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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Just want AF to arrive so new cycle can begin...

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CaribouCarafe · 26/05/2020 15:52

AF due in 3 days.

Am sure I'm out this month - negative FRER today and I have the usual PMS acne.

Just want my period to come already so that I can get this useless cycle over with and have a commiseration beer.

Just frustrating as have been taking pre-conception vitamins for months, cut out caffeine, no alcohol during TWW, have DTD every other day, tracked ovulation and with no success.

Anyone else fancy a moan whilst waiting for AF to show up?

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MyGossip · 26/05/2020 19:27

@CaribouCarafe similar to my approach then! I wasn't really doing much other than paying more attention to my ovulating days on Flo and trying to time it a little more around that but nothing like I am now. I have that fear too that I am infertile but like you say, we just need to give ourselves time. I know lots of friends who have taken just over or under a year to conceive and I'm going to try and keep that in mind.

Are you tracking with OPKs? Or using any apps?

mrswilso · 26/05/2020 19:26

Oooh I'm with you all ladies 👋🏻

I'm only on cycle 2 and I've always thought I had realistic expectations after coming off the pill but - and you already said it @cariboucarafe - it's amazing how deeply embedded in our minds the "if you have sex - you get pregnant" message has stuck from the teenage years!
Ironically, if I had come off my pill for a month at 18/19 years old, I'll bet you I'd have an 11 year old in tow right now 🤣

Expecting AF on Monday...here's hoping she's a no show this time!

Babydust to you all ☺️✨

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CaribouCarafe · 26/05/2020 19:19

@MyGossip yeah I'm only working half days at the moment due to CV-19 and all that means is spending more time thinking about TTC!

Every month the fear grows that I'm infertile and just don't know it yet, but then have to remind myself that we haven't actually been TTC for very long at all:

  • we had a casual "let's not use a condom" approach for a year but it was with irregularly-timed sex which tended to be after my fertile window (for some reason I feel sexiest just before/during my period! Blush
  • we've only been actively TTC for 2-3 months now.

@Littlebee1990 my best friend and my SIL both took a year each and ended up with lovely healthy babies, so that helps me sometimes just thinking that it'll take a while but will happen eventually. Your friends must be super fertile Grin.

@doublecheeseburgermediumfries I remember gleefully doing my OPK's during the first month. I'm a data analyst by profession so tracking my period and ovulation appeals to my geeky nature Grin. Hope your period comes soon so you can start your journey!

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MyGossip · 26/05/2020 17:53

I feel you all 🙄🙄 I never thought I'd feel so consumed or focused on something that I was unsure about previously but here I am. Symptom spotting, vitamin taking, sex timing and everything else.

I got my AF on Sunday and going to try and relax come next month. It's tough going and I think I'm only finding it harder with being furloughed 🤷🏼‍♀️
I've been off the pill since January and wasn't really 'bothered' in a sense until March. And now I feel it's magnified massively.

Nice to see other people feeling the same @caribuCarafe @introv3rt @Littlebee1990 @doublecheeseburgermediumfries ....wishing baby dust to you all ❤️

Littlebee1990 · 26/05/2020 17:43

I average 32 day cycles and they feel so long. I came off the pill in December but used protection until April this year.

I honestly feel exactly the same as you all. This is only cycle 2 and it’s already consuming me. I symptom spot constantly (not even on purpose). Honestly so so much respect for people who have been going through this for a long period of time, I feel so down today and I’m not even out for this month yet. All of my friends fell pregnant first try and I’m convincing myself there is something wrong with me. Honestly had no idea it would consume me so much. I have a busy job and still think about it 60% of my day 😞

doublecheeseburgermediumfries · 26/05/2020 17:29

Waiting for my period to arrive so we can start our first month of properly trying! I have my clear blue digital ovulation kit ready and waiting and I'm going to get some cheapies as well!

I have annoying cycles though, so AF could start in a weeks time or even two weeks😩

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CaribouCarafe · 26/05/2020 16:49

I genuinely never expected to get so wrapped up in TTC - I'm usually a relaxed, laissez-faire person and always was of the mind that "if it doesn't happen naturally then I'll adopt".

Am tired of symptom spotting (without meaning to), of compulsively pissing on sticks, and of timing sex.

Also, tired of cutting out the things I enjoy for 3 weeks each month (caffeinated drinks, sushi, beer to name a few).

At school it seemed like pregnancy was guaranteed if not using contraception, now part of me wonders what was the point of using contraception at all!

Am just grumpy, but am glad that other people feel similarly! Grin

Hope you both get that BFP this month! Negative on 10DPO can still result in an eventual BFP! Fingers crossed Smile

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Littlebee1990 · 26/05/2020 16:40

I’m 10DPO and did a digital yesterday that was a BFN but lots of people have said it’s too early to pick up on a digital but have been in the worst mood since. Never thought TTC would consume me so much.

introv3rt · 26/05/2020 16:04

I know the feeling! 8th month of trying for first baby, currently in 2 week wait (only 2dpo)
I spot for 3 days before my period comes so as soon as I see spotting I know Im out for the month and it really gets me down, I feel abit better once period has finally came and then it's repeat all over again 🙄
Hope you get that bfp soon xx