Testing Around 11th July

Aww congratulations @LottieX 🥳🥳

@eastcoastgirl I haven't 😝 only happened this month when I decided to just laugh at how ridiculous it all was! Plus my mum took a year with my sister and she was 26 at the time (I'm 34!). Me and my other sister then followed in quick succession so that's always been in the back of my mind. I think once I hit month 12 and still nothing, real panic will set in. That's not until September tho even cycle 12 will be at the end of this month...it's mad having short cycles! I have a book recommendation for you...the impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant. You'll love it! I read it last month and I wonder if that made a difference to my outlook. I did have a crazy blip at 6 and 9 months so I've not been calm throughout trust me 😂

@notyetamumbuttrying how have you found ways to keep positive over 11 months? I'm already struggling and even though logically I know that we've not been trying that long - it feels like forever! I'm impatient and feel like I've already been waiting such a long time before we were in a position where we could TTC, that now it hasn't happened straight away like I probably assumed it would I'm finding it difficult. Its frustrating when I feel like I'm doing everything I'm supposed to be doing and my body is failing me 😕

@Juno231 I get your concern and realise I'm talking to you over on the July bus about this too. I think it's ok for you to speak to docs sooner rather than later given your mum and your cycles. Hope everything works out for you!
@eastcoastgirl I'll be testing again 29th July so not too far behind you. August then becomes month 11 for me 😱

Congratulations @LottieX! How many cycles was that for you in the end?

I'm out this month, AF arrived yesterday. Better luck for cycle 4 hopefully. Fertile week due between 13th and 18th July, so should be testing again around 1st August (how did it get to August?!)

@notyetamumbuttrying the last 6 months they've ranged from 23-30 so they're a bit all over the place. LP ranges from 11 to 14 days as well which I gather is a bit unusual as it should ideally stay the same.

Mum entered early menopause at 31 so I'm a bit worried my irregular cycles are potentially a sign of me becoming perimenopausal...

@fashu ah that's nice, hope it does bring you luck! 🍀
@Juno231 how long are they normally? They tend to get shorter the older you get unless they're always short? Mine are 24-26 days usually and had a 25 day cycle this time round. I'm cd3 today but will be due on again 29th July or thereabouts.

I'm entering my fertile window this week! Think poor hubby can't wait for this to be over. I've been temping this cycle. Seems to be ok so far, averaging 36.2 every morning. I will be testing between 18th July (DS Birthday and 25th July (My Birthday!) so hopefully that will bring some good luck :')

Congrats @LottieX :)

@LottieX congrats!!! gurgley?! I don't even comprehend what that could mean lol. How many cycles was that for you in the end?

I'm on CD1 today so will be way out of kilter with everyone else I think! Only had a 23 day cycle which is a bit worrying :(

Congrats @LottieX 🥳

Ahhh I can't believe it!!

The only difference I've had this month is I've felt extra gurgley!!

Also I am generally really lucky with af and never get cramps or pain just get bit moody and spotty and on every 2 to 3 months aches in lower back which only last about a day, its good but never know when af is actually coming apart from the app estimate which has been pretty accurate lately x

Thats good

im due to test on Wednesday which will be 12/13 days dpo then af due sat, i tested this morning which was negative but already knew it would be as hcg levels wont be high enough but once the thought is there i cant help myself i dont know if im now more focused or if i always get them but had some twinges in my rightside this month and last few days when i wake up have this weird churn cramp feeling accross my belly and really need to wee straight away trying not to get my hopes up to much but keeping my fingers crossed.

@Happygolucky29 no worries. Thanks, it's eased off now thank god!
Yeah it will help not having any in, when are you due to test?

