Just want AF to arrive so new cycle can begin...

@Ughmaybenot ooh a honeymoon in New Zealand sounds amazing! But yes if you can fit in your wedding dress you’re doing very well!! Uni was what got me sadly and world of work never got me back 😂

@cariboucarafe thank you, I know it’s just so easy to focus on what you don’t have!

Honestly swear girls we’ll be less pregnant when we’re actually pregnant at this rate!!

@LS2020 thank you 😊 I’m not naturally dinky but since going on our honeymoon, I’ve definitely put on some timber we were in New Zealand for nearly two months, and ate a lot of pies, macaroni cheese toppers and toffee pops and drank a lot of speights beer that said, we got married last July, and I did try my wedding dress on before properly putting it away and it still fits fine so maybe it’s not as bad as I thought!
Oh it’s a pisstake isn’t it? The amount of hormonal shite we get and then your body doesn’t even do the one thing it should be doing! YOU HAD ONE JOB 😂

@Ughmaybenot well done to you too, it’s a hard journey when you find comfort in food! Haha I’ve tried to do it by just not buying any bad stuff but then I just end up eating 3 bags of crisps like yesterday because there’s no other snacks 😂😂

Body is winding me up today, had such a headache and nausea all morning. I’m putting it down to a stressful call at 10 but it’s like my mind has decided to start playing tricks on me.. honestly if my brain put as much power into making my hormones work as it does worrying about getting pregnant, we’d have gotten there months ago!!

Oh wow, that’s a great loss so far @ls2020 well done! I know what you mean tho, it’s easy to start worrying that it’ll cause problems, like you say. I figure as long as I’m being healthy, it’ll be alright. I’m chunky because I was eating a bit too much of the good stuff before, so can’t see it causing any issues cutting that down.
That said, I went on a baking spree yesterday, and we now have chocolate fudge cookies, a carrot cake and a Victoria sponge cake... that’s not going to help

@ughmaybenot those dreams are awful. I still vividly remember one I had at uni where I’d come home with my newborn baby girl and I can just remember that rush of love and I sobbed when I woke up because she wasn’t there any more and I’ve never gotten over it.
I’m in same boat, I was in the obese BMI and since start of the year I’ve lost about 10kg and down in just overweight but want to keep going. The problem I end up is that I don’t want to diet in my AF week as I’m sad, then I don’t want to calorie cut week of O as don’t want to damage the process and then I don’t want to calorie cut two weeks after In case I am and it’s damaging if I do get pregnant so it’s been slow going. I’ve completed the couch to 5k while we’ve been in quarantine and while I know exercise is less effective, it’s been really good for ticking me over on continuing to lose weight even on naughty weeks!

To be honest tho @mrswilso I do think people being open about it taking any length of time would be helpful really. Even if it’s 4 months or 6 months or whatever, it just shows that there’s much more of a spectrum of normal than we’re led to believe.
Aw that sucks @Ls2020 I had a phase back along where I was dreaming every night that I was heavily pregnant and kept waking up with my hand on my belly... no baby bump, just cake rolls 😂 but yea, that made me really sad.
I’ve committed to losing some weight tho. I’m not massively overweight but I’ve more weight on than I need and I feel like it’ll only help to lose a bit. I’m down 6lbs so far. Gives me something else to focus on I guess!

Had a dream last night I got a bfp and the excitement woke me up... I’m too scared to early test now because I’m not sure I can face the disappointment again this month. Why do our bodies do this to us

@mrswilso yeah I’ve told a couple of close friends we’re trying and think I will try be more vocal about too.
Hopefully it’s rising progesterone which is still important for getting pregnant so good to know your body knows what it’s doing ☺️
I’m 7/8 DPO today... boobs are starting to feel a bit sorer, had really bad blocked nose, heartburn and insomnia last night and still having on/off cramping. RHR has dropped by 1bpm but still high but for some daft reasons I felt my cervix and it’s low and hard so convinced I’m out this month now (I don’t regularly feel my cervix so have no idea if this is normal or not!) so now just trying to hold off on testing. I’m going to try wait til Sunday but not sure I’ll make it as off work Friday morning so won’t have anything to do!

Hi girls!
Hope you’re all doing okay ☺️
Sorry to hear your other half’s are starting to feel the struggle now too @cariboucarafe @ughmaybenot - mine is quite easy going about it all right now but he’s just that type of guy, I don’t think he would struggle too much if we started to have any issues. Although we never know until we’re in that position too...
Yeaaah @ls2020 I agree! I feel particularly sorry for the poor guys who think they’ve got super-seeds cos their missus has “just fell pregnant” too 😂 not that it can’t and doesn’t happen, I just know a couple of guys personally who didn’t know they were trying for a while...and still don’t! 🤣 (I really don’t condone trapping a dude without his consent but it’s hella funny when the trapped dude fully falls for the ruse!)
I think I might make a point of being a bit more open about my TTC journey when the time finally comes and I get the BFP - and I sound dramatic saying that because I know in reality I’ve only been trying three months, but it’s so strange how I just convinced myself it would be as simple as lots of sex for one month and then BAM - BABY! 😂

My update for today...
CD16/2dpo: creamier/stickier CM (much less) / DTD
CD17/3dpo: very little creamy/dry CM / a few random dizzy spells again in work in AM / slightly tender nipples this evening

Surely 3dpo is too early for anything to be pregnancy related though eh? Or are hormones all whacked out right from the moment of conception?

