Preconception planning - anyone want to join?

@59giggles Id definitely recommend start tracking your cycles and ovulation a couple of months before hand. My apps were predicting mine 5-6 days out!

@JamesZebra that's annoying! Fingers crossed for next month and well done for paying your credit card off that's amazing!

@mackjm20 smear test went well but the nurse said she wasn't able to check my breast and that it has to be done by a GP. Only problem is all the GPS are only doing telephone consultations so I have one booked in for 24th August. I gave it a bit of a feel this morning and it feels like its got a little bigger so its definitely making me feel really anxious. Annoyingly because me and OH moved house in Feb, I updated my address at the doc's because I know they post out your smear test results, and because of that they have booted me off the register because I am no longer in the catchment area, so after the 28th Aug, I no longer have a drs surgery and the one in our area which is newly developed has had its opening pushed back because of Covid! So frustrating!!!

@queenatom sorry to hear nothing of note on the opks how are you finding them in general? I haven’t used any yet but have been tracking CM and now I’ve convinced myself I have a short luteal phase so despite being adamant I was going to NTNP before using them I now want to try them (losing my mind slowly as the thought of babies consumes me)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 good that you were able to distract yourself with work :)

@Lollipop87 haha amazing that your dh even wants you in his sleep! At least the lots of sex part will not be a problem in your house when ttc starts :)

@CookieMonster3001 huge kudos for working whilst doing your masters that’s amazing well done :) I know what you mean about planning everything around ttc I am the same. Sorry to hear about the lump were they able to put your mind at rest in the appointment? Hope you are okay x

@59giggles welcome :)

@JamesZebra well done on the credit card! That’s my goal by December to be debt free :) sorry to hear about the bleeding hope you are okay x

I've been getting my finances sorted too......I got my credit card paid off today! So happy I don't have to worry about that any more :)

thanks for the encouragement @CookieMonster3001 im still bleeding so I don't think I am pg this month but I will try again next month.

@59giggles My doctor only mentioned the rubella one, may be worth checking but you should still be immune if you had a vaccine as a child? I'm also using anti stretch marks lotion as preparation skin-wise. Xx

Hi! I would love to join you guys, hoping to TTC our second child in January. I'm a big planner and am also so desperate to TTC, I find it really helpful to keep busy with getting as healthy and ready as possible until then. I haven't caught up on the 30 pages yet, I was wondering what else is worth doing besides exercising/healthy eating and prenatal vitamins? I saw someone mentioned rubella immunisations, would a chickenpox immunity check also be worthwhile (seeing as DD1 is at nursery and hasn't had it yet)?
Relaly appreciate the advice, good luck everyone!

Hi guys!! Been off a couple of days because work has been manic and I have had an assignment to write. Just handed it in so all good! No idea how I am supposed to study for a masters, work full time and be pregnant but I will handle it when I get there (90 days to go!)

going to try my best to catch up on everything!

@pebblesinthesand I am writing this out on a note! Thanks for the suggestion haha

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Im not too sure about having sex everyday, but I really dont think I would be able to manage that, I am hoping every other day during fertile week will be enough but will see how it goes! did you manage to get your OPKS sorted? I start mine up again tomorrow which is CD9 because I ovulated early last month.

@queenatom I agree, I really dont want sex to become regimented and still want to keep it fun and enjoyable.

@lollipop87 thats so interesting about the rubella! I have my smear test this afternoon and will ask about a full health check before TTC whilst I am there.

@jameszebra keeping my fingers crossed for you, your doing amazing waiting this long! hoping the spotting doesnt turn into AF

@butterfly5291 well done for getting through your MRI, doesnt sound fun! Hope your results come back soon so you are not waiting too long.

@mackjm20 yes! TTC is all I think about (apart from the last 4 days where I have been manicly busy!) but I feel like I am literally planning everything around it, even though its still 90 days away (im not counting you are! lol)

Found a little lump underneath my nipple the other day which has given me major anxiety and is stressing me out. When I go for my smear today, I am hoping she will be able to check it for me and not tell me to book another appointment! Fingers crossed its nothing nasty.