@notyetamumbuttrying ill give that book a go thanks for the recommendation, sorry its not your month hope pain eases off but least you can now start new cycle x

@LottieX well done resisting the urge, fingers crossed for you x

It is so hard to resist the temptation of poas im sure its worse when they just chilling in a drawer even though you know its too early, once these last few are gone, im not buying anymore now until i miss a day im sure it making me more psycho crazy lady, so if i have to go out to the shop it will help when the urges comes. Well hoping so anyway x

@LottieX looking good! Can you wait until morning and use FMU and you'll be 12dpo too. More conclusive then. Best of luck!

So I don't know whether I should do a FRER or not.. i just did an OPK and got a really high result (I've attached the comparison between this month and last below) I'm just too scared to do a FRER because every other time I've been disappointed 😔

I'm 11DPO now

@eastcoastgirl @LottieX yep I'm on as expected and it's horrendous as always. Pain in my whole body 😫 good luck for testing soon you two!

I've resisted the urge so far, due on either today or tomorrow depending which app I listen to but no show yet. Trying not to get myself too excited! The prediction is based on my last cycle I think which was only 26 days, but looking back through the last few months I've had two 26 days, two 27 days and a 28 day cycle, so if it's a longer one there's still time yet 🙁 I may test tomorrow (which would be CD28 and I think 15DPO) or if I can keep myself occupied enough I'll try and hold off until tuesday when I'll feel officially 'late'. How is everyone else getting on? @notyetamumbuttrying did AF arrive today as you thought?

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@notyetamumbuttrying did AF arrive today?

I'm 10DPO today and I resisted the urge to POAS, yay! My cycles are usually 27 days so I've got 4 days left until AF arrives but not had any symptoms at the moment. If this month is successful it'll have been the Olympic swimmers because FW was the 30C days 🤣

How's everyone else's getting on? When is everyone testing?

Morning ladies so I'm out already tested today at 13dpo and bfn so af will come tomorrow. I very much feel like I'm coming on and have done for days now so I'm at peace with it. Because of my short cycles I'll be testing again at the end of the month. So will stick with you all for a while yet. Good luck to any testers this weekend! 🍀

Try reading the impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant @Happygolucky29 you won't regret it! 👌🏾

Well if its not my month im going to have to abstain from dtd in that window just in case and start yoga to make sure not stressed. There is so much to learn on this process feel like i need a book of TTC for dummies.

Glad im not the only one terrified and also very much wanting to concieve. i dont mind giving up anything i dont do much anyway, its more the worry and responsibility on making sure they are always safe and them becoming a teenager being an auntie to 10 and being a close family is a version on scaremongering and shows you too much bit like the news lol

O thats funny about your friends i couldnt be like that either especially on holiday i would be as stressed as when at home. Holidays are about getting out with routine having fun and chilling and the kids love it to. Im sure you wont be everyone finds there own way what i know from my sisters is noone will agree with your way and they will all have opinions on what you should do it drives my sisters mad, aslongs the kids are safe & loved, feed and have a home not much eles matters. I think you will be able to do all those things if you have a support network just maybe not everyday and might take little longer but i know what you mean and im the same on the no backsies maybe thats whats actually so scary its not like anything eles you go through in life so dont know if ill ever be prepared just going to jump into the deepend and hopefully think what was i so scared off once in

@Happygolucky29 ah and with regards to how i feel about becoming a mum. A bit terrified tbh! I've wanted kids for years and I think I will absolutely love it - however thinking how all encompassing it will be is scary. Ie that once I have them that's it, no backsies lol. So no more evenings to myself, no easy travelling, can't just decide to pop out to friends randomly etc.

Saying that, I think it's what you make of it and I think my ideas are tainted by so many mums around me that are crazy rigid with routines. I definitely think I'll have more of a relaxed continental european approach lol. I legit have friends who would go on expensive all inclusive holidays without being able to have dinner in the restaurants at the resort even once because it was imperative that their boy had to be in bed by 7pm and have his bath routine first. So they'd just eat in the dark in their rooms whilst he slept... Meanwhile go to any mediterranean country and that kid would be sleeping in the pram next to the restaurant table whilst the parents are enjoying themselves!