Struggling to get pregnant

After my mmc i noticed i didnt get a p for almost 6 months but eventually evened out again and became regular. Fingers crossed gp will help with some answers for you sending hugs to you.
Also have over active thryiod that appeared after my first i think thats what is slowing the process down not sure, but been remission so should be ok it is so stressful. make sure gp gets blood test just to double check everything is ok. Try not to stress i know its harder said than done xx

Hi,

I'm in a similar boat, had first baby no problem at all after thinking it could take ages!

Now actively trying for 2nd and not getting very far. Had an MMC last year in November and cycle has been all over the place since then. Opks show positive ov but not a sniff of a bfp yet unfortunately.

Contacted gp surgery today so should be getting a call back in the next couple of days (fingers crossed)

I am over 35 now though so I realise that time is not on my side.

I'm taking CoQ10 for egg quality, vit C, folic acid/vit D, and floradix for iron / B vits.

I also have a lot of stress and crap sleep so that no doubt isn't helping, but unfortunately don't have much control over that at the moment.

Rant away, happy to listen, although I am rubbish at replying

Im also struggIng ttc baby number 2
Its been almost 3 years.. sadly had two missed miscarriages at 9 weeks and just dont understand what could be happening i feel like its affecting my mental health now. I had my dd which took almost 2 years actively trying and just feels like n#2 isnt happening. I have been to doctors but they dont seem to take me seriously been waiting for a scan date for the past two months now still nothing. Praying you get the good news sending hugs c

Same to you

I know it’s tough. 2 years in and lm sick of it. I quit the temping, apps and OPK’s. We continue with the every other day sex and supplements. Tests show no issues 4 rounds of Clomid and 1 IVF transfer didn’t lead to anything. We have 3 embryos in the freezer and after that lm done

I'd recommend cutting out sugar, the clear blue fertility monitor and pregnacare conception tablets for both you and DH. Good luck!

I was in the exact same position as you, OP! We TTCed for 2.5 years before getting pregnant with DS, the doctors found problems and so we thought DS was a fluke and never expected to get pregnant again naturally.

I did just that when he was 18 months, right after I'd started a 2 year uni course and we'd put TTC on hold! Had an MMC at 8 weeks but just knowing it was possible was a huge mental breakthrough.

Last August, I was determined to crack it - we had sex every 12 hours for a week (poor DH was exhausted!) so there was no way of missing my fertile window. Absolutely nothing.

Three months later we moved house and I fell pregnant 4 days after moving in - God knows where we got the energy - but TTC was the last thing on our minds. I'm now 7 months gone and look like a beached whale.

I know it's very easy to say, but in my experience it's when you take on a big project that demands all your attention that things happen. Stop thinking about it, stop taking your temperature and if you have a regular cycle, just keep a vague idea of when you usually ovulate. POAS never worked for me at all - just raised my hopes and cost a fortune.

You'll get there. Good luck!!

@Wrigleys123 - it just becomes a chore after a while doesn't it: ovulation tests, lots of sex and symptom spotting before an unwanted period and start again

Name change fail there haha!

@babymoonpie sounds like we are on the same journey with number of months trying haha!

I feel you OP, I have been trying for number 2 for about 18 months now! Some months have been a bit half hearted to be honest as it gets so wearing, I've found lockdown has made me worry about it less for some reason although I feel so guilty for my only DD.

If it ever does happen, unlikely, I will be in a state of shock!

I’m in the same boat. First baby was conceived 2nd month of trying which was also my first month tracking ovulation. I used 2 ovulation sticks, got my static smiley on my 2nd stick, while in America, flew home and got pregnant.

Now in 8th cycle of TTC and can’t believe how difficult it is. I live quite rurally, so the thought of not being able to give my son a sibling breaks my heart.

I’m on my 2nd month of trying SMEP and I’ve ordered a couple of tests that can be done at home from let’s get checked and Medicheck.

I spoke to a GP because I’m over 35 but they wouldn’t do anything until it’s been a year.

@1940s I just know that my kids were both conceived when we had sex at different time of the day to our usual pre sleep
Sex .

@1940s - it sounds like you're doing everything right but you're being hard on yourself because you got pregnant first attempt last time. Your GP won't be interested until you've been trying for 12 months and then it's scans / swabs / blood tests for you and sperm analysis for your husband but due to Covid I doubt any of those tests are being done at the moment. I'm on cycle 18 TTC number 2 so I know how you feel

Fertility lube is supposed to be good, conceive plus is well reviewed on amazon.

We used it last month and had sex every day from day 5 - 21 and it worked. Might be worth a try?

If you can have sex at different times of the day not just before sleep.

Ps a few of us have committed to the "every other day" plan too to see if that changes things!

It is hard not to worry, but do try to remember that 85% of couples conceive within 12 months so you still have a few months to go yet and that would be totally normal. Come over to the 6 months / 7 months + thread as there is loads of advice and support on there :)

How long have you been trying for?