Often actually @ls2020 now you mention it. It must be so common because, let’s face it, unless you’re very close to someone it’s very weird to tell someone you’re letting your partner spunk in you with no protection (sorry to be crude!). Only my very closest friend and DHs very closest friend knows DH and I are ttc. And then once you are pregnant, it’s not usual to say ‘oh it took x months’ so no one would really know.

@CaribouCarafe @Ughmaybenot sorry I opened this earlier and seen you’ve posted more!
My OH is quite passive about it, he’ll engage when I make a joke about a man wearing a papoose or something but he’s determined to almost not think about it until it happens so it makes it super hard to get any comfort when it doesn’t happen.
It might be good that he’s wanting to talk more about it as easier to start having discussions about what next steps you’d wanna take if it didn’t happen?

@Ughmaybenot @mrswilso do you ever wonder how many people must try for months and pretend like they weren’t trying? Like I’m even going to think of myself in this scenario, I’ll be one of the first of a few friendship groups to have kids and I’m only just 27 so I don’t feel anyone in years time if I had a newborn would look at me and assume I struggled without me telling them?
I even think of my best friend who had an abortion when we were 17 and she mentioned it when I last spoke to her on my troubles TTC and how guilty she felt now about it when I want one so bad (she’s super dramatic, I didn’t take offence to what she said) but tbh I just thought, well actually I knew you were not using contraception for about a year so you weren’t really that super fertile really were you? And I know that’s super petty but I just think with that and the people on here, it really can’t be that uncommon? I guess I’m trying to sell myself any excuse at this point 😂

@cariboucarafe good luck entering your TWW, RHR is still high today and feeling my normal sore boobs coming on. Had light patches of cramping and noticed some blue veins on my boobs and hips so fx this month 😊

@cariboucarafe aaah that sucks. Honestly I Know I’ve said it before but it should totally be more talked about that it isn’t actually super common to ‘just happen’ straight away and that for so many couples it takes just that bit longer.
Yea it’s definitely not all on you!! DH is pretty good on that front, altho he’s started to claim this is all a ruse for me to get laid more as I’ve always had the higher sex drive 😂, but he’s not really taking it seriously in terms of lifestyle iyswim? He smokes and he does drink occasionally (would be more if not for lockdown) and I’ve said he really ought to stop both, especially seeing as he’ll have to quit smoking sooner or later anyway, but he’s not really moved in that direction yet. To be fair to him, he does work in a really stressy industry and this is like his peak busy season BUT STILL 😂

@cariboucarafe fair play for keeping it under wraps! I don’t think I’ve reached peak obsessed yet, but DH is more than along for the ride 😂 he’s so sweet, and has been great to reminding me to temp/OPK etc.
To be honest tho, I think he’s struggling a lot with the disappointment. He’s so broody and desperate to be a dad, so he’s hating that it’s not just happened, you know? Plus four of his close friends have announced in the last few weeks they’re having babies so!

Thank goodness there are some positives to all the headspace ttc is taking up

Haha! We're quite similar with the plan thing @Ughmaybenot - and the trying haha! At least there's some fun in that 😉

Definitely not @mrswilso you only ever really hear about it when it’s a surprise or it ‘just happened’, not that it took 6/8/10 whatever months, which is not only common but actually is fine and normal too.
I am not a very patient person, and I like to know what the plan is... this isn’t my idea of fun.

Although all the actual trying definitely is my idea of fun. Poor DH, never gets a moments peace 😂

I thought the same @Ughmaybenot - there's not enough open conversation around how it doesn't just happen right away for a lot of people and how that's completely normal.

Hm I wasn’t on hormonal contraception anyway, anything hormonal tended to turn me a bit loopy, one way or another!
It’s daft isn’t it? I sort of went into this thinking it would just happen in a month or two, not really try too hard and happy days. How wrong I was 😂

Ooh although I did start taking the coq10 2 months ago now, maybe that’s changing my cycle

@mrswilso if I had the money I would deffo just go and get IUI done and then have it sorted. I guess they also have the option to hire a fitness trainer and disappear off for a month to chill out which would probs help!

Something’s deffo changed in my hormones, I’m just not sure what, getting a diff set of symptoms now for last two months

@Ughmaybenot I know I deffo wouldn’t do the depo for 10 years if I known this would be the result. I don’t even think my GP would see me at the year mark as only 18 months off depo and they say can take that to get fertility back to normal.

EXACTLY @Ughmaybenot !!
I actually said to hubby the other day if we have a girl I might try to help her avoid hormonal contraceptives in the future...it's a lot of hassle in hindsight, for the sake of a risk-free fumble.