Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

@CookieMonster3001well done on the run :) I know exactly how you feel wishing the time away- I have weeks where I like am excited and weeks where I am obsessed haha! So good about not returning to the office until Christmas :) so nice to not have to worry about people speculating :)

@wrensandrobins you took the words from my mouth. Sensibly we would wait until nov but It’s all I think about!

@queenatom so right about it not happening straight away that’s what I keep telling DH. Ahhh that’s so exciting about ditching the condoms! Fingers crossed for you!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I don’t really eat fish and haven’t taken any supplements so if you find out the answer I would be interested to know :)

@JamesZebra sometimes a cheat day is needed and what is better
Than a greggs chicken bake Omgosh if there was a heart emoji I would use it haha x

I can't stop eating today - usually a sure fire sign that AF is about a week away. Totally blew the diet and went to gregs for a chicken bake and ate ALOT of Cheetos! I better get my head back in the game tomorrow! I won't lie, it was delicious!!!!

@CookieMonster3001 that's so good that you'll be off work still. I'm back to teaching in September so no hiding symptoms for me. Although when I was pregnant with DD, I didn't actually experience any pregnancy symptomsz or even look pregnant until around 20 weeks but I weigh a lot less now than I did then so I imagine I might show earlier this time.

Well done for getting out there on your run CookieMonster3001 I've tried to run as much as possible while we're on holiday but it's very hilly here compared to where I'm from so a 5 and 10k run seem like so much more effort than normal. Hoping when AF does arrive it doesn't knock me off my game too much.

@wrensandrobins and CookieMonster3001 I know what you mean about waiting, we were waiting until the end of September but I'm so impatient that we're now not preventing. If nothing has happened by the end of September then I might have to start taking things more seriously and tracking ovulation.

So I did a ovulation test this afternoon because I was trying to work out where I am now if my cycle- I'm 2 days late for my period but only came off the pill a week ago so I think we can safely say that my cycle has probably changed!

The test has a very faint line so I think I may actually ovulate in the next week? What do you think?

I did a pregnancy test too just to be sure and that was negative! As expected given how careful I was on the pill!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I have been taking omega 3- I heard you shouldn't have fish oil as it is high in vit A bit purely omega 3 is ok, I will stop taking as we start TTC to be safe I think

Well done on getting out there @CookieMonster3001 - and it still counts, even if you didn't quite do what you originally set out for. For what it's worth, I went for a run on Sunday (the day before) AF started and also found myself super out of puff.

@queenatom that's great! and your OH wont really be aware of what you tracking in the background, so who knows you may get preg earlier than you were expecting! Fingers crossed for you!

I went for my run! Hurrah! Although it did not go well at all, just over half way and I had to stop. Usually its cus I'm out of puff, which I can usually push through. This time though, my body just couldn't do it! I imagine its because I'm due AF today but kinda disappointed I couldn't finish it. Its my first run in 7 weeks that I haven't been able to finish! But I am giving myself props for going in the first place lol.

Its probs my own fault for jinxing it and saying I have zero symptoms this month!

Morning all - I can definitely empathise with feeling impatient and wishing the time away @wrensandrobins and @CookieMonster3001. I think it’s knowing that, once you do start, it might not happen straight away, and then even when it does it’ll still be another 9 months until the baby arrives. I definitely struggled last month knowing that I had ovulated and that a perfectly good shot was passing me by.

Had a chat with my husband last night following his comment yesterday about ditching the condoms and he was serious - in his mind we’d basically be NTNP, although given the attention I’m paying to my cycle I’m not sure that’d be strictly true! I won’t be telling him when I’m ovulating or keeping him advised of my cycle though, so from his perspective there’s no additional pressure.

Cookie, I do keep thinking that it would be sooo convenient to be going through the first trimester now whilst working from home - much easier to keep under wraps and deal with any nasty symptoms!

