Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

@Nate1 could you say that your friends have planned something to celebrate all the lockdown birthdays (which hopefully is quite a few?) and you don’t want to miss it because everyone is going and it’s the first time you’ll all be together...or something along those lines?? You could actually arrange to see a few friends so it doesn’t feel like lying!

@mackjm20 I know what you mean, I’m known as the person who will always have at least 1 alcoholic drink even if just a wine with dinner, so not sure how I’ll get round it as people would definitely suspect if I started only having soft drinks! Might have to get DH to always go to the bar and get me something that looks like a G&T but is actually just tonic!

Good Morning ☀️
funny how we all try to avoid speculations about pregnancy. Won‘t be that easy when actually pregnant but too early to tell. But time will tell.

@CookieMonster3001 Oh I would give a lot to see an actual beach this year. What a nice plan. :) Also I understand you worrying about your sisters baby but my brother has a cousin his age and of course during childhood there has been some rivalry (amongst the mothers!) but since his teenage years his cousin is one of his best friends and I quite envy them because blood is (often) thicker than water and they probably will be friends for life. That’s a great prospect I think.

@Lollipop87 I’m just checking for the egg-white-thing and feed that info into the glow app..but that’s really just one or two days per cycle. The other days I can’t tell whether it’s the one or the other ..

Question: My mom wants to go on holiday with me right during the time my dh and I want to start trying :D I don’t want to tell her that because I don’t want anyone to know exactly when we did IT haha I think parents are not supposed to know anything about your love life. Does anyone have a nice excuse that won’t make her suspicious? :D As far as she knows I don‘t have any plans for several days (because of COVID ..) but of course I could make something up.. I‘m just not used lying to her. :D

@CookieMonster3001 Greece will be so nice. Also totally agreed on the easier to hide when hosting Christmas as you can but non alcoholic and switch up a label :)

Even if your sister does conceive at a similar time hold your ground and allow yourself to have your own shower etc! You might find it’s so nice having someone to share the worries with etc though

Sorry to hear about your DH job.

@Lollipop87 I get the exact same feeling about my mother in law when I drink that she’s like looking for signs that we are and the drink just ruins it. My DH family are completely open about how desperate they are for us to have a baby so a glass of wine usually avoids the speculation- although god knows how I will hide it when we are expecting now that I’ve been following this same habit for a year!

@MsQueenInTheNorth the dreams are so intense! Laughing at your suggestion about the coffee I will be exactly the same! I was putting away DH pants the other day and thought about getting rid of the tighter ones haha!

@queenatom that is such a temptation! I would be having cheese Everytime I went to the fridge!

@Nate1 can do relate the the protest drinking’ I literally walk in to see my DH family and have a drink just to remove any doubt haha it’s ridiculous

@Lollipop87 love that you had a pate and cheese board! I’m off to get pate bread and Camembert plus wine today! Day off the diet haha!

@KittyT30 happy birthday for yesterday! The whole comparing thing sounds like a nightmare, sorry you have to deal with that.

@CookieMonster3001 weirdly just after writing that message I went to the loo and had loads of EWCM but I’m only on CD9. Had a look around some other threads and apparently it’s normal to start getting it that early as it’s your body getting ready to ovulate, maybe I’m going to ovulate slightly early this month 🤔 Some women said they get it, then it goes away again and comes back a couple of days later. Luckily mine doesn’t seem to shift my dates around but I’m still going to track it so I can look back when I’m actually TTC. The general consensus seems to be that when you see it get BD’ing as it helps the sperm to live longer, so I’ll do that from Oct onwards!

Also having the crazy dreams but I understand that your dreams are made up of stuff going on in your life and considering we are all so ready for a baby it makes sense!!

I tried the whole CM thing, but tbh I cant figure it out and TMI but I dont tend to get huge amounts of it so unless im gonna fiddle around all up inside of there I dont think I could do this. I tried adding what I thought was my CM last month and it kept shifting my ovulation dates around and then I took them out because I wasnt 100% sure I was tracking it correctly and I didnt want it to squew the dates!

