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Tweakers help please?!

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User43210 · 29/05/2020 04:58

Hi all,

Swore I wouldn't be this anxious but after an awful experience with a MMC this year which just never seemed to end, I'm now just desperate for baby #1. I'm also devastated at the possibility I may have Ashermans (2x D&C, shorter AF, lots of pain in Luteal phase now)

What do you think to this test?? Possibly very, very faint but I'm thinking I'm not fully out yet? 10/11DPO. I will test again (probably daily) but just wanted some other expert eyes.

Thanks x

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zaffa · 03/06/2020 11:13

I'm so sorry OP.

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User43210 · 03/06/2020 04:58

Thank you all.

I had a hpt that was lighter than I would have expected two days ago when I had cramps early morning and a slight dip in my bbt. My bbt has gone down a bit more today, more bleeding overnight and slight stomach pains, and a hpt from the same back much lighter, almost barely there. Unfortunately, it appears to be a chemical pregnancy. I can't even kid myself otherwise after the test this morning.

Thanks for all your support, hopefully I don't have Ashermans and this is just an awful coincidence. But now I think I need to go about speaking to the GP again as the EPU seemed to have no idea xx

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Mum637k · 03/06/2020 02:12

@User43210 so sorry :( that's incredibly difficult OP. I got my fingers crossed you get what you hope for very very soon 💐

Buzzfrightyears · 02/06/2020 21:37

I wish you all the best

zaffa · 02/06/2020 21:35

Oh OP. Please take care of yourself and remember that women do bleed in pregnancy and still go on to have healthy babies. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you the absolute very best x

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User43210 · 02/06/2020 16:45

Thank you @Greyblueeyes I appreciate it. It's better to happen this way rather than how my last ended, but it's still so devastating to get our hopes up for the future and to be going through it again.

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Greyblueeyes · 02/06/2020 16:36

I'm so so sorry. Infertility is just hell. Take care of yourself

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User43210 · 02/06/2020 16:28

Just an update - unfortunately, after having a bit of cramping yesterday morning and expecting it to happen - I've started a bit of spotting which is getting heavier. I'm booked in with the EPU next week, although I presume I will have a negative hpt before then - and the lady who I rang had no idea about Asherman's Syndrome so may need to go back to my GP to discuss checks.
Devastated isn't the word xx

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 22:11

@zaffa I remember the nausea well. I remember a dog walk where I ran off and was sick in a bush! Oh no how awful for you but at least it's in the past and you have DD now.

@Mum637k thank you!!!

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Mum637k · 30/05/2020 17:41

@User43210 yayy that's amazing!! So happy for you congratulations 💐

zaffa · 30/05/2020 14:28

PS - I didn't know it at the time(how much I could possibly love her) but DD is the light of my life and absolutely worth that moment and all the other embarrassing awful moments I went through.

zaffa · 30/05/2020 14:27

TMI WARNING ...

The nausea is the awful, the vomiting was awful, there was one incredibly dreadful day where I vomited so much and so hard I ended up wetting myself slightly and DH found me sobbing on the bathroom floor distraught. He thought something much worse had happened so was very relieved when between big gulping sobs I managed to explain my embarrassment (luckily I was at home at the time). It certainly distracted me from any other anxieties during the first trimester!

I do hope your morning sickness is nowhere near as bad!

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 11:09

I didn't but I did have a lot of support from friends and family. A lot of people knew already as it's impossible to hide when you look awful every day because the nausea is all-consuming.

Thanks! Although I always said I didn't mind the nausea if it meant a little one at the end. That failed last time but I have the same sentiments this time. At least I can mask it as heat stroke if lockdown eases and I see anyone xx

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zaffa · 30/05/2020 11:04

Did you have counselling after the miscarriage? It's a terrible thing to process alone without help.

I hope things run smoothly with this one - I was very sick in my first trimester and that is probably the only time I wasn't anxious because I was far too sick to focus on anything but me! Although fingers crossed you don't suffer too much as it would be awful over the summer months!

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 09:15

@zaffa so happy to hear it all went well in the end. Definitely hope I enjoy it more but easier said than done. I had my early scan more because I had pains and was paranoid for an ectopic.

It was annoying because we did a 60-90minute booking appt with the midwife and I spent Christmas and New Year sober and with awful nausea and sickness just to find out the baby hadn't even made it to that point. Not exactly the worst thing in the world but still a bit frustrating.

I'll definitely be letting the midwife know after everything I've been through since with the hospital as well. Hopefully they'll sort me out a reassurance scan but it's not likely with only one MC and happy to sort it myself for peace of mind.

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zaffa · 30/05/2020 09:02

That must have been heart breaking do talk to your midwife - mine was amazing and whenever I was overwhelmed by it all she would calm me down and talk me through things. Not once did anyone make me feel foolish for my concerns - I went in for reduced movements three times because I just wasn't sure and each time DD was absolutely fine! But once you get an idea in your head you can't get rid of it I found.

My biggest regret is that I didn't enjoy pregnancy more - I was always scared if I relaxed then something would go wrong so I was on constant guard. But that's just our anxieties speaking - so if it gets overwhelming tell the midwives what's happening and they can help even with just someone to talk it through with.

Roll on the next eight weeks! xx

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 08:56

Thank you both!

@zaffa your support just made me teary- maybe a little emotional I spent my last one worrying then had an early scan and was okay, saw a heartbeat, but still went on thinking "anything can happen" fast forward a month and a half and find at my 12 week scan that my baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks but was still in there. I've never felt grief like that, I had been walking around three weeks with a baby with no heartbeat, and had to for four more days. I then had the worst ordeal with operations and all that. Which doesn't help calm the anxiety but all I'm telling myself is that if I miscarry, there's nothing I can do to stop it. And anxiety will only make things worse. That, and book in a hundred private scans for reassurance thanks so much for your support! And here's hoping for a speedy 8 weeks and to be at least out of the danger zone xx

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zaffa · 30/05/2020 08:06

I'm so happy for you! Congrats. Come and talk to us when the anxiety gets bad. I had an awful pregnancy - not because anything was ever actually wrong but I was terrified every day about everything. Scans were awful - I burst into tears at the last one because the consultant had mentioned in passing that her head circumference was growing faster than he expected so he wanted them to recheck it as he thought it was wrong (it was - the sonographer had to spend ages showing me my healthy 37w DD while I cried). Naturally I took that to mean all sorts and nothing in he said could reassure me - DH refers to pregnancy as one of the hardest times of our marriage. No one can ever allay your fears but I found talking about it often helped - especially people I didn't know. So any time you're worried or anxious, come and talk to us for a hand hold OP. x

mintyt · 30/05/2020 07:54

Congratulations, try not to worry too much

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 05:27

@hopeforlucky3 thank you!!! now comes the months of worry (my anxiety is so bad and last time I was proven right!) but not letting that overshadow my current happiness. X

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hopeforlucky3 · 30/05/2020 05:26

@User43210 congratulations

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User43210 · 30/05/2020 04:37

@Mum637k @zaffa @TheFoz

Absolutely no doubt to finish this post off.

Have a lovely weekend! X

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User43210 · 29/05/2020 22:06

Thanks @TheFoz

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TheFoz · 29/05/2020 22:03

Congratulations @User43210

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User43210 · 29/05/2020 21:51

@zaffa yey! Let's hope they stay now

I couldn't resist and told dh tonight instead of in a different way. Although getting a few slightly nasty pains this evening so just hoping it's my stupid body up to it's usual aches and pains and not a bad sign!

Time will tell x

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