TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

Woke up at 10.30 this morning and I'm really struggling to stay awake! I think I may just go have a nap - I've been like this the last couple of days too! 😩

@Nellle thanks hun & welcome 💕💕

@MichT4 AS SOON AS IT COMESSS! Don't worry 😂 even tho the delivery has been changed to tomorrow for some reason 🙄

Welcome newcomers!!! You we will be very welcomes here and nothing is off limits lol

4dpo and I a lot of CM hoping this is the start of a positive outcome!! Finally able to start my aspirin today also as my bloods are done!

@Nellle finding balance is tough. Oddly, last month I was doing nothing except using apps. But I was driving myself, and probably OH mad! He said I was stressed about it and while I was crying and shouting that I wasn’t....I realised I was!
Oddly, for me (so far anyway) getting the Ava and OPKs has helped because I feel a bit more in control. I can see what’s happening and don’t have to panic about DTD all month long. I started panicking if we hadn’t done it which wasn’t nice for either of us. Now I’m more relaxed that we are doing what we can but still keeping it fun.
It’s really important to find what you’re comfy with xx

@northernsoul90, I use the femometer OPKs. Can’t justify spending on CBS, though I’m very tempted. The app then logs the readings with photos of the sticks which is handy, though bas driven me slightly mad this week 😂

@VPN1x thank you, yes still very raw at the moment some days I feel okay and other days I just feel hopeless. They weren’t offering D and C under general at my local hospital due to covid but my husband was allowed in with me during the procedure which I was relieved at. It wasn’t the most pleasant experience - I had an injection into the cervix and gas and air for pain relief. I was still suffering from very bad nausea and vomiting up until the day of the procedure, that went almost instantly after it was done so I am glad I didn’t wait to try and miscarry naturally as I found still having pregnancy symptoms when I knew I had lost the baby distressing. I’m glad to have a found a forum were others have had similar experiences. Hopefully it will happen for me soon. I was worrying about regained tissue, i was quite surprised that no scan or anything was done after the procedure to check it had all been removed. Did you have symptoms of having retained tissue?

@MichT4 thank you, I think I will wait for at least a couple of weeks and then start thinking about tracking ovulation etc again. I was told to wait for 3 weeks then test to make sure I get a negative. Hoping that my cycles return fairly quickly then we can start trying again.

Does anyone have any recommendations for ovulation tests? I was using the clear blue digital ones which did work for me but they are pricey Xx

So nice to get such kind replies 🙂 I remember using mumsnet many years ago for something non-TTC related and someone not my head off "Don't @ me. It's not what we do here." 😂😂 I think this must be the nicest corner of the site.

@MichT4 I know what you mean about the clichés! You believe them completely when offering them out, but it's just impossible to follow your own advice. I'm treading the fine line between planning sensibly and obsessing unhealthily at the mo. Hope you are able to find some balance too ♥️♥️

@anaconda76 Yes, the waiting is killer! I can barely wait for a slice of toast, let alone 2 bloody weeks for a flipping period 😂😂 This process is a cruel biological joke. Yeah, losing at 11 weeks was tough, particularly because I had a heartbeat the morning my miscarriage started. The woman scanning me even said "congratulations". But I lost my little bean in a hospital waiting room. No one believed me that it was happening. I think I'm still a bit traumatised to be honest. I hope none of us ever have to go through it again. 💔

@northernsoul90 My cycle post-MC has been pretty unchanged. A day longer or shorter here or there.

@niisa Thinking of you and it still sounds positive! The cheapies aren't that sensitive 🤞🤞 Same @eli2020 you might not be out!

Hi @VP91x 👋👋 I have useed Natural Cycles both for planning and preventing pregnancy. Also OPKs, I usually use chepies then a digital to confirm. I've been taking Pregnacare. Would anyone recommend anything different?

Also (sorry for the long post), is anyone T1 diabetic or has a partner who is? My hubby is and I wonder how much impact it's having.

Xxxx

@VP91x well he's getting some!! He's just come in saying he's hungry, so I'll feed him up first

@Eli2020 it still might be early. If you had spotting just 2 days ago then it might not show yet. I don't want to get your hopes up, but don't get too down until you know for sure. Then you can treat yourself and get ready for another month. It's OK to feel sad about it, but try again on an early response and then deal with whatever it is from there xxx

@VP91x and @MichT4 thanks so much for taking the time to reply to me and for understanding. @VP91x Clinical Guard are just Internet cheapies .. I tell myself maybe they are not sensitive enough but I've seen online and on YouTube people can detect pregnancies with them as early as 9 or 10 dpo. Whats also confusing is that I felt something (best described as twinges) on 6 dpo so I thought if this was implantation bfp should have showed by now 🤔 and also had a tiny bit of spotting (just when I wipe) on 9 and 10 dpo (was really tiny but I never have spotting that early before AF) so then I think ok maybe then this is implantation but then again bfp should have showed by now ... or maybe I'm just holding on to some tiny hope 🙁 just want to have a baby so bad 🥺

@VP91x I did take the second pics in the same light as the other days so hopefully they are comparing the same thing 🤷🏻‍♀️

Uuggh OH is working. He has a break from now til 12.30 - he won’t know what’s hit him when he walks in the door. Or I act nonchalant and catch him a little later. Don’t want any pressure 😂💦🍆

@Northernsoul90 sorry to hear about your MC.

