Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

Yay more crazy Planners. Hurrah. Welcome everyone.

As for the position question I heard that missionary and doggy are best for depth and gravity reasons

@sunflowersaremyfav93 hey! I know what you mean - I’m hoping to get pregnant in time to go to a friend’s wedding abroad next summer but very conscious that’s quite unlikely to happen. But positive thinking! Someone else has said doggy so I’ll experiment with both and keep you posted

@Lollipop87 Thank you 😊 oh yes please if you wouldn’t mind asking!

Hi @sunflowersaremyfav93! Loving this thread already That sounds very similar, it’s as if men think that as soon as you agree to try a baby will just magically appear! I’ve had to very gently explain to him that it could take a few months of trying and then a baby takes nearly 10 months to grow so realistically we won’t have a baby actually in our arms for at least a year from when we start! When he looked at it that way I think he was like oh yeah! I was taking vitamin D throughout the strict lockdown period but mainly for my own health as couldn’t go outside very often. Haven’t started taking it again as it’s summer but will definitely start once we stop using condoms. We did have my friend’s wedding to consider as it was going to be abroad next May and I didn’t want to fly in early pregnancy or heavily pregnant, but due to COVID and some family stuff she’s now getting married in the UK which means I don’t have to plan around it as much. Is your bf’s sister’s wedding close to where you live?

@maloney123 congrats on starting TTC! My boss swore by this book she read that gave best positions and timing for success and broken down into whether you wanted a boy or a girl! Can’t remember what it’s called but I can ask her! Xx

Hey All!
Can I join in too please? Had my IUD (copper) taken out this week and we’ve started trying. Does anyone think / know if different positions are more likely to result in success? I’m sooo impatient for it to happen now!
xxx

Hi everyone, I hope it’s not too late to join? I’ve just been reading through all the comments and have never joined a forum before but thought I’d give it a go! It’s been really interesting reading all your stories, and I’ve got my fingers crossed for all of you! A little bit about me:

I’m nearly 33 and married my DH in October 2019.
I came off the pill in May (had been on it for 16 years!) and had a withdrawal bleed and then my first natural period in mid-June. Currently using condoms as BC.
I’m using the Clue app which predicts my next period is due this weekend.

I’ve had baby fever for as long as I can remember but my husband is very cautious. The only thing we ever argue about is TTC, we finally had a long talk about it recently and he finally agreed we could start trying before Christmas, so I’m going to try and work my magic to start Sept/Oct (fingers crossed!) I started taking folic acid last week in preparation as I read that if you start taking it at least 2 months before conception then it reduces the risk of your baby developing an issue like spina bifida by up to 70%!
Has anyone else struggled with getting their OH to agree a timeframe of when to start TTC? Xx

@KittyT30 True, think I read that, even if you get the timing perfect, the chance of conception in any given cycle is still only 30% or so.

@queenatom time will def tell. Husband not here at min, but home later so see what he says. Unless the deed ready been done and iv already swimmers there 😂... but not always result in pregnancy anyway. Some people know when ovulating but still don't get pregnant. So il try not to get too excited. 😂

@KittyT30 If you did it yesterday, there's still a chance of pregnancy, sperm hangs around for a good long time. I'm clearly very bad at this 'pre'-conception business, because my first thought was to get straight on it 😂

Just took better picture, def looks pretty dark now. Decisions decisions, we had intercourse last night but didnt know I could be ovulating. Now I'm thinking, dam is this right time to get pregnant 😂 there is a better pic

@KittyT30 Doesn't look quite at peak (the second line isn't quite as dark as the control) but not far off! Certainly can't hurt to get to it - and I'd also test again later this evening and see if you get a darker line then.

Hi all, had previously been in contact.. just came off the pill mid june. Still no first period yet.

Out of curiosity iv taken two ovulation tests this week. First one showed a very faded line. The second today throught I'd take just had 5 mins to spare, the line is as dark as the other?? This mean its baby making time????

Ahhhhhh what to do!!!😅🤔

@JamesZebra Yes, everything I’ve seen on BBT says you have to do it as soon as you wake up before getting out of bed or it affects the accuracy. There are all sorts of other things that can throw it off too like broken sleep, alcohol and being unwell. Not sure I’ll have much luck getting accurate results.

Cambridge diet sounds hardcore!

@MsQueenInTheNorth there is a free version but I think it auto upgrades you for free for the first month. I quite like it and its £20 for 3 months with a voucher code to get access for a whole year at the moment, so may consider going for it! I am going to wait for the free trial to run out and see how basic it actually is.

