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TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

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VP91x · 16/06/2020 18:17

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

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VP91x · 18/06/2020 11:14

Hey @Northernsoul90 just saw your message on the older thread. To answer your question regarding starting to track ovulation post MC. Some have tracked straight away counting the day of procedure of day of bleeding as CD1 so you could track and see what happens if you feel comfortable? If not then you could always wait for another period xx

@chloedancer897 ah I'm sorry you might be out this month 😕 do you know normally get spotting pre-AF? Hope you are ok xx

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chloedancer897 · 18/06/2020 10:58

@IWM20 I was exactly the same way before my miscarriage. I had my list of names, I had started thinking about birth plans, looking at prams, the lot. I got so excited, so the MC was like a punch in the face. It took my completely by surprise.

I caved and did another test today and BFN. I used one of the hospital tests from my MC. I'm 12DPO and have had a little bit of brown discharge and this morning is the first morning I don't feel nauseous so I think I'm out. AF due on Sunday. On to CD1 I think...

MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:53

@VP91x 32 day’s sounds dreamy 😂

VP91x · 18/06/2020 10:50

@MichT4 nothing exciting unfortunately, but I expected it. Will have my GF juice now and wait for a few hours! Ahh, this is true. I'll have a 32 day cycle too roughly Xx

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MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:42

@VP91x 🥳 how was it? I mean the OPK but also the wee 😂

A musing while you pee - so jealous of people with 28 day cycles. It would be testing time if I had one of those and I’m still waiting for ovulation 😭

VP91x · 18/06/2020 10:24

@MichT4 😂😂 ah fuck it I'll go pee, and then try again at 1ish 🤔

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MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:21

I meant jig, but whatever

MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:21

@VP91x 😂😂 not me! How long do you have to jog about for though?

VP91x · 18/06/2020 10:20

@MichT4 I need to pee, but if I pee now I'll have to wait until 2ish to try again and who has the patience for that!?

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MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:19

@IWM20 I'm excited for this to become our pregnancy board Grin

I agree @Diorissimo1985, we do need to keep positive. It makes such a difference when I can focus on other things, makes the journey less onerous - which it shouldn't be! Just seems to hard when it gets consuming.
And also, your body isn't rejecting healthy embryos - there is likely to be abnormalities in the embryo so your body is helping in a way. Doesn't seem that way, I know, but important not to blame your wonderful body.

@VP91x have you tested yet or what?

@2020wish did you test again this morning?

xx

VP91x · 18/06/2020 10:19

Hey @Diorissimo1985 so interesting about the reflexology. Never knew they could find out so much via your feet!! Mental. Glad you have found it useful. How dark was your cheapie OPK? You might find that goes peak slightly later in the day?

Definitely dtd over the next few days so you're fully covered! Xx

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Diorissimo1985 · 18/06/2020 10:14

@MichT4 ah that’s kind - I try to be positive but I do have my dark moments when I think about the healthy embryos my body just rejects ☹️ But you’ve just got to keep trying I suppose - what else can we do?
Much love to everyone - it’s hard but we’re all in it together and I find this thread so helpful and supportive xx

hampshirerose34 · 18/06/2020 10:05

@MichT4 that's what my consultant gave me and said I have to take these as I am insulin resistant and this will help to level my hormones out to get pregnant.

MichT4 · 18/06/2020 10:01

And welcome @hampshirerose34. Are those medications for the PCOS?

MichT4 · 18/06/2020 09:59

@diorissimo1985 of course he said that! These boys are loving life 😂

I love how positive you sound, it’s infectious. It’s making me want to book everything! Think it just feels nice to be doing something else, and it’s a bit of relaxation for you too (although sounds like more painful than relaxing 😂). Might definitely have a look for something - not much open round here yet. Look forward to hearing about acupuncture

@Freddie15VES I would say you’re absolutely fine to wait. Last thing you want to do is add pressure and it all feel forced. Enjoy DTD tomorrow and I’m sure you’ll be covered

Diorissimo1985 · 18/06/2020 09:53

@MichT4 yep I’m putting the photos in both apps. Told DH and he said best to just dtd every day for the next 4 days and I was like hmmm I bet you do 😂

I read a few threads on reflex on Mumsnet - it claims to release tension/issues through massaging particular points on Your feet that represent organs. To be honest it bloody hurt when she pressed near the inside of my heel which is apparently the uterus.
I have an acupuncture appointment today too (can you tell I am getting desperate?!) and I gather they just stick the needles in your back? Could be wrong but I will report back later.
Not getting anywhere fast with my referrals to rheumatologist or RMC so I’ve forced to turn to wizardry 😂

Freddie15VES · 18/06/2020 09:50

Morning ladies, hope everyone’s doing well and staying positive! I had a horrible night, felt really overwhelmed and anxious about having another chemical pregnancy 😩 I’m sure I was just tired and feeling the motions of TTC. I am definitely ovulating by the way OH said he could even tell by wetness (sorry if tmi)!!! App says today is my peak, so we DTD this morning but OH couldn’t finish (think we have done it too much!!) will doing it tomorrow morning instead hurt? I’m still getting to grips with the journey of ovulation xx

MichT4 · 18/06/2020 09:48

@diorissimo1985 I’m writing myself out of having any knowledge of OPKs 😂
My apps are always slightly different. Are you putting the OPK photos into both?

