TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

It really does @VP91x
I'm getting on ok thank you. Got a flashy smilie yesterday so it was my second day of him today. CD 16 today and I got my static on CD 17 last month so 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼
I'll let you know what tomorrow brings.

Glad you've talked it out @SmileyT and you're feeling better.

@1990EM do you have like midwife phone number to call and ask for reassurance ? Perhaps they will see you faster to check and give you piece on mind. Cramping is common but as long as there is not accompanied bleeding, you should not worry. And even if you have got bleeding, it is still high chance all is fine. Many woman would have still light "periods" in first two months of pregnancies. At least that's what I was told by midwife in both pregnancies.

@1990EM ring the maternity unit and tell them what's happening

@Wishingfornumber2 @HopeForRainbowbaby Both simple but could be very effective plans, it's funny when I'm in this ttc rabbit hole I miss the obvious things 🙈

@Jazper thanks for sharing definitely helps to know that it's not just me, we've had a good talk this evening with less emotions and just going to really dial down the pressure ☺️

@VP91x yeah feeling much better after having a really open conversation, he always wants to make me happy and I just think he knows too much, I kinda forgot mystery is good in a relationship 😂 so although he says he wants to know I'm going to stop giving him the blow by blow of each test/ temp etc. He has my ovulation date in his diary that's probably unnecessary so next month it'll be more casual. I didn't even do an opk today 🤯 how are you today? What was the activity of the day? Xx

@1990EM I know it's so easy for me to say but please try and stay positive there is no reason to think that this won't be a healthy pregnancy, even though a couple pregnancies may have been similar your body has changed and may be reacting differently to the little bean but doesn't have to be a bad thing xx

Girls sorry I have been quiet. I'm 6 weeks pregnant today and scared out of my mind. Have been having cramping a lot and it just feels like it did when I miscarried. No bleeding yet, and I know that mild cramping is common in early pregnancy but I never had it with my healthy pregnancies, only the time I lost it. I'm just assuming the worst at this point.

@2020wish I'm sooo sorry AF arrived. Enjoy your mummy daughter evening. Thinking of doing something similar to get my mind off what's happening.

Sorry AF got you @2020wish. Enjoy your movie night with your daughter ❤️

@SmileyT and @VP91x
Just bobbing in to say I can totally relate on the OH struggling to perform thing. I'm trying to be really cool and relaxed about it but it's so hard!
I do feel for him as I totally agree with everyone that has said they must feel so much pressure to finish. My OH is also totally full on with work, not to mention the added stresses of lockdown and us managing the kids full time while also working from home. He's so tired on a night once the kids are in bed so I'm spiriting him away during the day at any opportunity and that makes it hard to enjoy dtd for me even, let alone him...
Hope it helps to know others are going through the same xx

My daughter and I have ordered loads of bad food and party sweets and are having a movie-Thon day. Then tomorrow I’m going to start dieting.

@VP91x My nearest Ikea is in Southampton, but apparently it is super busy at the mo - and has been sonce opening 😕 so I might avoid for a while lol! Shelves can wait haha (as much as I want them nowwwww!!) I totally agree with you about having people acknowledge how shit the situation was and not trying to be positive! I was super honest with my friend who is 2 weeks ahead if where I should have been, and was saying how whilst I took the mc very pragmaticly, I have struggled more now as I realised how much time has passed and also just how many blooming friends and family members seem to be announcing pregnancies! She was brilliant - said it was so shit but also that she is really rooting for me and can’t wait for the day I get to be a mum as I’ll be great etc - it definitely gave me a boost!

I’m considering NOT opk-ing this month 😱 I have nkticed that I get my peak, so we dtd lots but nc has then consistently said I ovulate the day after - and I wonder whether we sre leaving it too late - as iften we start off woth good intentions for smep - then tail off until I get the surge! I know the day before SHOULD cover is - but I’m wondering whether maybe I get a surge and my body releases the egg really quick? So think time I’m considering just dtd daily from cd12 - as I usually ovulate either cycle day 14 or 15. I’m thinking if I don’t “know” when I’m peaking, maybe I’ll be more relaxed?

@Wishingfornumber2 unfortunately we can't hurry up the process. I wish AF makes its mind up already 😅
@SmileyT well just go for it the whole cycle frequently ;) then he will not know haha mine doesn't ask much about cycle and doesn't know much about it . So I keep it like that 👌

@SmileyT I don’t tell my DH when I’m ovulating but think he can guess when the time is near as I tend to initiate sex but usually it’s the other way round lol! Maybe don’t mention anything to him for the next month about cycles etc and so will be a guessing game for him! X

@mrsssk we are actually in the same stage of post Mc and first cycle. I feel about this same too;) Hopefully AF arrives quickly if it is coming.when af arrives, will you treat yourself to something ?

@HopeForRainbowbaby I think I will test Friday if still no AF by then. I will be CD34 then and looking back at my last 5 cycles the longest was 32 days. Hope AF stays away for both of us 🤞. I’m not feeling hopeful though! X

@2020wish my OH suggested the home insemination thing this month but not sure if he has gone off the idea. Sorry AF arrived 😩

And to all you other lovely ladies how do you avoid telling OH about your cycle, mine knows mine better than I know my own, so think I've screwed myself over a bit 😂 i also have a much higher sex drive then him so he knows I'd have it every day if I could so me wanting him is definitely not an issue 🙈 we are only 3 months in so I guess it's all a learning curve x

Big hug @2020wish sorry that AF came, hoping it will be FW before you know it

I'm sure I will be joining you as well in the next 2 days or so @HopeForRainbowbaby. The light spotting is still there and I think it's too long to be an implantation bleed now. Would've been amazing to get pg without a period after MC but I'd be weirdly grateful to see AF as then I know it's a proper CD1 and my body has recovered.

Sorry to hear AF has arrived @2020wish x

@2020wish I'm sorry to hear AF is there. But at least you are on your cd1. I will follow you soon I think. Will you treat yourself to something nice ?

@Wishingfornumber2 I will test in 2/3 days when period is late per flo ( but typically 28 days is max for me and I am on 29CD). What about you?

So sorry @2020wish ❤️❤️❤️

Update. AF has just arrived. Dunno why my temp increased this morning. Strange. I’m sure it will be low tomorrow

@HopeForRainbowbaby yes I wish with the cramps it would just either start AF straight away or stop! Are you going to test again in a few days? X

@VP91x 15dpo and cycle day 30

@DBTJ I also keep my DH unaware of ovulation and I don't tell him when it is time. Just go for it and spicy it up 👌 I also think so it is better for his performance 😅 and more fun haha
@2020wish im also feeling the same. I have been having cramps for few days now and I have been expecting AF any time now. Still nothing, not even light bleeding.

I'm on CD29. I had smiley on CB on CD 15, so I took CD 16 as my OV. But I have read yesterday that from smiley it can be 2 days even 5 days ( I rely on tests only ). I just want AF to come already and I will treat myself to champagne I have got in fridge ....still having small hope but I will not test until I'm late according to flo.