TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

Hi @Lynz2020 - welcome! Sorry for your loss. I had a MMC end of March. AF arrived today. I've had two periods since. Not heavier necessarily, but definitely at least 2-3 days longer so far. Let you know how I get on this month.

@Eli2020 Cycle 3 post mc and cycle 2 TTC - although we weren't super diligent last month. I'm going to slowly gear up. Date tracking/temp/keeping an eye out for EWCM to time the deed, plus eat right, exercise, grapefruit juice this month. And, of course, the FA that I just never stopped taking.

With the MC pregnancy I was using OPKs so I might invest if next month or the month after don't take. I was strict about only doing one a day but its so tempting! Smart to let go where you can, if it feels right for you not to buy more right now. You always can later. Forever trying not to drive myself crazy with ttc, but probably a lost cause!

We had to be stop-start last time because of work travel and risk of Zika so at least I don't have to worry about that right now...

I say be pushy with your doc. A lot of it is guidelines rather than rules and luck of the draw based on which GP you see on the day. Good luck! X

Hi everyone, I'm ttc after my missed miscarriage in April. AF came over the weekend so no luck yet. Has anyone had longer or heavier periods since their mc? I'm into my 2nd cycle since and mine are a day longer and more heavy than I've had for years. Not sure what's going on.

@Eli2020 just google fertility specialist near me and see what comes up. The guy I picked is a consultant obstetrician in the hospital I work in so I knew he was reputable and trustworthy. They're usually all consultants. You pay for the initial consultation which is the biggest fee and he did charge me separately for the swabs and blood tests but it was just £30. If it gives you peace of mind or some answers I say go for it!

@chloedancer897 this is really giving me hope! £280 for all these tests and peace of mind is so worth it! I think the fact that I don't know if I can get pregnant (i mean I got pregnant in March but lost it shortly after) is giving so much anxiety that I don't know if all this stress is not impacting me 🙁 I've always had quite severe anxiety unfortunately :( i have private insurance but I doubt it will cover anything. What was the name of the initial tests/appointment/foot in the door thing so that I can start looking for options near me?

@MichT4 @VP91x it gets you a step closer to some answers and the benefit of going privately is that you don't have to wait for a year of trying. There's no reason why you have to, it's just that fertility services within the NHS are so stretched. You might get pregnant in the meantime but there's no harm in some scans and blood tests. The hysterosalpingogram is one that many spills said helped them to get pregnant as it clears any blockages in your tubes. It worked for 2 of my friends!

@VP91x I actually work in a hospital so I knew the consultant but that didn't make a difference with price. I don't know him that well! Lol honestly , you're just paying to get your foot in the door. The rest of the tests he billed the NHS for and I didn't have to wait. It was such a relief to know we were both fit and healthy and that neither of us had problems per say (other than the fact that his sperm seems disgusted by the thought of my egg!) I'm so glad I did it. It not much more than the money we all spend on OPKs, thermometers and grapefruit juice 😂

@chloedancer897 thanks Hun, that sounds great. Will bear that in mind if I keep getting so anxious xxx

By the way, so I don’t sound mad for worrying so much when it’s only been 3 cycles since MC, it’s because in my 20’s I was diagnosed with PCOS. I managed to reverse it as I did a lot of work on it and found out it was stress related (so should be more careful) and subsequent scans and bloods said it was gone. My cycle came back so I assumed I’m all good to go but now I wonder if it’s creeped back somehow xx

@MichT4 sorry, I was seen within a week and all tests were done within 4 weeks so I had all my answers in a month

@MichT4 I got bloods, swabs and a scan done. He timed it so I was about CD6-7 when I saw him and he could see the start of an egg coming on scan and my bloods confirmed that I was ovulating. My husband had semen analysis. I had the hysterosalpingogram which was clear too and he scanned me a further 2 times at different times during my cycle. He then put me on the list for IVF (he actually told a little fib and told them i had been trying for longer so I didn't wait as long to be seen- the benefits of private eh?) if you have the money, I recommend it. I had went to my GP before that and she was very dismissive. Said I already have 2 children and was under 40 so I'd be bottom list of priorities for fertility treatment.

@chloedancer897 what tests did they do going private? I am thinking of using my medical insurance to get some done but not sure if it’s a bit soon. Was the process quick? xxx

Thanks @VP91x and @2020wish. It just gets on top of you sometimes doesn’t it, guess it has to come out. I just try to stay upbeat because then it feels like it’s not stressful. Backwards way of thinking I guess.