I didn't start tracking first month, so not sure what to advise. My cycles went back to pre - MC in the first month - I think - because I don't know which day I'd count as day 1. But they seem to have got back to normal length. I don't know if I ovulated first month, or if things are actually back to normal if you know what I mean, but length wise I seemed OK. I think it depends how far along you were etc.
I know it's hard, and it's very early for you so you are bound to feel low. The girls here are amazing and will all have solid advice and wise words. I think we have all been there thinking it won't happen, I still have wobbles, but it will I'm sure of it.

@Eli2020 same to you - sorry you find yourself here. I'm 3 cycles post MC too. Try not to think it's anything you can do, it sounds like you are covering your bases. I got caught up in the conceiving straight away thing but I think one of the girls said yesterday, there's not really any science behind it, so don't be hard on yourself. Maybe try a more sensitive test?

@Diorissimo1985 try not to be anxious. See it as a positive that they are doing some investigations. Maybe don't worry too much this cycle, it might happen anyway. But I don't think you should put it off if you don't want to. It's great you are being seen so quickly again too - fingers crossed you get some answers soon.

@Niisa you need to be using a FRER! I'm hopeful for you

xxx

Girls, I think it’s happened. Has it happened?? 😳

I’m skeptical because the line looks fainter than it has done and the first picture I took was high. But then I got these two. What do you think?

See, I’ve lost faith in these sticks. Don’t know what to think!

@Diorissimo1985 I'm so sorry to hear that hun 💕💕

So took another IC and it's another negative lol not even the faintest. Nada!

Back from GP and feeling pretty anxious. Doctor thinks there could be an autoimmune issue as I have rheumatoid arthritis which developed after I had DD. Have an appointment with gynae on Monday and can discuss further. Unsure about trying this cycle now? Will it just result in third miscarriage?
Does anyone have any knowledge of autoimmune issues and how that affects pregnancy? Also what is the treatment? X

@Hayleylou89 hahaha I get like that too once I get excited! I'll test as soon as the frer tests come today and save the other for a couple days' time if it's negative.

@Chickoletta so sorry for your bfn hun 💕

Hello ladies. I've been feeling really low and I don't really have anybody to talk to about ttc so I hope you don't mind me joining.This is our 6th cycle ttc#1, we had an early MC in the end of March which shattered me quite a bit. What helped me stay positive at the time was reading so many people saying how they were so fertile after a MC and managed to conceive straight away after, some even without getting another period. And here I am-3 cycles after that and still nothing. Today is 12 dpo-I tested in the morning with a Clinical Guard test and was BFN. I know they are not the most sensitive but surely if I was PG even a faint line would appear by now? AF is due on Sunday or Monday. Just feel so discouraged-we are 32, eat super healthy, been taking pre natal vitamins, using pre seed, tracking ovulation, having lots of BD In the fertile window, I don't drink, smoke or even have coffee since ttc... Just not sure what else can I do Do you think I'm out this month if I'm getting bfn on 12 dpo? My boobs have been so sore-I normally get sore boobs before AF arrives but the only time they ever hurt so much was when we got pregnant in March.

Thanks girls 💕💕💕 literally just woke up after sleeping at stupid o'clock this morning and Yupp heartburn & nausea are still very much here 😭😭 someone is cooking something all the way downstairs - 3 floors down - and it's making me feel queasy. Gurrrrrl if after all this I'm not pregnant, I'm gonna be pissed! 😂😂😂😂

Hi ladies, I have found this thread just looking for some advice really. I found out last week that I had suffered a missed miscarriage, this was my first pregnancy. I opted to have an MVA procedure done under local anaesthetic as I was told it was highly unlikely that I would miscarry naturally. The procedure itself, as unpleasant as it was, seemed to go fine and I have had quite minimal bleeding since - I had the MVA on Monday. I don’t know when to start tracking ovulation etc again. I’m also wondering what to expect with my cycle, have most people found their cycle has returned to how it was prior to mc or has it changed? My cycles tend to be longer about 32 days and ovulation usually happened on day 19 or 20. Feeling quite low at the moment and like it will never happen... any experiences or advice would be much appreciated.

@anaconda76 I'm with you. Patience and not being able to control a situation are not two of my qualities

Sorry @MissyBate @Chickoletta on your BFNs. I'm with you. BFN on FR this morning (about the fifth this week) and that's on CD28, 13PO.

Safe to say, I'm out. 😢

Hi @Nellle, sorry to hear about your mc at 11 wks. It's really hard when you get so close to that magic 12 wk milestone only to have the shock of a mc. The hardest part of this ttc journey is the constant need for patience. It's not something I've been blessed with.