TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

I really wish I hadn’t tested so early, I don’t feel any symptoms, anything I did feel a few days ago has gone (I don’t normally feel any symptoms until around 6 weeks so this is nothing new) and in my infinite wisdom I decided to see what my cervix was doing (after reading this thread haha!). It was low ish and pretty open yesterday. I‘ve had a go at checking it over the last few years so I know what’s open or closed (it never fully closes after children) high/low. So I decided to retest today and it is darker which is obviously great but I can’t help feeling twitchy, my period is still 2 days away so I can’t even begin to think I’m actually pregnant until my period date has passed. I so wish I’d been patient and just waited to be honest. I normally just test the day my period should arrive with a cheapy and then confirm a week later with a digital, I normally assume no period=still pregnant. Far less stressful than testing, seeing a line and then waiting to see if your period arrives or worse retesting and staring at lines, which isn’t exactly scientific!

@VP91x just wait til there's one of your blue vagina as well 😂

@VP91x 😂😂😂 another picture for the mantelpiece

@VP91x could be - have you had it before?

Fairly certain I've read about ovulation spotting so likely to be it

@2020wish cheesecake perfectly acceptable. So sorry about the bfn ☹ I know as her mum you will find the perfect words to tell your daughter.
never actually heard of SI before.. That's my mornings reading sorted.

@VP91x yes definitely going to get out for a walk at some point.

Did you decide on today’s activity?

@VP91x oh he'd just being difficult! I sent him some stuff yesterday and he replied this morning telling me something wasn't in it, when it was. So I think he tried to justify the fact he hadn't read it by telling me he thought it would be worded differently, so I asked him to tell me how he wanted it, and he said they are fine left as they are.
So boring story really, but being difficult over nothing - before 9am on a Monday.
I think it's going to be one of those weeks. I got dressed this morning and as I left the room, OH told me my top was inside out 😂. I mean, at least he told me I suppose.

@2020wish Yes it is acceptable, and I think we should all do it more often.

I agree though, just be careful with those because the things I read have said if there are any imbalances or other issues, SI can make them worse. I think that's why they strongly advise consulting with your doctor first.
I'm sure it'll be fine, but definitely read more as you said xx

@DBTJ yes I know what you mean but on research it says it depends on when you take it and the effect you are looking... if you take it on days 3-7 or 5-7 all it does is help improve the egg quality of the mature eggs already waiting to be released.. and if you take it before then it helps force the release of numerous eggs? Will have to read more into it. going to stop taking the aspirin now that I’m expecting AF to come. It’s totally acceptable to have cheesecake for breakfast ?

@2020wish I personally wouldn't take anything else to bring your ovulation forward. You fallen pregnant before so you no it will happen. You no your issue is not getting pregnant its trying to make it stick. Are you still taking aspirin.

@VP91xn I ordered myself some SI also to try this cycle as I read how the benefit egg quality. Fingers crossed. X

@VP91x a morning of Frozen sounds good. My boss is winding me up already this morning. I’ve asked for some flexibility this week as the weather is meant to be scorching, so that should help the week go quicker.

I have been reading about those but I’m nervous as there seems to be a lot to suggest asking your doctor first. I think I might ride out another cycle, as I think some stress delayed ovulation for me this month, then I’ll talk to my doctor after that. Do you know anyone who has used them and it worked for.

I was thinking last night about all the supplements and thinking what you ladies will do when PG? I don’t think I’ll be able to stop taking them all in case it’s crucial so I’ll be taking this concoction for months 😂

@VP91x I had the same situation pretty much this cycle... I was mad too 😫 if you can, I would still dtd today. The swimmers can be fast, so better still to have one more go on OV day.

@2020wish I would not know how to address it. Probably your ways of explaining could depend on age of your daughter. But however you say, im sending you biggest hugs 🤗

Feeling really fed up. I usually get my peak OPKs day 13/14. I'm now on cd 15 and nothing. I looked at dr google and I think I've either stopped or delayed ovulation by taking strong painkillers for a strained neck. I've stopped the tablets straight away but think it may be too late. Add this to the fact my OH is now on strong nerve tablets for his back which are knocking him out and affecting his performance I'm so frustrated that this is never going to happen x

Heart is so broken. Dh feeling down also. Think I’m gonna concentrate more on weight loss this month and checking ovulation when I feel pain.

@VP91x I agree with @MichT4 I think you have covered yourself pretty well x

@VP91x that is tricky. I’m not sure it’ll do any favours DTD if it’s hostile, I don’t think that does any favours. I think if you want to today, and he does, then definitely go for it. But either way, try and be positive that you’ve still caught the most important days. 2 days pre is the best if I remember rightly.
Do you want to DTD today?

I’m fine thanks, hayfever back with a vengeance. Need to go and try and find that safe one, after spending a fortune on a nasal spray I was sure was the right one. It’s not 🙄
Temp went up again, 36.49 this morning. So fairly confident I ovulated now which I’m happy about. Just hope the temp stays high.
I’m a bit deflated that this cycle is so long though. I know it doesn’t really matter but when I think if this time isn’t the one, it’ll be well into August before I’m even in with another chance. Just annoying me, but it’s not that major - just have to roll with it I guess. Makes all the waits feel ridiculous though

How are you? Other than pissed off xx

@2020wish so sorry 😢 and even more so having to tell your daughter. I agree, it depends how she is normally. Can you remind me how old she is? I think just be honest maybe word it saying the baby was poorly and so you weren’t allowed/able to have it.
Good luck with it. Don’t be hard on yourself or feel guilty, kids are resilient and she’s likely to give you a big squeeze xx

@VP91x did you speak to him about it in the end? I know it’s hard to think this way as it’s so different for us that the men, but please be confident that you’d have been covered. Sounds like you are in the TWW which is what you’ve been waiting for.
I think he needs to understand how important it is to get the timing right. I guess your irritating flashies didn’t help because you’ve done a lot of DTD already, so he maybe thinks he’s done enough - which he hopefully has 🤞🏼