@mrsssk gosh it sounds like we have had the same emotions. I wasn’t expecting it either so I felt a bit confused by it all.
If it comforts you, just to say again that the doctor said how normal it is not to ovulate for at least 1-2 cycles, and the fact she said my bloods wouldn’t show anything conclusive because of the hormones from being PG says a lot. I think we forget what our bodies go through getting PG and it can take a while. Hard to put that logic into practice but I’m just going to try and be kind to myself and remember that it’s a big deal and I need my body to be at its best to hold onto the next bean for 9 months.

I’m the same as you @Eli2020 with a very similar due date that I want to be seeing some happy news before. That’s why I was quite teary when she said she’d see me in September. Doesn’t seem long enough.

We’ll all get there, ladies xxx

@VP91x sorry to hear your due date is so soon. I really pray you will be pregnant until then. Nobody deserves to go through this pain. And thanks for the kind message-I should repeat to myself this last sentence more often xx

@Eli2020 I don't know if this is an option for you but I went privately for fertility testing, it's just really to get your foot in the door and all subsequent tests were NHS so it didn't cost very much. I think I paid £280 altogether. Hubby had his tests free and I got a hysterosalpingogram on NHS but got the test done really quickly because he referred me. I went privately after trying for 6 months. I just knew it wasn't happening.

@Eli2020 yeah I'm similar to you with regards to cycles. I properly started TTC Sept last year . Fell in decemeber so took 3 -4 months to fall first time. Had MC /ERPC In early march. So I'm currently in 4th cycle since then .. although I dont think I ovulated the first cycle so I'd say I'm in the 3rd one of actually having a chance .. AF due by the weekend and just dont feel confident . In total I'd say I'm currently in my 6th cycle when adding up pre MC and post MC xxx we will get there eventually hun xxx just a tough journey isnt it xx I think if I'm still not successful in a few months I'd consider getting some private investigations but I know I'm probably being premature doing that as have no reason to believe anything wrong but i dunno think it's just a tough journey xxx

@mrsssk I had ewcm and then the day after i got positive opk. Good luck get ready to dtd

@Renna thanks for reaching out 🤗 I wish the nhs would make it easier and not make us wait that long to get tests done. Before the lockdown I saw two different doctors telling them about my concerns (it was just 3rd cycle at the time but wanted to know options due to a surgery I had in the past) and they told me to not even bother them before a year has passed. I was hoping with my background they'll at least deem it important to check and not a waste a year of my life. Now that I had the miscarriage in March I'm worried they'll start counting the year from then. Which cycle is this for you?

@VP91x this is cycle 7 now. Got pregnant on cycle 3 bye miscarried shortly after and how it's 4th cycle since then. I've read here on mumsnet lots of people saying they were so fertile after their MC and got pregnant straight away and i believed the same will happen but no-currently CD2, cycle 7 ... I don't know how I'll cope if 22nd of Nov comes (when my due date was) and I'm not pregnant-I think I'll lose the plot 😢

@micht4 I'm with you on the needing a good cry. Had that yesterday and felt like an absolute mess - honestly think this whole TTC journey is the hardest thing to go through but 🤞🏽 we will all have our babies to hold at the end of it.

My cycle has been all over the place too, I think that's what triggered it for me too. After thinking I ovulated at some point between CD 13/14 (counting mc bleeding as CD1) I've now got EWCM today. OPKS are showing absolute zero firmly negative. So I have absolutely no idea what is going on. Like you I'm feeling so deflated wondering am I even going to ovulate / when will I ovulate etc. The last couple of weeks have been exhausting to say the least...

@2020wish I know the next day after that frer my 2nd frer was a clear positive just not the day before so that was a bit wierd and i didnt expect the cb to come up either before an frer so that really shocked me as the blue dye is meant to be rubbish so i though the cb was a dud test tbh x x

@renna aw it the awkward time of the month now where u start to feel less hope but uv done all u can this cycle so no reason to not feel hope :) plus u said ur temps hve been crazy cos of the dog etc so hard to rely on them xx the cramps do sound promising though! Xx I have everything crossed that this is ur month x

@2020wish I think I'm due AF the same time as you. I was really tempted to test early but it's so hard to tell at this stage. Hold off for a few days, even until wed and try again. Because it's just going to drive you mad. I'm hoping to hold out until Sunday