Also I keep having crazy dreams this week. About my teeth all falling out and insects all over my house. Don't know if it's a sign I'm pregnant, or anxious about change. Also was my birthday yesterday (maybe it's to do with getting older)

I'm using clue aswel, haven't tracked mucus yet t as wasn't really looking for changes.
We had unprotected sex while I was ovulating this month (acc to strips). Period should be due next week according to clue but I'm not sure if I'm pregnant as was just finished pill and only has withdrawal bleed.

Sister in law just told me yesterday she is 12 weeks pregnant. I actually felt a little jealous as this is her third. Plus there is major competition in my husband's family over everything e.g. grandparents attention, money, acedmic results. So that means if I was pregnant this month or next my child would be in the same class as theirs the whole way through ps ( we live in a village). Always comparing each other. Don't like the sound of that.

@cookiemonster2001 a pre conception holiday before you start trying sounds amazing! We had originally planned that ☹

@queenatom oh dear I’m sorry you’re having some problems, fingers crossed one of those will sort everything out 😊

@Lollipop87 I’be given up on mucus tracking for now, I’m not sure it’ll be of much use to me until my cycle normalises a bit. Also (and apologies if TMI!) things seem to have gone a bit haywire down there for me so I’m not sure what I’m seeing is normal anyway - I’m not sure if I’ve got a touch of thrush or something or if I’m having a reaction to the condoms but I’m very uncomfortable! Off to the chemist today to pick up some Canesten and some latex-free condoms in the hope that one of those will sort things out...

@CookieMonster3001 morning! Your week off sounds great 😊 Holiday and Christmas plans both sound good, Greece is lovely - if you want an island I’d recommend Kefalonia. I totally understand the sister thing, I found it really hard when my younger sister got married and had a baby before me because I’ve been used to doing everything first our whole lives so it took a while for me to get used to it and I did feel a bit jealous at times. I would feel a bit annoyed if she wanted to TTC no. 2 at the same time as my 1st because selfishly I kind of want it to just be about me for a while (she had her first baby the year I got married so I kind of felt like I didn’t get as much attention from her and my mum with wedding planning etc. which sounds mean but it was all about her and her wedding the year before and then she got pregnant straight away after her wedding so the focus was still very much on her). Luckily she isn’t planning to try until next year for their second so fingers crossed I fall quickly! Sorry about the pay cut, that sucks. I guess look on the bright side, he could work for BA or Boots or someone who are making lots of staff redundant. That’s what I’ve had to keep telling myself, that whatever happens if we’ve still got jobs we’re one of the lucky ones.

@Nate1 the “protest drink” is a great idea! I wasn’t sure if I was imagining it but I think my mother-in-law looked disappointed when I had wine with dinner, she may be hoping for a grandchild!

Does anyone else track their cervical fluid? I input it into my Clue app and was just looking back to see if there are any patterns, but it’s a bit all over the place to be honest! I didn’t get EWCM the first cycle off the pill so don’t think I ovulated but I got it for 2 days last month and am now hoping I get it again next week as it’s a good sign ovulation is about to happen (or so I’ve read!) The other 2 options on my app are “creamy” or “sticky” - apparently creamy is meant to be in between your period and your fertile days and sticky is meant to be after ovulation but before your period. But I don’t think mine fits nicely into those 2 categories 😂 Sorry if this is TMI for anyone! Just thought I’d ask the question as this isn’t the kind of thing you tend to bring up with friends over dinner for example 🙈

Good Morning everyone!!! So much to catch up on! Me and hubby had a week off work to celebrate his birthday (hopefully last time just us 2!!) And have tried to stay away from social media for a while! I recieved the OPKs in post but gonna hang onto them until Aug/Sept to start testing!

So turns out the famalam want to plan a holiday and DH convinced them to go in October before we TTC which will be nice so thinking of where to go... considering Greece!

It also turns out me and DH are hosting christmas party this year (if things go bk to normal that is) which originally scared me incase I am pregs but thinking now is prob a good thing as itll be easier to hide not drinking!!

Also the next thing we found out is my older sister is planning to TTC the EXACT date as me. And now I cant help but think if she catches before me and getting pangs of jealousy which is soooo ridiculous but I cant help it. Even to the point where Ive thought well if we get pregs at same time do we do a joint baby shower but I dont want to as itll be my 1st and her 2nd. Someone needs to slap me!