Morning everyone! Did everyone get some nice cooling rain last night / this morning? Was still hot overnight, and DH keeps having sex dreams due to me not wanting to do it in this heat so I think I’ve made him sexually frustrated - cue him trying to touch me in our sleep because it’s the only time I sleep naked when it’s this hot 😂 Kept pushing him away and going “get off me” - how different it’d be if we were TTC I’d be like hell yes!! 🤣

I also have days where I think about it lots or not very much. Yesterday I don’t think I thought about it at all as I was so busy with work and had dinner in our neighbours’ garden in the evening. I think it’s because I know we’ll be trying a bit later now I’m trying to push it to the back of my mind. Need to get back on the healthy eating, haven’t felt like it recently!

Still nothing of note on the OPKs - I'm so impatient, just want to confirm ovulation and get the TWW started! Managed to cool down enough to do the deed this afternoon so at least that's something.

Loving the countdowns 😂 I definitely had one of those running in my head for the past few months!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 aw lush that will be so nice to get away in October :). Good that you have lots of time to lose the weight as so achievable :) I need to get one of these countdowns lol!

Ah see I am so so busy but my head is just not in it lol!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I love that you have a phone countdown! pauses to set one up it’s mad isn’t it I am the same some days I panic a bit and I just put it out of my head other days I literally cannot focus on anything else. Like @wrensandrobins said dreading the tww when just the ttc wait is this bad! Omgosh yes if I manage to control my obsession I’ll pass on anytips but currently unlikely xx

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I'm sure that countdown isn't helping 🤣

'Google's how many days it is until December 1st'

@Bells3032 that’s exciting! I got mine out in January :) feel so much more real then :)

@wrensandrobins Omgosh I know right! I feel like I talk myself into ttc early as I’m obsessing but I know the sensible thing would be to wait. Currently sat working out how much weight I need to lose per week and how much income to generate haha! It’s totally taken over my brain! Glad I’m not
The only one x

@mackjm20 completely consumed by it, and obsessed and we aren't going to start trying until December! I need to get a grip or these next few months are going to drag- never mind the TWW at the moment I'm being driven mad by the 4 month wait to start TTC 🤣

@maxjm20 we are starting in October. My husband is on probation in a new job til September. Three weeks til I get my coil out eek

Anyone else feel totally consumed by the thought of ttc! It is literally on my mind constantly! Like I can’t switch it off.

Half of me is like SO impatient and desperate to start after August AF which DH has agreed to.

The other half thinks I have been swept away with the impatient ness and should wait inline with original plan after sept af to give me more chance to lose some weight (which seems to have come to a standstill) and to wait for work to calm down (so busy and worried about feeling sick during such a stressful time)

Then part number 3 is like well it may take months anyway so stop planning start doing!

Ahhhh!!! Lol who would have thought there was so much to ttc after all those years me thinking one slip up without conception and I would be pregnant x

@Bells3032 yes! Now that is the dream aircon in the house! Haha amazing! Are you already ttc? Or starting in October? Xx

@mackjm20 yes agree. DH and I are in the process of buying a house and we have agreed to put an air conditioning unit in the bedroom as I am an "always hot" person at the best of times. I am like "you need to get me pregnant in OCtober so I am not pregnant over the summer"

@JamesZebra if you're on the CWP or any other VLCD it can wreck absolute havoc with your cycle but apparently it does make you more fertile due to the increase in oestrogen from the burning of fat

@JamesZebra I’m so sorry to hear that! Are you still doing Cwp? I think it was you that mentioned you were doing it as my consultant told me that can change your cycle a bit? Hopefully it will settle again next month sending love your way x

This heat is ridiculous - can’t wait for the weather to break and for things to cool down a bit!

Temp was up last night but I think just because it was so incredibly warm in our bedroom. No positive OPK yet and I’m only CD10 so doubt I’ve ovulated. We’ve a few days off work and it’s my fertile week but honestly the idea of sex in this heat is not appealing!

Pretty sure I'm out this month, spotting has got heavier this evening, not as heavy as a period but it's not really spotting any more. Pretty sure AF is on it's way.......boohoo. Bit worrying that my cycle is now fluctuating about. I used to be regular as clockwork. Still what will be will be, I thought I'd be more upset but I'm ok with it.

Totally agree that this heat is hard work!!! I'm melting!!
Hope everyone else is doing ok. At least we are all topping up our vitamin d levels with this sun!