TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

@Jazper glad to see you back and I think you just need to look after yourself, let yourself be sad if that's how you feel and take it day by day. I know that sounds a bit cliche but sometimes we do have to just put one foot in front of the other
@Chickoletta glad your cystitis has gone, mine always need antibiotics so lucky you've managed to sort it without. I'm also CD 24 now and so no judgement here for testing early...I have had a BFN and 4 days later had a positive with last pregnancy so it's definitely possible.
So glad you've been proactive with your GP @2020wish and hopefully your blood work gets some definitive answers
@Niisa sounds like a good sign to me, think it was @Chickoletta that also had some over zealous CM this month too so 🤞
@VP91x I'm not familiar with calorie deficit and exercise affecting pregnancy chances tbh, if it's something your body is used to then I'd say it's probably safe...sorry that's pretty useless advice, sure someone else can give you a more educated response!
Hi @Banbi welcome and sorry for your loss, the thread makes me feel more productive about things too, good for practical tips but also the emotional stuff if you fancy venting
@mrsssk I'd say you probably got your peak around CD 13 and maybe missed the full peak if you're doing it daily, also worth continuing to check for a few days to see if it definitely goes back down

Thanks @mrsssk. I feel happier with the thought of getting on with it. Waiting another 4 to 6 weeks feels like forever.

@MichT4 you’ve literally described exactly what I’ve had too. Never really noticed EWCM before and just noticed watery type yesterday, so I think we’re in the same boat. I’ll just have to let DH know to keep going for a couple of days 😂 we’ve never tracked ovulation before so the poor guy doesn’t know what’s hit him

@VP91x I think you’re right and I haven’t caught it on the sticks. I’ll keep checking as you suggest and if it continues on a downward trend that would make more sense. I’ve been tracking CM and although didn’t get EW, did get more of a watery type yesterday.

@anaconda76 that’s exactly what I’m trying to do with OPKs now. If there’s even a slight chance of getting pregnant before the next actual period rolls round then it’d be a shame to miss it. I’d say if you’re feeling mentally up to it to start trying again, go for it!

@VP91x Thankyou that’s probably why I couldn’t find it 🤣 xx

I just did mine again too and it’s slightly lighter again. I’ll keep going until I know either way.
@VP91x do you always get EWCM? My CM is definitely more watery and quite stretchy (sorry!) but hasn’t gone EW yet - it did last month but that was the first time I’ve noticed it.

@mrsssk I wonder if I’ve missed mine too, but I’m not sure my CM ever went to EWCM either 🤯 so I have no idea. Definitely plan to keep testing from tomorrow morning (I need to drink!) and hopefully my temps will do something too. Will keep DTD in the meantime xx

Do you think there's any truth in the theory that you're more fertile after a mc? I wonder why that would be.

When I went to the hospital today for more blood tests I made sure I asked why I should wait for AF before ttc again. The nurse said, "well you wouldn't try to run if you'd just hurt your knee." But actually, not getting any younger here so @HopeForRainbowbaby and @mrsssk I think I will start trying again as soon as the bleeding stops. Like @2020wish suggested, I'll just keep tabs on ov date.

Hi ladies does anyone know the link for pregnancy group after miscarriage? I have had a quick look but can’t found one? Xxx

Hi ladies,

Firstly hello @Banbi, sorry to hear about your loss. I’m finding great comfort in this group and hope you do too x

Just wondering if I can get some insight on my OPK strips.

I’ve done them for the last few days hoping to catch a peak and got a “high” reading the last couple of day’s but a low today. Does this mean I possibly ovulated sometime over the last couple of days? I’ve just been testing once a day so may have missed my “peak” ??? we DTD the last few days anyways.

I’m not really expecting to ovulate again so soon after the MC (just stopped bleeding last week) but we thought we’d give it a shot regardless!

Any help is appreciated demystifying! Thx

Hi @Banbi

Welcome to our madhouse . It's good fun and super supportive, so you have found the right place!
Sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds like you've taken some time and it's great to see your relaxed approach.
Keep lurking, or chip in whenever. It's another thing to get addicted to
xxx

Hi all - late to the party, but hope it's still ok to join

First, I'm sorry for your losses and have all my fingers and toes crossed that you get your BFPs soon. I'm gonna lurk on here for a bit - had a MC in March, got pregnant really quickly once I started properly tracking my cycle but then it was not to be. AF in Apr & May at around about the right time but longer than typical.

We've decided we're ready to TTC again, but I'm nervous. It's been really good for me I think to see you all hitting it hard - charting and the works. Gotta go for what we want! We're going to be a bit gentler for the next month: keep an eye on dates and physical symptoms to loosely time the BD, but not expect it to happen or go full on OPKs or steps to boost things yet.

Mostly I'm hoping following your stories here will make me pull my socks up in terms of lifestyle. Lockdown and the MC have been super excuses to stop exercising, drink wine, and mainline caffeine

Xx

@Bellabubble ahh how lovely. We moved into our place at the end of October and it was so great kitting the place out. Kept me very busy!

@VP91x 😂😂 love it!

I think you’d be fine to. You’ve done it before and you aren’t taking up anything super high intensity. I was really watching my food and trying to drop a bit of excess before I conceived last time, and it obviously did me no harm. In fact I think I was making really good choices. I stopped training for a while when I started bleeding and I think it did more harm than anything. Obviously wouldn’t have changed the outcome but for mindset I really struggled. And now I feel like all the weight is back, and I’m now the same - trying to be more conscious of my intake and doing some more cardio based exercise on top of lifting. I think you should go for it - it’s good for your headspace and gives another focus to.

I actually think back to when we did conceive and think I was in a better place body wise. My BMI etc is fine but like I said its more of a mental game for me. Plus, I don’t want to make life harder post baby with excess to start with 🙊

Go for it! Maybe we should set ourselves little challenges to keep our minds distracted xx

@VP91x the house is starting to feel like more of a home now! We got the TV and washing machine delivered yesterday 🙌🏻 (I have had to drop clothes round to my mum’s, who we were living woth before moving out 2 weeks ago, as I work in a school so need to wash my clothes regularly to stay safe 🙄) I’m currently 5dpo but being back at work all week has made the days go quicker, so I’m happy about that! Stops me from symptom spotting too 😂 How are you guys doing? xx

@Niisa I was the same this morning although I'm only D5PO so doubt it's anything to get excited about for me. Worth while testing maybe?

Thanks @2020wish. Hopefully we would be covered if it was my peak yesterday 🤞🏼 I think we would be, luckily. I’ll wait to see what happens with the rest of the sticks xx

@Niisa maybe test?? Could be a BFP !!

@MichT4 I would guess from that you ovulated last night and now the surge is falling again today? But keep testing every 4 hours until you get a 0

😂😂 just imagining pots of wee all about the place. My OH would think I’d lost it (even more!)

Gosh @VP91x you got a lovely big peak. Did you not drink anything between those tests?

Fingers crossed I get one like that soon 🤞🏼