Testing Around 11th July

@happygolucky29 I think there's a grain of truth in it but nothing conclusive? Some IVF clinics tell you not to DTD for 2 weeks after they insert the embryo (proper term for this escapes me) whilst others tell you to carry on as it's good for de-stressing. The idea is that the orgasms cause uterine contractions which could prevent/ruin implantation. Along the same lines of why raspberry leaf tea, evening primrose oil etc shouldn't be taken during the luteal phase.

@notyetamumbuttrying Thanks its ok been a few months now so gets easier each day, maybe that could be it but not sure how to get rid of that feeling as its the unknown .

I read this morning that, having sex around implementation could reduce chances of conception by upto 40% as it could disrupt the blastocyst attaching anyone know any more on this or if its true, might need to rethink out ttc planning if its true

Ah wow so sorry to hear about your nephew @Happygolucky29! I only have one and another on the way in Aug and it's so great being an auntie I agree! Would love my own but it terrifies me too! I wonder if that's why it hasn't happened for us yet, perhaps deep down my body's saying no because of my fear, who knows 🧐

@notyetamumbuttrying hopefully you will get that surprise soon try stay positive i know its hard when your hopes up and dashed month in month out but i have seen so many people get positive when they didnt expect it.

We started last may/jun but stopped actively trying in November after we lost my nephew at 8months was put down to sids but now wondering if was covid related, really made us question if we still wanted to have our own ect. But decided in feb/march to start properly trying again im an auntie to 10 and they are all my world but the thought of being a mum absolutely terrifies me.

How do you ladies feel about becoming a mum?

Thanks @Happygolucky29 but after 10 cycles I'm quite confident af is on her way. But suppose I could be surprised! I hope so one day anyway, this is driving me mad now 🤪how long have you been ttc?

@notyetamumbuttrying i read somewhere the implementation and AF symptoms/feelings are very similar so dont rule yourself out just yet, goof luck for testing x

@eastcoastgirl I'd agree with the others and 12dpo. I'm thinking of testing Friday too at 12dpo but I don't think I'll need to as can feel AF on her merry way already 😩

@eastcoastgirl im so impatient so will probs be testing around dpo 11-12 with early test as think that has quite high accuracy if timings right but really going to try and hold out until 11th the day before af due as i only want to tell OH after a week missed af to be sure.
Although not sure whats worse waiting to test or if its positive knowing and not saying anything for week and half.
Let us know what you do fingers crossed for you.

@eastcoastgirl I'd say Fri/Sat - any later than that would usually imply a late implantation and those end up with 82% miscarriage rates anyway so if BFN at 12DPO maybe best to call it a day?

That's my current thinking anyway but I'm sure I'll change my mind when it comes to it :)

Hi @Happygolucky, welcome!

Ok girls,what is everyone's opinions on how many days post ovulation we should ideally be waiting before testing? AF is due either sunday or monday, depending which app I listen to, and I got my positive opk on the 20th, so think I ovulated on Sunday 21st. This makes me roughly 9dpo. I'm thinking if I can get to Friday or better still Saturday , I'm more likely to get a reliable result? What do we think? Anyone else at a similar sort of stage?

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Hi all mind if i join, I'm new to online groups but I have enjoyed reading about all your journeys and wish you all the best for this months testing.

Im nearly 29, we are ttc our first currently on dpo 3-4. Testing around 11th July

We started TTC last summer but stopped for a while and started again properly trying about 3-4 months ago and started on opks this month tried temping but i keep forgetting so gave up on that and feel like ive read the whole internet on ttc in 1 month lol

Only OH knows we are trying so will be nice to be on the journey with you ladies Me and OH dont talk about ttc process i dont want to add any pressure and want to keep it fun if that make sense. Hope you all ok

@Hayl6 super odd! Keep us posted, maybe it's just a weird ovulation bleed.

@LottieX omg this FW was super tough! Didn't even manage DTD on O-day.

@ForeverHopeful67 how did you FW go?

@Juno231 nope, nothing! I'm guessing my cycles just haven't regulated since coming off the pill. Although my last 2 cycles were pretty "normal" for me

@hayl6 that's really odd! Have you had anything out of the ordinary happen with your cycle recently?

I think I'm out this month, I'm in my fertile window but I've been spotting for the past few days which I thought could just be ovulation spotting but it's starting to get a little heavier and cramping today ☹️

@LottieX yeah that makes sense as the best day is 2 days before ovulation I think. Did you focus on the 4days before ovulation then and chilling during ovulation? I do always think if I've predicted ovulation right then the extra day on SMEP isn't really worthwhile as will be like 3 days post ovulation 🤷🏾‍♀️

That was a tough FW this month! Managed to DTD 3/4 days on the lead up to ovulation, so really hoping we caught it this month!

I'm on CD15 now and femometer says to test 5th July which is achievable right!? I say this now but I'll probably be waving the FRER round next week 🤣

@mintgreenlife I'm hoping you're right and the swimmers set off first!

@SmileyT I tried SMEP for the last two cycles with no joy so I've gone for the advice in the impatient women's guide to getting pregnant and having read the stats you're far more likely to conceive on the lead up to OV rather than OV itself. Hopefully give OH a little break now rather than do the +1 day after in SMEP.

I am so glad someone asked this question! I've wondered about it so often! I always seem to get so much leakage!

I'm on CD17 now, fertile window closed (we are trying SMEP this cycle, and yesterday was our one more try of the 3 days, miss a day, one more go), and well and truly into my two week wait. Driving me crazy already! Period due monday 6th and don't want to test until after then if I can stand to wait.

Feeling so impatient now, I'm fed up of all the faffing with calendars and sticks and just want this frustrating stage to be over! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@lottiex I hear you, my OH is really struggling with the heat at the best of times, nevermind during FW! Yesterday took ages and he looked so unwell lol.

Ovulating today so will try and squeeze one last try out of him today but am less hopeful... We've managed to DTD 3 times in the run up to OD though so should be covered regardless!

@LottieX I wondered the very same thing!!! There's so much that seems to come out of me after DTD I wonder if anything at all is even going up there at all!

@LottieX are you doing SMEP? Good on OH for keeping us his stamina we had a bit of an issue with it last month so trying to be more casual this month. I'm CD12 so expecting peak tomorrow or Friday 🙌🏾 x

Thanks @SmileyT and @mintgreenlife I'm popping a conception cup in my amazon basket and if AF does arrive next month then I'll try that!

I'm in my three days in a row in this heat and oh my it's so hard not to stick to each other! Bless OH he's doing a great job though mustering some energy from somewhere 😂

What cycle day is everyone on?

@LottieX not sure if you've heard of conception cups but they are designed to keep all those swimmers in the pool if you fancy purchasing some ttc swag 😂 another tip is going for positions with deep penetration so it's closer to the cervix but as @MintGreenLife said the 'best' sperm are the ones that can make it to the egg without too much help plus what you see come out is the semen not the sperm if that makes any sense 🙈 x