Reflexology sounds delightful! Are there any claims around fertility? What do they do and how did she come to those conclusions?
Also, how many questions can one person ask? 😂
I’d love to treat myself to something like that. Mentioned acupuncture to OH yesterday and he seems nervous about needles being stuck in around reproductive organs. I have no idea about any of it really xx

Diorissimo1985 · 18/06/2020 09:43

Btw reflexology was soooo relaxing yesterday, I would def recommend. Even if it doesn’t do anything it was lovely to do as I’ve had a rough few months with the consecutive losses.
The lady said she thought she identified issues with my fallopians, uterus and digestive system.... how accurate Miss Marple!!! Still, it was really relaxing and I enjoyed it x

Diorissimo1985 · 18/06/2020 09:40

Morning girls - can anyone advise.. which do we trust more, cheapie opks or the CB digital? I only got a high-ish result on cheapie this morning, compared to solid peak smiley on digital.
To add to the confusion my Glow app says I will ov in 3 days time and my Fermometer one says it’s tomorrow haha!!
Weirdly ewcm has dried up a bit and I had loads past couple of days...
Probably TMI but there is no such thing on this thread!!! Grin

VP91x · 18/06/2020 09:30

@SmileyT ooh you have the connected one! That's cool. Did you start testing any earlier to see if it does give you some flashies?

@IWM20 omg yes, I think that's the worst you really do mourn the life you planned. Your whole future changes for you and its so difficult to not have any choice whatsoever. But, we must always always remember the odds are in our favour to have a healthy full term pregnancy. It is definitely normal to feel resentful I think though, such a personal thing. It's such a leveller isn't it, until you've experienced it, it's hard to imagine. But stay positive I'm sure everything will turn out well for you and little bean ❤️

@mrsssk no 😭 I'm hoping later today 🤞

@Wishingfornumber2 how's your CB today xx

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mrsssk · 18/06/2020 09:23

@IWM20 I dont think I’ll be before the TWW is over, mainly because like you I didn’t get a peak on OPKS, just some highs at roughly CD13/14, so I’m not entirely sure I’ve ovulated. Saying that, I’m 99% certain I’ll cave before that!
Not feeling confident that it’ll be my month, apart from super bloatedness, I’m not recognising any of the symptoms I had last time

@vp91x hoping the flashing smug face has made way for a static by now?!

IWM20 · 18/06/2020 09:08

@VP91x I felt so stupid after my MC I didn't even think it would happen to me. I was getting carried away planning their room, family holidays, what school they'd go to 😂😂. It's hard because I think that's important to do to get your head around the huge changes that are going to happen but it makes it so much harder when it's all taken away. I found it really hard when a few (very insensitive) people would say "oh well you'll get pregnant again" and "it wasn't even a baby yet". They don't know all the plans I had for it, how hard I tried to get pregnant, how much it was wanted. Sorry, going off on a tangent now but MC is awful and I think the impact of it is so underestimated and so many people really don't understand it or talk openly about it. I have to say, I was surprised by how much it did affect me. Even though I'm pregnant again, I've still got that horrible resentful feeling for those who seem to have children with no issues. That's been the case with all the women in my family so far, 5 siblings and 3 neices/nephews and I'm the only one that's had a miscarriage. It just makes you wonder, why me? I pray pray pray this doesn't happen again. I'm so sorry you've been through it twice. I keep thinking "you've had one miscarriage, that's your bad luck. This one will be okay" but what if its not. Also wondering if here's a point when this feeling will stop but I'm not sure if it will xx

@MichT4 hopefully this can turn into the pregnancy board very soon 😊🤞 and we can all stress about that together instead of TTC 😂😂 xx

SmileyT · 18/06/2020 09:06

@VP91x yeah I actually called them once when mine wouldn't sync but they were closed and i spent ages on google troubleshooting 😂 really hope I get some flashy smiles this month just as a change to break up my normal 5/6 blank circles

VP91x · 18/06/2020 08:55

@SmileyT ah yeah that's true! Bloody things. Imagine the calls they get on their customer services line 😅 xx

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