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TTC 12 months buddies please

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Whilstwewait · 29/06/2020 16:50

Hi,

We have just hit the 12 month mark of TTC and looks like AF is on the way Sad I am on another thread that's really supportive but I do find it disheartening when people get positives on the first couple of cycles of trying. So thought I'd start a thread for anyone around about the year mark. It'll be good to share things and get advice from people who are at a similar stage to me. Im 34 and my husbands 36. We are TTC number 1 x

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Hayley19835 · 31/07/2020 20:51

@PlanBea sounds perfect! I'm on AL now for 10 days so a few Gins will be had for sure! It's far too humid even at this time of night 🥵 xx
@Whilstwewait wow September for private is long! When is your gynaecology apt for? xx

PlanBea · 31/07/2020 20:26

@Whilstwewait September for private! That's insane. Are you going via the GP too in case the NHS is somehow quicker? I've spent this evening drinking prosecco cocktails with DH and feel much more relaxed about AFs impending arrival. Tomorrow I may regret it Grin it just feels like it will never happen. I know in my logical brain it might, but gut brain is just more "well, of course AF is coming." Sad

PlanBea · 31/07/2020 20:22

@Hayley19835 I've been enjoying sgroppinos (or is that sgroppini?) thanks to another BFN and cramps to suggest AF is on her evil way. Vodka, lemon sorbet, and prosecco. It's been quite nice sitting drinking with DH for no reason in the garden. I thoroughly recommend it Wine x

Hayley19835 · 31/07/2020 20:13

Sorry to hear AF arrived @Motherofkittens28 hope your ok!
I've got some grapefruit juice to try this cycle even though I hate grapefruit 🤢 and I've stocked up on CB ovulation tests for this cycle to check I'm actually ovulating when I think I am. I wonder if our timing is all off 🤷‍♀️ oh said I was a mad woman and told me stop but he's supporting me this cycle. Feel like We need a fresh start and a reboot this cycle after the witch smashed my hopes by being late.
Hope everyone isn't melting in this heat 🥵 xx

Motherofkittens28 · 31/07/2020 18:56

@Whilstwewait its a good source of vitamin c as well which apparently boosts progesterone. Anything is worth a try! I had the waitrose pink grapefruit and although i wouldn't say I enjoyed it it really wasn't that bad

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Whilstwewait · 31/07/2020 18:14

@notyetamumbuttrying ive just looked and think ill need 3 cartons a week to do a pint a day haha is that about right? Xx

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Whilstwewait · 31/07/2020 18:10

@notyetamumbuttrying I'll give it a go. Ive tried everything else and nothing changed. Only to ovulation then? I'll add some to my shop. My wine is chilled and delicious. Enjoy your weekend everyone x

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notyetamumbuttrying · 31/07/2020 17:02

@Whilstwewait the pink one over the golden one and go for Tropicana. Drink about 3/4 of a pint glass a day.
Ah bless you hun! Yes, just think of the positives! You'll get there Smile
Yeah thank god it's gonna cool down over the weekend. We've got our fan out oscillating around the flat!

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Whilstwewait · 31/07/2020 16:35

@notyetamumbuttrying I definitely need to try the grapefruit but last time i found it disgusting. Any recommendations of how much and how I can drink it without spewing? Grin ive just had a cry after ringing up the private fertility clinic it'll be September now for an appointment. Angry need to remember the positives least my gynaecology one is booked and gives us more chance for a natural pregnancy. You're getting to the exciting part of your cycle now then. Good luck I dont think the hot weather is lasting long x

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notyetamumbuttrying · 31/07/2020 15:54

Defo enjoy a few drinks @Whilstwewait!!
Glad you feel ok @Motherofkittens28! Grapefruit juice is for cervical mucus, meant to increase the egg white, it does for me! Cd6 over here so still got a bit of spotting but will start dtd from tomorrow, as long as we haven't melted into the bed overnight 😂

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Whilstwewait · 31/07/2020 15:48

@Motherofkittens28 yes I know what you mean. I kmow my husbands sperm is perfect so he will get his own child i oanic about my eggs. I can't wait to get my AMH test and just start treatment now. Fed up of waiting. Im waiting to hear back from the private clinic about my appointment now.

