 10 years.
Don't mind when I concieve but would like to have a late Spring/early Summer baby.
After coming off pill we said we wait until Aug, but had unprotected sex last night and had my withdrawal bleed last week. So I doubt I'm ovulating. Famous last words 🤣

@sunflowersaremyfav93 i pee in a pot and dip the stick in. you get a control line to show it has worked and then a second line which can vary in strength/colour, the line should be dark to match the control line if you are having a spike in LH which happens when you are ovulating. When it shows you are ovulating thats the time to get jiggy.......thats my understanding anyway. I thought you would only get one day of a strong line......mine has been strong for 2 days. I will see what tomorrow holds.

The only thing i would recommend for ttc is that you are MARRIED.
Unless of course you have independent income or a mat leave deal that pays you 100% until you return (including pension contributions).

If he isn't prepared for that then he isn't contributing to your sacrifice for HIS child.

Welcome @queenatom. You're in a similar boat to me Tbh. We are looking to start trying in October (hopefully if all medicstion goes right). I turn 32 next month. Welcome to the club.

Wow everyones taking their fitness so well. I need to start doing more exercise. I'm. Shit at it Tbh

Hello! Can I join in? I’ve been in preconception planning mode for a couple of months now and good to know I’m not the only one!

We are going to start officially trying in October. Until a few weeks ago I had been waiting to speak to my consultant about where I stood on trying - I have an ongoing medical issue and the advice I was given when I started treatment two years ago was not to get pregnant whilst receiving this medication. That was fine two years ago when we thought the treatment would only last three months, but I’m not going to be done any time soon and at 32 I’m not getting any younger. Fortunately I’ve been told I’m fine to try as long as I let them know once I’m actually pregnant so we can revise my treatment plan!

I had my Nexplanon implant removed last week so am hoping my cycle returns soon. Started temping just to get into the habit and have been taking prenatal vitamins.

I’m also hoping to lose some more weight before we officially start trying - I’m down 10kgs in 2020 and I think another 5 - 7kg is doable before October. Like @MsQueenInTheNorth I also did Couch to 5k earlier in the year and I’m now running 15 - 30k a week consistently (albeit at a glacial pace!)

@Nate1 I LOVE Yoga with Adrienne, she goes through everything so clearly. I didn't used to have the patience for yoga, but her videos make it more fun :)

We're waiting for our house to come through (put in the offer a while ago but the current owners haven't found somewhere to move yet!) then we'll probably start TTC. Though DH looked at me today and said "It's probably going to go okay, there's no reason we wouldn't get the house, shall we just start now?" So my resolve is slipping!!

@MsQueenInTheNorth wow I‘m impressed! 5k is very very good. Because COVID happened we can‘t go on the initial holiday we planned and decided to hike several days (150k) instead. I am training for that but it‘s not really cardio so I need to overcome my fear of shortness of breath to get fitter I guess :D. What changed that you managed to accomplish 5k? I do enjoy YouTube yoga classes. I can recommend Yoga with Adrian (she‘s from Texas so English speaking) and I feel like it‘s just exactly the right kind of strength training for me. Lots of core and back work which I reckon is good for an upcoming pregnancy but nothing too strenuous :)

@MayDay27 Hi :) I‘m a teacher and in my first year of teaching. Happy to hear that it is a career you‘d like too persue. It is very rewarding. Sorry to hear that it delays your ttc plans though. :( I am waiting to ttc because of my husbands job training which will end in April 21. Any due date after that would just financially be the sensible and smart thing to aim for :)
Maybe you already said and I forgot but why are you other ladies waiting? Sorry x

Hmmm I just did another OPK strip and it seems just as dark as yesterdays, not sure what to think of that. I guess I will have to do another tomorrow and compare again, this is all new to me so just interested in getting a bit more of an insight into my cycle.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 quite often consultants work 50/50 in the NHS and a private clinic so it might be worth having a look to see if you can find one local to you that does this, that way if you wanted to transfer over you could see the same one.

