Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

No idea why my post showed up with a gin bottle 😂. I'm sure I put a smiley face there.

I've not been on much for the last week or so because I'm on holiday in Scotland and the WiFi has been down until yesterday. I've not caught up on everything since I was last on but seems like some people are starting to TTC sooner

DH and I have gone down the not trying but not preventing route and hoping by some miracle that I'll fall pregnant again without having to go down the tracking route. I don't know how you're all managing it, I think it would stress me out.

We've managed to DTD a couple of times on holiday but my periods haven't settled yet so I have no idea when I would even test if I get pregnant this month. I had a 2 day period a couple of days after having my coil out last month and then a 2 day period, which I assumed was the real deal but apparently wasn't, this week so I have no idea when it might settle down.

Annoying if I did get pregnant this month I think I'd have no idea how many weeks I might be until I got to a scan.

@JamesZebra same here :D

@Nate1 I wasnt going to start yet, I wanted to lose weight and get some stuff sorted in life but I have zero self control so here we are. Need to try and distract myself

Hi :) I‘m on „holiday“ (visiting family) and tried to stay away from baby stuff and the Internet :D buuuuuut I read what you guys wrote and dropped in to say hello and how good for you all that you stay focused and try to be healthy and all! I have to say it’s pretty hard for me when visiting family..all the unhealthy food and not so many options if you don’t want to be rude..but you convinced me to do some sort of sports asap today! Thanks!

@JamesZebra I‘ve got my fingers crossed for you! My DH and I couldn’t resist on CD 15 (yesterday) which according to my app and the ovulation stripes was my ovulation date and well here I am in my first TWW although I don’t think that doing it once without protection even if your fertil will do the trick. Pretty ironic considering that I wanted to relax and not think about ttc :D:D

@Lollipop87 and @CookieMonster3001 Great that your partners are starting to talk about it more often :) As I wrote above mine recently just started to talke about it „for real“ and now he wants to get rid of the condoms :D:D so from my experience I would definitely say it’s a good start when they talk!

@CookieMonster3001 yes please, I would be really interested to see the temping charts.

@Lollipop87 are you staying in a hotel or a big house all together?

I am trying to not get my hopes up too much and if I am whooooohooooo! If not more time to lose weight and get drunk

@CookieMonster3001 exactly :) such a good way to look at it and exciting to get going :)

@JamesZebra so exciting for you please do keep us updated on TWW :)

@JamesZebra eee how exciting! You will have to keep us up to date with your TWW!

@Lollipop87 yeah a family holiday isn't the most inviting to do BDing all the time, although when me and OH go on family holidays we tend to make an excuse to go back to the room when everyone else is at the bar drinking and using get a good hump in! We spend most of our holidays drunk so it doesn't take too long haha! Only one month for you! So exciting!!

Managed to go for my run! Feel good for it! And so far I haven't eaten any junk! Need to keep this up. AF is due on Wednesday and my temp has dropped so I imagine it will be arriving soon. No pre-period cramps though, which I usually get by now. Not that I am complaining!

This month has also been my best month in regards to temping. I can clearly see how the apps have been getting my ovulation date wrong and it keeps telling me my luteal phase varies too much, but I think they are just getting my dates completely wrong. Once my AF shows up, I will post a pic of a full cycle of temps so you guys can tell me what you think. This month I am also planning on testing OPKs from CD 9/10 as I ovulated early this month and don't want to miss it.

@CookieMonster3001 CD13 was Friday for me, we had sex weds evening, Friday night (although DP was super drunk so I don't think that counts ) sat morning, sat afternoon, sat evening and a few times on Sunday.......we were trying to make the most of having the house to ourselves. He's back on really annoying shift patterns now so no more fun for us! I think we gave it a pretty good bash though, I used preseed twice (I kept forgetting - plus its a real mood killer to have to halt everything to sort it out) and shoved a pillow under my bum after doing the deed.......DP thinks I have well and truly lost the plot. We shall see.....think I have about 10 days to wait. Work is v quiet so not a lot to distract me at the mo - might have to do some housework instead

@Lollipop87 this weekend has confirmed I am too old for tequila haha! Sometimes its nice to let lose and just be a bit crazy. It was certainly a welcome change for me.

@queenatom sorry to hear about your short cycle, but fingers crossed it’ll get a little bit longer over the next couple of months. My first cycle off the pill was 25 days but I seem to be around 27 now.

@CookieMonster3001 aww thanks! So cute what your OH said about there being 3 of you next year. I definitely think the closer it gets to TTC the more real it gets for the men and they start actually getting excited. Yes it’s a shame about our holiday but I think in a way DH is relieved as now we’ll probably just go away the 2 of us whereas Menorca would have been with my family, and as it’ll be my fertile week we want to do lots of BD’ing which will be more fun without having to worry about being quiet 😂 I reckon there will be another lockdown by Sept/Oct unfortunately, fingers crossed we get to at least go on one holiday! Your 3 months will go so quick, I can’t believe it’s only just over a month until we start our TTC journey and when I came off the pill it was 4 months which has just flown!

