How to manage the monthly disappointment

Have you downloaded the app called flo to make sure your trying on the correct days? It’s fab. Sorry no advice it’s just a waiting game I’m afraid.

@123feraverto ah yes know that well. Every month : omg my patience is so fine and my boobs are so big and sore! Must be ... then AF arrives and I realise it was just hormones. It doesn't help that the symptoms for both are so similar!! And sometimes even when my period arrives I think ... surely not? I think it is the hope. But then positivity must help, but hard when you have that in bucket loads but your body isn't listening. Just wanted to say, yes totally agree its a shitty process!

@HLC24 I know, it’s easy to put pressure on ourselves and have certain expirations of how things will turn out. There are pros and cons to being an older or younger mum I think. I am now 41, had my first at 38. Seamless pregnancy, beautiful healthy baby. For me being older became a plus, I felt mentally ready, I certainly feel I’ve lived my life. It’s funny how much you want it once you start trying. I have been so off the idea the last few years as I’ve just started to get back to some kind of normality after my first...but as soon as I started trying I was obsessed! Looking at pregnant women no longer thinking that god I’m
Not preg, to I wish that was me!! Try not to be too hard on yourself, all a baby needs is loving parents, everything else are irrelevant societal expectations.

@Bouncytree i think i start to convince myself symptoms are there when there not... i put pressure on myself aswell due to my age n the fact my husband has children.. until we started TTC i didnt realise how much i did want it.. i have always been the one thats watched all my friends have there babys n i have been happy to hand them back 😂 i have a young mum n i think i always thought id be the same but i suppose life doesnt always go the way we want it too... so glad theres groups like this to realise your not alone in these situations xx

@123feraverto any sign?

@HLC24 I know particularly at the moment I think it’s hard not to keep thinking about it. The conclusion I have come to is the only real tell take symptom is the missed period. Everything else could be something else. I know this from my first, but it’s still hard not to read your body and wonder if it’s a sign. I think it just means we really want to be pregnant, and it’s so out of our control in many ways. With you in solidarity!

I can relate... 🙋🏼‍♀️ came off my Pill october 2019 (after being on it 12 years) were TTC and would be my first but my husband has children so dont think he quite gets the feeling i have every month.... was convinced with all my symptoms that we had cracked it this month but did a early test yesterday and it was definitely a BFN n woke up 2day with a outbreak of spots.. a typical AF sign for me.... so hard to not let it take over your life each month and stay positive.

@123feraverto it took me 6 months on my first, and then out of nowhere, pregnant! Beautiful pregnancy no complications. It will happen! But waiting is so hard.

I will join you ladies.

I am also trying for my second. I know how you feel @123feraverto I have convinced myself I am pregnant that last couple of cycles, it feels so real and then AF just makes you feel gutted. I feel like I know I should put it out if my head, but I think I’m a bit addicted to wondering about it. As you saw @plaw totally overthinking it. I’m just so impatient to know! And to feel that feeling.

I can relate, it’s tough isn’t it.

Forever in our heads and so hard for anyone not going through it, to know how dreadful it can feel.

I’m trying for second too and I’m trying to hold on to hope that if it happened once, it will happen again but then I start thinking maybe the first was a fluke. It’s just overthinking.

I decided this month if we don’t get our BFP to write down a plan on what I will do next month to maybe up our chances. I wrote this list already so at least I feel a little bit in control. Big hugs to you, know you are not alone.

You're not alone

I can’t help because I would love to know the secret myself but here to sympathise and say I could have writen this post.
I’m fine the first two weeks of my cycle and then ovulation hits and it’s a slow decline in how positive I feel. (Currently in cycle #6)

@123feraverto You're not alone in feeling sad. I'm feeling the same having just had AF arrive today and I'm going into my 5th cycle TTC. It's just a shame it's luck a lot of the time, like rolling a dice 🎲

How many cycles have you been trying for? At least you know you have a good chance since you've had success with your first. I've not got any children yet so I'm less confident

🤞