I thought grapefruit juice just helped cervical fluid? That's one issue i think may be affecting my chances that and the spotting. Maube try tempting so u can get confirmation that you're ovulating every month? Im meant to be cutting down on alcohol but sod it im going to have a few this weekend to drown my sorrows x

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Motherofkittens28 · 31/07/2020 15:32

@Whilstwewait, im almost feeling resigned to it now, its when I think about it never happening at all that I get a bit panicky. I'm sorry to hear she seems to be on her way for you, its so very frustrating 😕 I do wonder if I hadn't been ovulating until that cycle, it certainly felt very different and I had ov confirmed for it. Maybe the grapefruit juice actually did something! Xx

Motherofkittens28 · 31/07/2020 15:29

Thanks @notyetamumbuttrying, @Fran2020, @PlanBea and @Chel93. I'm doing ok, I think I had my big reaction when I got the BFN on Sunday, somehow its better to see AF than only one flipping line! Hope the rest of you who are near the end of your cycle have better luck!

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Whilstwewait · 31/07/2020 15:19

@Motherofkittens28 aw sorry to hear about AF. Im expecting her in the next couple of days. Ive started with what i like to call my brown sludge today. So i know she will follow shortly. Its annoying as i know im not pregnant but not quite on a new cycle yet. How you feeling? As the months go on i think im used to the disappointmemt now. I just really hope we get to have our own baby one day x

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Chel93 · 31/07/2020 15:02

@Motherofkittens28 sorry to hear AF arrived hope your ok

Fran2020 · 31/07/2020 13:53

@Motherofkittens28 Sorry to hear that AF has arrived for you, I hope you're ok xx

PlanBea · 31/07/2020 10:40

@Motherofkittens28 sorry to hear. I don't think I'm far behind you Sad

notyetamumbuttrying · 31/07/2020 10:16

@Motherofkittens28 ah so sorry to hear that! Hope you're ok today. Make sure you're kind to yourself today and have all the wine and chocolate that you need! 😘

Motherofkittens28 · 31/07/2020 09:38

Morning all. Day 1 of a new cycle for me, AF arrived this morning.

Fran2020 · 30/07/2020 23:33

@PlanBea Oooh wow lots of really big changes then! Definitely put all your cards on the table! Keeping my fingers crossed for you! 😊🤞🏼

@Whilstwewait That's good your appointment has moved forwards!

PlanBea · 30/07/2020 22:44

@Whilstwewait I'm glad I'm not the only one whose having a month where I just want to keep testing! Usually I'm pretty chill about it but this month I'm just a but crazy

PlanBea · 30/07/2020 22:40

@Anitaatje33 oh I'm glad I could help. That chart actually looks loads better! The dip usually happens the day before/of ovulation. The dip 3 days later looks like an outlier which are ok. The focus is really on the trend of the numbers rather than individual figures. The luteal phase is a bit short so I'd focus on boosting progesterone and extending the luteal phase a bit but it's not actually as scary as the first chart looked once you can see the full cycle. It might explain why the progesterone is still hanging around during AF.

Motherofkittens28 · 30/07/2020 21:53

@Whilstwewait I don't think I will test, im fully expecting AF to rock up tomorrow, its just playing tricks on me!

Anitaatje33 · 30/07/2020 20:27

@PlanBea thank you for checking, less worried now about my high temp during period. Attach my previous cycle, where I did have a clear dip & rise but again high temp during period. Might actually buy a new thermometer just in case :) thanks all for the great support, will update you after my consult tomorrow where we hopefully get some answers

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Whilstwewait · 30/07/2020 19:46

@Hayley19835 aw sorry you got a negative and then the witch arrived. Maybe your random bleed was ovulation which would explain the late AF. Hope you're ok

@Motherofkittens28 eeek no spotting thats exciting. When will you test? Im 9 DPO usually spotting by now but nothing. Although this did happen 2 cycles ago and AF arrived so 🤷 she likes to play with me.

@PlanBea I've done the same as u tested last 3 days haha not like me at all just had the urge.

Gynaecology called me today i have a telephone appointment with fertility nurse on the 18th which is great news as i was expecting October. So hopefully wont be too much longer for the HSg and i can ask plenty of questions that have bothered me for months. Its Gynaecology that then refer to fertility clinic in my area so still likely we will pay for private treatment but step in the right direction

@anitaatje33 sorry im not great at charts. Maybe change thermometer just incase makes sense what @planbea said as well

Xx

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