I am soooo impatient, I just want to try to make a baby now, I'm so unfocused on the rest of my life. I know I need to wait, all the reasons we had for waiting for December are sensible, but it's like a switch has gone off in my head and I cannot temporarily switch it off!

@JamesZebra how exciting about Devon! Sounds lovely, hope the weather stays beautiful for you.

I have had the same thought, if DH cant come to my first scan, id be inclined to book a private scan (last I checked they are £79 in my area) but for his first child, I wouldn't want him to miss out on that experience.

@Lollipop87 it will regulate soon enough. I used to hate it too, but then I found myself stressing about it and I don't think that used to help it really. I'm forcing myself out for a run today. Due AF today as well although this month I have had zero PMS symptoms, no pre period pains, no cravings nothing. My temp has dropped though so defo know its coming and hoping sooner rather than later as I have a smear booked in for next week and really don't want to move it again.

I am so bored today and I am starting to get really impatient!! I feel like I am wishing the next 2/3 months away just so I can get started which is crazy. I am hoping it goes quickly though and I have a handful of things booked in here and there so hoping that will help.

Work has said that most likely than not we will return back to the office after Christmas, which is great for me because if I do get preg when I want to, I can deal with symptoms at home in my own space rather than trying to hide it at work.

@Megan88 thank you no there are defo a few of us on here working on the weight loss :) for me it’s the main reason that I haven’t started ttc yet x

@Megan88 hi and welcome! I’m also just using an app to track for now, hoping to start TTC in September. Your weekend away sounds lovely, and great that it falls within your fertile window.

@CookieMonster3001 I’m also due AF in the next couple of days, I find it really disconcerting not knowing exactly when - on the pill I would always come on on a Tuesday between 9-11am it was like clockwork! But no idea now, thinking probably Thursday. I also could not be bothered to do any exercise today, oh well tomorrow is another day! I’ll try and watch panorama on catch up, sounds interesting.

@JamesZebra yay for your holiday, sounds fab! I think we’ve decided to go to Cornwall with my family for a week but later in September which will be just after my fertile window. If we have started TTC by then it might actually be nice to have something to take my mind off my first 2ww!

Private scans sound like a really good option at the mo with the NHS not letting dads in to some of them.

Just booked a holiday to Devon which I am really looking forward to. It can't come soon enough off at the end of next week. Got lots of nice day trips planned and chance to relax.

@olderthanyouthink good luck with your call to the GP tomorrow, hopefully they have some good advice.

Have recorded panorama so will watch it when DP goes out to work.

Ooh I'll try and watch that panorama tonight!

@Pebbleinthesand you can get private dating scans, yes. I would be getting private scans if DP couldn't come to the NHS ones and I'd have them just before the NHS scans. We had a 3/4D one for DD at about 30 weeks

I've got a phone appointment with my GP tomorrow about my low weight and lack of periods, not sure what's going to come out of it

@CookieMonster3001 Thank you so much! And I didn't see that programme but will add it to the list.

@mackjm20 Thank you! Good luck with your weight loss journey too. Good to know I'm not the only one working on that!

@queenatom Thank you so much

It's so nice to have read back through about what changes others have been making to start TTC. Keeping fingers crossed for all of you who are moving to start trying soon.

Not seen it but that sounds really interesting so will definitely be watching @CookieMonster3001. Covid keeps playing on my mind where ttc is concerned so hopefully it'll help to watch that.

Does anyone know if they'll give you a date number of weeks at private scans? I never had a private one with my little girl but if DH can't come to scans then we'd definitely book one this time.

@CookieMonster3001 Omgosh you look the same words right out of my mouth emotional mess! I literally sobbed! X

@mackjm20 defo! Although its not ideal, it definitely reassured me a bit more than before. (SPOILER ALERT) Although my soul almost left my body when that lady had a C section and the baby had no heart beat. Once he started crying I honestly started bawling my eyes out!!!