@JamesZebra well done on the no alcohol! I drank quite a lot this weekend, we sat in our neighbours’ garden on Friday night and because it was such a warm night we were out there drinking G&Ts until gone midnight! I must start cutting down the nearer I get to Sept!

you're CD 13 test looks positive to me! or close enough! Hope you managed to get some BDing in on those days!

@mackjm20 I think we just thought we really have no idea how long this is going to go on for! I don't want it to keep affecting our life! (easier said then done I suppose!)

@queenatom tell me about it. I think if I spoke about half the stuff I do on here, it would give him an anxiety attack. He already thinks I'm a psycho for taking my temperature every morning lol

@JamesZebra sounds fantastic and well deserved. The sex sounds good too! Good on you! Fingers crossed for you

I have definitely come to the conclusion that OH quiting his vaping has improved our sex life. I also think him not going to the gym everyday is helping too. We had a pretty candid discussion about it yesterday and he said going gym and then coming home to work really exhausted him and even though he wanted to have sex, he just didn't have the energy.

Dreading when he goes back to the gym as I have really enjoyed it!! We did consider he lays off the gym during my fertile window to help us get it in more without putting too much pressure on him when he is tired.

This is my opks for this month.

@CookieMonster3001 I drank way too much this weekend too! But I am consoling myself with the fact that I haven't had any alcohol in about 6 months. Had lots of sex too so hoping we might have a bit of luck this month. I'll see if I can upload a pic of my opk's - I am not sure what to think of them.

@queenatom I know lots of people who took a few months to settle back into a normal cycle after coming off their contraception - it sounds like yours is heading in the right direction.

@butterfly5291 fingers crossed for a BFP for you, good luck with your scan!

@CookieMonster3001 Agreed, it's great to have a place to talk about this stuff, think my husband is very glad I have somewhere to direct all this chat so that he isn't having to listen to me fret!

@CookieMonster3001 covid has a lot to answer for! Amazing that you aren’t delaying though and so sweet about him saying he couldn’t wait for the 3 of you aww! So exciting that you are 3 months from ttc!

@queenatom that’s okay mine have just started to settle into 29 day cycle but still think the ovulation is a little unpredictable each month so will be just trying Atleast every other day :) those are some great positives :) hope you have a great weekend away :)

Thanks @mackjm20, that's reassuring to hear. Just spoke with a friend of mine who had the implant out last year and now has a four month old baby - her cycles were consistently 24 days after getting it out but her ovulation moved forward a bit as things settled, so more reassuring info.

Think I need to demand less of my system in such a short time and also look at the positives - I do seem to be ovulating and at least my cycle isn't super long as some have to deal with. Plus having come on now means I should be finished by our night away next weekend (when otherwise I'd have been just started).

How was everyone else's weekend?

Good morning all!!

I have had a weekend full of booze and food. Feel like a whale now, but back on track today and going for a run in half an hour!

@mackjm20 I know what you mean about COVID plans, it initially put my OH off, but I don't think we will be delaying it now. And you are right, men definitely do think about these things, my OH just isn't hugely vocal about it, but this weekend he said he couldn't wait for there to be 3 of us next year instead of 2, which was so nice to hear!

@Lollipop87 sorry to hear your holiday has been cancelled! We've just booked a camping weekend in September but not 100% sure if it is going to go ahead. OH thinks there will be another lockdown at the end of Aug and it is going to cancel it! We are also planning on going Greece in October, so not sure that will happen either (luckily we haven't booked anything yet). EEk exciting that this could be your last non-TTC cycle! So excited for you.

@MayDay27 congrats on your new role. I think that seems sensible. We did the same thing with me. Mainly because the Mat Policy doesn't kick in until you have been with them a year and we simply couldn't afford having one before.

@butterfly5291 fingers crossed for this cycle! High temps still is defo a good sign. Hope the MRI goes well as well.

@queenatom I am so sorry AF has shown up. Give it some time, your cycle could take up to 6 months to get back on track.

I am so glad we have this chat, and although a lot of us aren't planning on TTC for a couple of months, it really does keep me sane!! Thank you ladies!

3 months until my TTC journey begins and I am so excited!

@queenatom sorry to hear sending love. My cycle was all over the place the first 2 months I came off the coil and has settled a lot now so fingers crossed it settles and for
Next cycle xxx

@queenatom I imagine your hormones are still settling down, I wouldn't worry about that! I know it's disappointing though, have a nice day looking after yourself today ❤️

Woke up this morning to the arrival of AF - sigh. I know I probably shouldn't be at this point (since I've only been off contraception for five weeks) but I'm a little concerned at how short my cycle was: 23 days and an apparently luteal phase of 8 days. Fingers crossed it will correct to something a bit longer over the next cycle or two!

@butterfly5291 really pleased to hear that, hope the MRI goes well and that your headaches go away. Fingers crossed for your BFP really soon! Xx

Thanks everyone...I am actually fine if I take medication...just want to come off it for when I do get pregnant....but it would be ok to keep taking if my headaches were still bad.

Good news @butterfly5291 - fingers crossed for the MRI!

Great news @butterfly5291 hope you are feeling better soon!