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First time TTC - second cycle

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Sarah1253 · 17/06/2020 22:01

I was wondering if anyone else is in the same position as me?
I’m 29, it’s my first time ttc and we started trying last month. I quickly become obsessed with symptom spotting and testing like a maniac but other than taking folic acid and using the clue app to track fertile window and ovulation we didn’t do anything extra.
It’s now my second month ttc and I want to give it a better shot this month! Today is my first day in my fertile window, I’ve got pre-seed lube, I’ve cut coffee down to 1-2 cups a day, I’m making a conscious effort to eat healthily and I’ve ordered vitamin d for me and wellman for Hubby.

I would love to speak to anyone else at the same point as me, or hear any tips and tricks for getting that beautiful BFP!!

Sarah x

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Sdoo4 · 21/06/2020 23:26

@Sarah1253 we used the pre-seed last night, so far so good! I’ve been using OPKs for the past few days but they have all been really low so don’t think I’m even in the fertile week yet. The Fermometer app had my fertile week starting from Friday so ovulating on Weds but my clue app has the fertile week starting from Wednesday so we’ll see if that’s right. Just keep DTD every other day and hope for the best!!

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Sarah1253 · 21/06/2020 22:07

Hey @Sdoo4 hope your every other day of dtd is going to plan!? How you finding the opks and pre-seed? I’m hoping the pre-seed does the trick for us this cycle! Smile

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Sarah1253 · 21/06/2020 22:04

@MintGreenLife hope af is on her way out soon for you, best of luck for this cycle. Let’s hope we don’t get too caught up symptom spotting and testing. I’m hoping to hold off testing until the day af is due as I started testing a few days earlier last month. I’ve not been using opks or temping but I might do next month if we aren’t successful this month. I think I would find it a bit overwhelming and confusing, how did you find it?

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Sarah1253 · 21/06/2020 21:59

@Laurenemma13 I hope af leaves soon for you, best of luck for you for this cycle!
It’s so horrible seeing that bfn isn’t it, especially when you get it in your head it’s going to be bfp!
I’m due to ovulate tomorrow (based on app) and seen a little ewcm, we’ve dtd every other day, and plan to until a few days after my fertile window ends just incase I ovulate later!

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Sdoo4 · 18/06/2020 20:48

Hi ladies!!

I’m 31 and my OH is 26, we decided to start ‘trying’ back in January, but by trying it was just unprotected sex, no planning anything so looking back at my clue app we never DTD at the right times anyway. I also didn’t want to try the last two months with the covid situation etc but ready to go again so I’m counting this as month 1.

I’m on CD9 so DTD last night then again tomorrow and every 2nd day from now on hopefully!! I have ordered pre-seed to try that and will start using OPKs from tomorrow. My usual cycle is about 30-33 days so usually ovulate around day 20 but last month I woke up and my boobs had the weird feeling I get with ovulation, I never bothered to test because I thought it was far too early so when I did test I never got any positives so definitely think I ovulated around day 17 last month so I’m going to test from CD10 just incase it’s early again!

MintGreenLife · 18/06/2020 18:41

@Sarah1253 about 30 days into my cycle I convinced myself I was pregnant and did a test, felt really sad when I saw it was a BFN, but then seems I didn't ovulate until CD33 anyway, and then was happy when AF arrived on CD38 as means a new cycle - I could tell things weren't looking good as got the dreaded nipple pain the day after ovulation, so kind of just wanted to finish that cycle up and hope that the next one would be better. I actually cut out coffee in January and switched to two cups of tea a day, and am now down to one green tea in the morning, feel better for it to be honest. I used to have two cups of coffee every day without fail.

On CD2 for me, so still got AF for a few more days. Are you going to be using OPKS or tempting this cycle? x

Laurenemma13 · 18/06/2020 18:08

@Sarah1253 were the same, been off all other methods for a while now so hoping things will go okay!
Would be fab to keep in touch!
I know I'll be the exact same. I couldnt helonit when i had cramps and a bit of spotting for a few days before which was abit unusual 🙈
I've got AF visiting just now so hoping to start trying next week. Was 4 days late so confirmed even more that we wanted to try when it came back with a negative xx

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Sarah1253 · 18/06/2020 16:37

Hi @MintGreenLife thanks so much for responding! I’m finding it exciting, I was mega obsessed with reading everything, testing and symptom spotting last cycle, hoping to be more chilled this cycle and dtd every other day.
We used pre seed for the first time today and will continue to use it, see how it goes! Also started vitamin d (in addition to folic acid) and hubby started wellman vitamins today.
I’m suprised at how disappointed and upset I was last cycle when af arrived. I had a very faint positive 12 dpo and seriously felt every symptom - I really got my hopes up so I just need to carry on being chilled about it.
I’m sure your extra supplements will help with your luteal phase. Fingers crossed for you!!! Hats off to you cutting out coffee completely, I cannot function without 😅
I’m on cycle day 9 and ovulate in 4 days, where are you up to?

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Sarah1253 · 18/06/2020 16:31

Hi @Laurenemma13 thank you so much for sharing your doctors advice. I think we will plan to dtd every other day also, my hubby is thrilled about this too 😂
I’ve been off the pill for 2-3 years and previously used condoms or the withdrawal method 😅
I’m feeling relaxed about it all and super excited at the thought of getting a bfp. However I know I will be serious symptom spotting in the tww!
I’m on day 9 of my cycle and due to ovulate in 4 days (that’s just based on my app though so not sure how accurate it is). AF will be due 6th July.
Where are you up to in your cycle? Would be great to check in with you and see how you are doing.

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MintGreenLife · 18/06/2020 09:44

Morning @Sarah1253 :)

This is my second cycle too, TTC our first. How are you finding it so far?

I had a nightmare of a first cycle as it was just all over the place! I came off the pill in April and it very much seems my body hasn't quite adjusted properly yet. I was using OPKs and temping in cycle 1, and in total I got three LH surges spaced 13 days apart, but didn't manage to ovulate until the third and final one when my temp went up. Much to my horror I got AF four days later, so that meant I had a 3 day luteal phase!! Luckily both of the books I've read about TTC said its common to have a short luteal phase in the two cycles after the pill, but I didn't expect it to be that short eek. Hoping cycle 3 will be better, and I'm adding in Pregnacare and some other supplements that are recommended when you come off the pill to help balance hormones :)

We tried preseed last cycle too. I've cut out coffee and having 1 green tea a day instead and have completely ditched alcohol and sugar - this is more to help my hormones along though xx

Laurenemma13 · 18/06/2020 06:49

Hello,

We'll be starting to TTC this month.
I've been taking folic acid already (I'm epileptic so.on 5mg) and have been off my contraception for a while also.

I had an appointment with my GP about family planning a few months ago and they gave me some helpful guidance which were going to try.
They said to DTD every 2nd day right through the cycle to give the best chance. Not to do it every single day as sperm can stay inside you for a while and doing it every 2nd day will give it a better chance.
I asked about ovulation and tracking but as everyone is different they said that was the best advice.
They also said, though easier said than done, to try not too worry too much about it and enjoy it. The brain has hormones in it so that if it becomes majorly over stressed it can actually stop you falling pregnant as itll stop the body from coming under more stress.
They've said the best thing we can do is 'get at it all the time'. My husband was thrilled with the advice lol!
We had a bit of a scare this month when I was about 3 days late so I know that I'll be the same though, hoping for a bfp when we start!

Hope this helps and good luck 😊 xx