Hey guys please can I join! It is SO good to read people planning in advance I literally thought I was the only one that was counting down the months

I'm 30 and we did start trying in March about the same time the whole world went into crisis and so we decided to stop. Looking back I'm sure it would have all be fine and now I see pregnant people out and about and I am so jealous! Anyway since March we've had a bit of a look at options, we moved into our forever home almost two years ago. We were suppose to be getting married in August, I think we still will be, we were only having a small ceremony and party after so it might just have to be even smaller than we initially planned!

The problem was my job, it's never been the ideal job to have if you want children as it involved a lot of working weekends and Xmas etc and although people do make it work I decided to go for something that was going to be more 9-5 min-fri. Since then I've had an interview for a job I would love, I thought the interview went ok but it's in education and I haven't got qualifications in that area (I think they interviewed me for the industrial experience) so I'm sure if someone else was being interviewed for the position they would get it. Anyway sorry to blab on! The said they would get in touch with people at the end of the week (last week) and so far not heard anything 😭I'm taking it as bad news and so on to plan B! Plan B is to start my teacher training in September but plan B also means that babies would be on hold. This is fine, I'm fine totally FINE! Except since maybe this time last year we've been talking about the best time for children and I don't know if I can wait for so long in the future, also I know 30 isn't old but I have no idea what my fertility is like and so how long it may take, waiting until 32 is that a bit risky 😟

I am really sorry for such a long post but now I feel better 😂

Hi @Nate1! Yes, I thought it was a good place to start! Probably cardio to start with, and then move on to some strength stuff. I’ve just finished Couch to 5k so I’m feeling quite positive about that! How about you?

Hi @sunflowersaremyfav93 not taking any specific pre conception supplements, but I do take the Wellwoman vegetarian supplement on the days I remember, which is about 90% of the time! When things get more serious I’ll speak to a doctor and see if that’s ok to keep taking while TTC. Are you taking any? Sorry to hear about your worries about your uterus, it’s great you managed to get a consultation so quickly though.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 what are you hoping the private gynaecologist will be able to do for you? If you've already had it confirmed you have it and the NHS has referred you to a gynaecologist. I went to a private consultant when I was waiting for my NHS laparoscopy, all he did was tell me what I already knew and then the price of having it privately was about £10k!

If it's going to hugely make you feel better then consider it but sounds like it's unlikely an option for you to get the full procedure done privately?

@Nate1oh wow! I didn't know you could ovulate that quickly...glad I've just bought some femometer opks!

I know...I've been worried for forever that I'll struggle to get pregnant and now going to find out!

My health insurance didn't cover fertility and contraception but because I've got endometriosis they got round it. Maybe you could too because bits a pre existing condition?

@butterfly5291 I ovulated today - or at least had an LH surge so an egg is coming up in the next 48 hours :D Anyway not trying yet but I just wanted to tell you this since my coil removal was only 7 days ago which means my cycle just went on anyway despite some spotting and heavy bleeding. I‘m amazed by my body :D

@sunflowersaremyfav93 sorry to hear about the septate uterus. Google is horrible. :( Wish you all the best.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 yeah we're going to start trying from now I guess. Going to buy some OPKs now.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with the septate uterus, call your private healthcare and hopefully you can get some peace xx

Woooohoooo! The gynaecologist got my coil out!!!

Now the fun starts! God knows when I'm going to start ovulating!

Oh no @sunflowersaremyfav93 ! Step away from the google! The worst stories are on there and much rarer are the success stories. Don't panic yourself lovely.

Oh and have you started taking folic acid?

@PurBal welcome ☺️ I am also in the process of trying to get my coil removed. Have your GP surgery said they aren't doing it? Try sexual health clinics too. My GP surgery and sexual health clinic aren't doing it but another GP surgery was so I had an appointment there yesterday. She couldn't get it out though (but my strings are missing) I have a gynaecologist appointment this morning but luckily I get Bupa health care through work.