@JamesZebra tbh, I am not too sure! Me and OH have been using the withdrawal method ever since I came off the pill. He doesn't think its possible to get preg that way, but I think it is possible, very low chance, but still possible, and we last DTD on CD12. Before yesterday it was saying that I ovulated CD 14, but after logging my temp this morning it has now moved it to CD 16. So no idea tbh!! I have been feeling superr tired, mild cramping and a couple of headaches here and there, but nothing major. Luckily when I ordered my OPKs, they come with 20 pregnancy tests too, so if AF still hasn't arrived by the time the OPKs arrive (probably gonna be 5 days late by then) then I might just test.

I spoke about it with OH last night, and although he thinks I am just stressing he did also say if you are then that's good, just not for my bridesmaid dress next year!

ooooh @CookieMonster3001 do you think there is a chance you could be pg?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I am doing the cambridge diet.....good weight loss but not sure how sustainable it is long term and I have a feeling the weight will creep back on very easily the moment I stop but I needed to do something really drastic as I was ballooning! I got up to 17stone at one point!!! I am back down in the 15 bracket now but even that is far from ideal. Still I will keep going for as long as I can.
I bought my DP some Brazil nuts but he wouldn't eat them He's more of the "if it happens, it happens" mindset.
Deffo do an opk. I think I ovulate at different times each month.

@queenatom do you have to do your BBT as soon as you wake up? My friend told me one of the best things you can do with weight loss is drink loads so I am doing 3-4L a day at the mo.

That’s meant to say “use Flo”. I haven’t quite progressed to using “Flo” as a verb

@Nate1 Oh that’s interesting, that you have a sort of ‘enforced’ start to maternity leave. As far as I’m aware you can keep working right up until your waters break here! I’m sorry about the uncertainty though, it’s such a strange time.

Well done on the weight loss @JamesZebra! I weighed myself this morning and I’d lost 2lb since last week, so feeling pleased with that. I’ve got a couple of UK breaks planned for the summer though, so I imagine lots will go back on then

Thanks @CookieMonster3001, I might give it a go! I’m persevering with Ovia but I’m not a huge fan at the moment, so I might make a switch. Is there a free option, or just a free trial?

I Flo too @sunflowersaremyfav93, but I don’t think it’s always very accurate with my ovulation either. Isn’t it more that they’re assuming most women get their period 14 days after the ovulate, not that they ovulate on day 14 of their cycle? Flo always adjusts my ovulation date for the previous month to 14 days before my current period started. It always starts off as day 12 or 13 as I normally have 26/27 day cycles, but if I’m a couple of days late it then moves my ovulation day back? Sorry, I’m probably not explaining that very well and I might not be right anyway!

Great work @JamesZebra! My weight has been stubbornly static for the past 2 weeks. I seem to go through patches where I lose nothing for 2 - 3 weeks then a kg at once, so hoping I have a drop coming soon!

I'm taking Pregnacare Before Conception multi-vitamins - they were on a deal so won't pretend there was a huge amount of science in the decision!

No insomnia for me last night, which I'm so glad about. I slept straight through to my alarm - went it started going off on the other side of the room I went to leap out of bed before realising that I needed to take my BBT. Had to lie there for two mins whilst I waited for my reading - husband was not impressed! Lesson learned...

@MsQueenInTheNorth I would recommend it if you are a data gal like me! They give you a free trial of their VIP membership too so you get all sorts of cool stuff on there

@JamesZebra 4lbs is amazing! Well done! I got my folic acid from Holland and barretts and my vit D from amazon. Realised that the dosage I got is far to high, so I am only going to take one every other day (I got 100mg/4000IU dosage - probs should have read up about that before buying them!)

Still no sign of AF and I am now 3 days late because my FF app pushed ovulation back a day again. No symptoms no nothing! No idea what the hell is going on with my body at the moment. Have never been this late before. No weight loss for me this week as I just cannot stop eating! Need to put a lock on the door.

How is everyone doing today?

I am feeling good- I lost another 4lbs on my diet this week which is encouraging. Still a long way to go though to get back to a somewhat healthy weight!
Also paid a chuck off of my credit card. I really want to be debt free and have a decent amount in savings if I do manage to conceive.

Which brand of vitamins are people taking?

@Nate1 the market is a bit all over the place atm. The first week after lockdown everything went under offer. Thankfully put my flat on at that time and it was under offer in a week. It's currently rented out and it's got a tenant in situ. But since that first week nothing seems to have gone. A lot has gone on the market at redic over-inflated prices (about 20% higher than six months ago) so waiting for it to cool off a bit and people to realise that buyers won't pay those prices.

@Bells3032 Yes :) Oh great I know this region and I think it's lovely there. And still close to London for jobs etc. How's the housing market? Do you have lots of choices? In my area it's awful.

I live in the southwest of Germany in a city with about 600.000 inhabitants, which is big for Germany, but of course not compared to London. I would like to live close to my family. I think it is very sensible and smart of you to think about it. Unfortunately, my husband would like to work for larger companies after his exams next year, which are of course close to larger cities, and my parents live in the country. Well, cities also have advantages of course and I support him :)