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I want to TTC but partner wants to wait

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TTC2020hopefully · 01/07/2020 09:13

Hi there,

I am 33 and my partner is 36. I really want to start TTC but my partner wants to wait until next year, which to be fair the way the world is, is reasonable. I however, am desperate for a child. We had a miscarriage a year ago now (unplanned pregnancy) but this further reinforced the fact I wanted a child.
We own our house, financially stable etc so no issues ok that front.

I know January is not far off but I know it may not happen straight away and could take time so my argument is why not start to try now.

I know in my head he is right but my heart just says start trying.

I am pained everytime someone I know gets pregnant - my partner doesn’t understand this at all and says our time will come.

Am I being pathetic??

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butterfly5291 · 01/07/2020 12:25

Hi @TTC2020hopefully
What are his reasons for wanting to wait till next year?
If you have been on hormonal contraception for some time then it is likely to take your body a bit of time to adjust. And like @kay00 says you can be preparing your body by taking folic acid etc.

I posted a thread earlier this week as I am due to try and get my Mirena coil out on Friday so we can start TTC and we've got our wedding booked at the end of December! But my Dr told me I was doing the right thing by starting to try now because it can take time to actually conceive.

If this year has taught us anything, surely it is that nothing is certain so make the most of the time we have.

I really hope you can have another conversation with your partner...but you are definitely not being pathetic!

Kay00 · 01/07/2020 11:22

Hi @TTC2020hopefully you are not being pathetic at all! I have spent the last 17 years trying to convice my partner that our future involves children Blush , it was only at the begining of the lockdown did he finally say it was something he wanted too Grin.

I am using the next few months to get my body ready for pregancy (we plan to start trying in September); I have come off my pill, I am taking vitamins (Folic Acid and Vit D), have started eating more healthy and I started running (although my sciatic nerve has other plans this week). I have also started tracking my cycles (temperature, OPKs etc).

Perhaps you too could use this time to prepare for starting early next year, or if conditions improve in 2020, you could have a chat with your partner and start trying sooner. At least you will know your body is ready for pregancy when he is ready too Smile.