Finally we also found out DH will have to take a pay cut as his company has been hit hard by CV19 which is a bit of a bummer but hoping it will be OK.

On a brighter note, I have ate all the food this week and done zero exercise which has been great but cant wait to get back to healthy eating next week!

Good Morning :)

@CharWils Hi :)
@Lollipop87 Thanks for the reassurance:) you‘re probably right and it‘s the hormones leaving the system/balancing/making way for a natural cycle. :)
My sister in law made a comment about me being pregnant because I forgot a name of a family member for a second there yesterday which led me to „protest drink“ to clear things up for her .. haha :D I think it’s great to enjoy all the things we can‘t have soon (hopefully) and a nice cheesboard sounds awesome.

Don’t know where the word cupcake came from, was supposed to say cycle 🤣 Maybe I’m craving cake too!

@Nate1 I’m not sure if it’s the same pill vs coil but my first cycle was quite short too (also 25 days) but not sure if the length of time “counts” as your body is still getting the hormones out of your system 🤷🏼‍♀️ My subsequent cupcake was 27 days and now on my 3rd so I’m hoping it’s starting to normalise. Good that you got one though, and the next one will likely be more than 25 days I reckon.

Went out for dinner tonight and had pate and cheeseboard, all the talk of what food you can’t have in pregnancy made me think right I’m making the most of this 😂

@Pebbleinthesand Mirena out exactly 3 weeks ago and first period today (hate it!!! But grateful to have one at the same time :D) Oh dear..actually ttc will be an emotional rollercoaster if I‘m this easily bothered :D Cycle length was a bit short (25 days) but fine I guess :)

@mackjm20 The only problem is that the fridge is full of leftover cheese, too much temptation!

@mackjm20 Oh I know, I’m the same. I’m saying “Ohhh, I just want to try and keep it low key” now, but I know that 2 or 3 months in I’ll be the person saying to my boyfriend “Is that your THIRD cup of coffee of the day?!?!”

I’m glad other people are having the pregnancy dreams too, I’ve been having them at least twice a week. I had one the other day that I was pregnant (confirmed by a blood test at the doctors, which was how dream me found out!) and my boyfriend didn’t believe me. Hopefully that’s not a prophecy

@queenatom oh yes so with you on all of those things! In particular the virtual cheese and wine night! That sounds amazing!!!

@mackjm20 It is, isn't it? The only good thing is that, with lockdown restrictions starting to lift, there are lots of things that I'm now glad I'll be able to do again before I've started trying (visiting favourite bars, eating a big rare steak at my favourite restaurant, soaking in the hot tub at the spa). Last night my husband had a cheese and wine event with work (done remotely) - eight raw milk cheeses and three delicious bottles of wine to work through, and I wouldn't have been able to touch any of it if I were pregnant. Gotta try and find the silver linings!

@queenatom @Pebbleinthesand it’s so hard isn’t it! Especially if you have events etc to avoid. So with you about the mind changes though!

@Lollipop87 I am the same timescale with the folic acid so that’s keeping me sensible too :)

@wrensandrobins I am so glad you said this! I literally am having baby dreams constantly! Yours however sound way funnier than mine hahaha xx

@wrensandrobins that dream sounds hilarious! I’m having weird dreams but not about pregnancy or breastfeeding, usually about weird things like getting stuck in a creepy house and not being able to get out! Although last night I had a nice dream about weddings. I definitely know what you mean about having a focus for the excited energy, that’s exactly how I feel!

Anyone else getting loads of dreams about pregnancy and babies.. I even dream about breast feeding and child birth- I have no children so nothing to really base it all on, it's so odd!

I had a dream the other night about breast feeding puppies 🤣 I kept losing them in b&q

We are waiting till December and it feels like so far away! I only started my job in January though and they are amazing so it doesn't seem fair to immediately get pregnant, I'm glad to have found this because i also had nobody but my mum/ partner to talk to and I swear I'm boring them to death 🤣 the chatter and getting healthy is giving a focus for the excited energy I have right now