@CookieMonster3001 Omgosh just watched this on my lunch break thanks so much for the recommendation. Although it’s scary how much things have changed how they describe it being here to stay has made me feel really with it being ‘the new normal’ you can’t wait forever! Also a lot of it settled my mind that the risks are no higher and my lord how adorable were the babies!

@queenatom eeek so exciting good luck :) it’s mad how real it is all starting to feel now! I know it could take a while but excited to just be ttc to Atleast have a chance :)

@CookieMonster3001 that sounds really interesting, will give that one a look!

Welcome, @Megan88! Lots of us on the healthy eating and weight loss train - 8lbs is a great loss.

@mackjm20 - I am feeling the same way and I think we might actually get started this month! We have not been getting on particularly well with the condoms and, when I made a comment about not having too much longer to go with them, DH suggested we just ditch them now since we're not far off anyway. We'll see if he has the same view once AF has finished and we're back on it, but I'm exciting to think about!

It’s so nice to hear that some people on here have moved from Preconception planning to ttc :) good luck everyone :)

I am beyond broody this week and have even considered trying to persuade dh to bring it forward to start trying after August af!

@Nate1 And @Pebbleinthesand hope you are having/have had a great holidays :)

@Megan88 welcome :) huge well done on the 8lb loss :) I’m on the weight loss wagon too trying to lose as much as poss in the next few weeks :)

@CookieMonster3001 I didn’t see it but I will defo give it a watch now as that has been on my mind loads. God help me if it makes me more broody though haha :)

@Nate1 @Pebbleinthesand I hope you are both having a lovely holiday and fingers crossed for some baby joy.

@queenatom well done on the run! I am due AF today or tomorrow and really cannottttt be arsed with any exercise but going to try and force a walk later.

@Megan88 welcome! well done on the 8lb loss that's amazing! How exciting that your TTC journey starts this month! Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Did anyone watch Panorama last night about pregnancy and giving birth during the Coronavirus pandemic. Very eye opening but definitely makes me feel better for not delaying it further because of it, as they really have no clue when it will end! I also started crying my eyeballs out looking at all the babies. AF hormones or broody? haha probably both!

Hi everyone, hope it's okay to join.

My hubby and I have just decided to start TTC at end of Aug/start of Sept. I'm 27, married for 2.5 years and this would be our first child.

We had thought we'd want to start trying early next year, but given nobody knows how long it will take us to conceive we've decided to move that forwards and just start trying in my next fertile window. On top of that, my period also came pretty late a few months ago and we thought we might have a surprise baby on the way. I did ultimately take a test once my period got to 10 days late (unusual for me) and it was negative, but I think we were actually both a little disappointed that it wasn't positive. Since then we've talked about it more and more and finally settled on starting to try.

My BMI is quite high - though in the past two weeks I've lost 8lbs and I'm working on losing more. I'm going to keep up the healthy eating and exercise.

I've also got some Seven Seas trying for a baby tablets arriving today - mostly for the Folic Acid and Vit D. Any feedback on those is appreciated.

I track my cycle using an app, and don't plan to do additional tracking or testing at the moment. We have a good, regular sex life and we'll just be a bit more intentional about it to begin with and see how we get on.

I'll next ovulate (at least I think I'm ovulating - I do get EWCM and my sex drive is way higher around the middle of my cycle - sorry if TMI haha!) towards the end of August. We have a couple of nights away booked for my husband's birthday then so it will be a nice time to start TTC!

Just looking to keep up with and hear from others who are starting out the same as me!

@Pebbleinthesand How funny, no gin bottle in the version I’ve seen?

It’s frustrating waiting for things to settle, isn’t it? Hopefully we will all get there soon. Fingers crossed that you are able to avoid the tracking route if you don’t want to - I would find it much more stressful not knowing but we’re all different, aren’t we?

Pushed through the AF cramps yesterday evening to go for a run and then rewarded myself with wine and a big plate of spaghetti. I wonder why the scale isn’t moving as fast as I’d like? 😂